my son has been using this really high-pitched tone of voice at the end of all of his sentences. And he's doing it when he says ma-MAAAAA too. it's making me feel like bashing my head against a wall. not that i would, but it's reallllllllllllly irritating. so far, i've been trying not to make too big of a deal out of it, 'cause it's probably just some stage he's going thru, and it'll hopefully! be over soon. And sometimes, i'll repeat what he's said to me back to him in a NORMAL tone of voice!!! urrrrrrrgggggg. and, even more frustratingly....i know exactly where he got it from. one of our neighbour kids talks like this ALL the time. he's copying her. so, i'm trying to keep her away/avoid her.
okay... 1) Keeping her away from the neighbors kid... Is she a banger? Does she hit your son? Otherwise I think your being harsh and selfish. 2) Tell your kid you dont like it. My parents were always real clear and I eventually got it. 3) Hope it goes away 4) How old is he? I'm just curioius cause my dads new girlfriend has an 11 year old who wont shut up and we live in the same apartment.
he's 3 and very impressionable. he picks up behaviours from his peers all the time. there are dozens of neighbour kids around here for him to play with, so keeping him away from that one girl isnt a hardship on either one of them--you're right though, it did sound pretty harsh (oops!). if they were the only kids in the neighbourhood, i think i'd look at taking another approach. as far as telling him that i dont like it, he's still kind of at that age where if you say "dont do xyz", all he hears is blah blah xyz!!, and then he ends up doing it more. LOL. it's just one of those annoying kid things....
*blinks* Alrighty Anyways Alex (Who is 29 months old)used to do that as well. The kids downstairs are SO loud he copies them and he isnt even aloud to play with them. Needless to say Whenever I hear her do it and he copied I said it loud enough for them both to stop. I would tell alex it isnt nice to yell He pretty much stopped and only Attempts the yelling but I stop him before he even gets to that point. Frankly if you dont want that unfluence on your son I would be rid of it personally. When he is older and someone he is hanging around him does something you dont like you would tell him not to. BUT That is after you tried to tell him just because she does it doesnt mean its ok for you to do it. Then I would pretty much stop letting him hang around with her. I dont think you would be slefish or harsh......Especially since I have kids and I am very "Snobby" when it comes to who hangs around them and myself now-a-day......
If I told you that yelling is great for brain development (in young males especially) and thats one of the best things you could let him do . . . . would it still drive you nuts? cuz it is. Also, please don't DISCOURAGE young boys from: JUMPING SPINNING as these two activities activate the brain and learning as well.
really yogi? i'd never heard of that before about yelling and brain development...can you tell me where you heard that? ps, jumping and spinning are all good around here. we have a mini-trampoline in the middle of our living room
If you need any dental work done, get it done now. My son's voice used to make my teeth hurt, especially if I had even the beginning of a cavity. Gave me a banger of a headache too....just something about the decibal or frequency or something. It went away when he got older, now he just gives me an earache from a bad habit of yelling from one foot away, lol....I love the kid, but man does he put me thru pain. Good luck
I rarely if ever tell my kids they are "not allowed" to play with an other child. The only situation where I think this is applicable is when your child may be in danger, say the child's parents are abusive, or have weapons in their home. Then, I just only allow play at our house. I don't reject the child. One of my kids has Tourette's Syndrone and severe ADHD, was pretty loud and a bit odd, and has been the victim of "you aren't allowed to play with that child." IT HURTS THAT CHILD LIKE HELL, even little kids know when they are being ostracized, and often other parents in the neighborhood will follow suit and the child becomes a pariah. This is NOT a behavior (shunning innocent children) that ADULTS should be participating in. Don't say it won't hurt the shunned child. Because it does. ALL kids have irritaing things about them. You start shunning and banning kids NOW, your kid will be the one shunned in the not to distant future. Have the kids play at your house and institute a "we don't whine here" policy. It will work well. Someday YOUR child will do something irritating. I GUARRENTEE IT!!!!
Funny story about my Tourette's kid. This child was shunned by a neighbor adult, and her children were "not allowed" to play with my child. My child went through hell due to this. (I have paid for years of freaking therapy, hell, I'd like to send part of the bill to some of these parents!) Anything that went wrong in the neighborhood was blamed on my child. Once my child was at my mom's house and someone's window got broken and, of course, as they had been TRAINED by the adults, a few of the kids blamed my kid. Said they SAW the child doing it! When it was obvious that my kid wasn't even in town, things began to change. A few weeks later a bunch of kids were at our house playing some really fun stuff, and I don't kick kids out of my house, unless they get violent, (and hten it is only until the next day) but the kid of the womyn who hated my kid didn't come over because "he wasn't allowed." He tried for several hours to get his "freinds" to leave to play with him, but the kids were having too much fun. I told the child he was MORE than welcome to come over here and join in the play. But he wasn't "allowed." I felt kinda sorry for the kid, despite what he and his mama had put my baby through. His mother came over later and YELLED at ME, for "stealing" her kid's freinds. WTF? Can you own freinds? Anyway. I guess it's OK when MY kid is alone and miserable, but I should send kids AWAY from MY home. when they are having a good time, because no one wanted to play with her kid? DId I mention this womyn started buying ice cream for the entire neighborhood EXCEPT my child? Did I mention a few of OUR windows were broken that summer? Anyway. that is MY not so humble opinon of those who think their kids should shun other kids. It doesn't teach children good peaceful values. FORGIVE THE CHILD. SHE'S A CHILD! You start teaching exclusion to a three year old, you have a freaking cheerleading team or fraternity in the making.(The ultimate in Exclusionary actions and shunning behaviors. NOT what I want my kid to learn at any age.) Hell, I even let my children hang out with the children of Rebublicans, if they want to. And YOUR kid does irritating shit, too. Would you want the neighbors to start shunning YOUR baby because of some normal childish behavior? Hey, if this girl were torturing squirrels or had a gun or crack cocaine, I could understand, but shit, she's whining,for heaven's sake, kids DO that. Be a little more forgiving. I teach my kids to love everyone. JMHO.
Oooo...my favorite subject...neighbor kids with crack. In my old neighborhood the main dealer used to send out 7 year olds to sell his shit. Those kids had m-o-n-e-y too..they literally had wads of cash. I still wonder what they could spend it on at that age. The first time I myself came in contact with hard drugs I was 6 years old next to the friggin playground and the kids "smokin candy" (i seriously thought it was Candy..I was 6!) couldn't have been much older than 10. They invited me w/ them and then invited me to smoke...thankfully I was scared of fire or something at that age so I didn't try any. I never thought to tell my mom either, I mean, what's so big of a deal about kids and candy? I didn't think there was a story in it. Moral of the story.... if you ever think you're crazy for suspecting the neighborhood 6 year olds of dealing your kids crack, you may not be as crazy as you think.
OMG! No one has any crack. I was making a ludicrous example of what would make me disallow my kids from frequenting the company of other kids. As far as I know, no one's three year olds are smoking crack. The shunned child, in the first post was whining. Not smoking or dealing crack. As I tried to example, there is a difference of a couple of orders of magnitude....... Read the entire thread.
You are totally right...... I know what its like to be ignored by kids period.....If you want them to play then do it under your supervision that way its controled.....
ok, the neighbour girl was using a taunting voice, not a whiney voice--i guess that didnt come thru in type very well. she's not doing it anymore. ds isnt doing it anymore either, and i'm sure that decreasing exposure to the taunting helped him get over it. all is well. noone is ostrasized or made out to be a pariah. when my kid is doing annoying/harmful things to other kids (like when he went thru a hitting phase), i keep him away from those kids until he quits doing it. same thing here. My sis has tourettes, but she never went thru anything like what your child experienced, MS... that must have been very hurtful for you and your kid. you sounded like you were expressing a lot of your own pain in your posts on this thread. it really sucks when people are cruel to children.
You bet. It was a terribly painful time for our entire family. There is nothing more sad than seeing your child excluded, not only by the other children, but with the OK of the adults. I am SOOOO glad you were able to work this out without a ban against this little girl. Usually these behaviors are shortlived (but not always) and just letting them ride out (as long as they are't violent) is the best thing to do. I applaud your new solution and am glad your neighborhood is back on an even keel. Kids are always doing irritating things, and unless those behaviors are violent or sexual in nature, the best thing to do is to ride it out, and talk honestly with your child on how you expect them to behave. Blessings.
