I would put this in the men's forum but I'm getting shunned lol

You are on the beach and a hot little number walks by in a string bikini. She gives you a sexy glance as you are sitting there by yourself. You aren't asking for her company but she offers it anyway. You have a love fest at the beach and then you go home and share the knowledge with the one your with and she listens but isn't too thrilled. It's your relationship though, very open and it was agreed on long ago with no pressures or hang-ups. Do you think that it could work nowadays?

****Incidentally, I got the plot from the Carly Simon song. No Secrets.**** It's a great song and it makes me little sad sometimes to hear her pain.




Just in case you want to see the words.

No Secrets

(carly simon)

We have no secrets
We tell each other everything
About the lovers in the past
And why they didn’t last
We share a cast of characters from a to z
We know each others fantasies
And though we know each other better when we explore
Sometimes I wish
Often I wish
That I never knew some of those secrets of yours

The water was cold
The beach was empty but for one
Now you were lying in the sun
Wanting and needing no-one
Then some child came, you never asked for her to come
She drank a pint of your rum
And later when you told me
You aid she was a bore
Sometimes I wish
Often I wish
That I never knew some of those secrets of yours

In the name of honesty, in the name of what is fair
You always answer my questions
But they don’t always answer my prayers
And though I know you say that it’s me that you adore
Sometimes I wish
Often I wish
That I never, never, never knew
Some of those secrets of yours
Some of those secrets of yours
Some of those secrets of yours
We have no secrets
Telling each other most everything now

 

I can't attract one woman, let alone two.

 

Could? Yeah.

Always? No.

 

open relationships aren't for me

(and you aren't getting shunned, folks just think it's too ridiculous a question to answer in there I think)

 

i was gonna abreviate this but its one of those rare times where it has to be typed out....



" Rolling On The Floor, Laughing My F*ckin Ass OFF!!! "


i made the comment cuz ive tried it and NO it DOESNT...

 

Why? How is asking men what they do for fun ridiculous. I think that's how people learn about people.

 

I would never be in an open relationship like that, I would never be ok with a boyfriend sleeping with/making out with/anything at all sexual with another woman. After my boyfriend and I broke up and then got back together he said that we were going to be in an open relationship and I was like, uh call it what you want but if you do anything with someone else your ass is getting kicked all over town and then left.

 

maybe i'm selfish.. if i can't have someone all to myself.. i don't want them at all

 

I'm with you. I'm also arrogant. There is no way possible that a man could be with me and another lady. He couldn't have that much energy or the smarts to keep it from me. I'm more than enough for any man I'm give my love to and he better know it.

 

No way would I ever go for an open relationship, nor would my husband. The mere thought of me conversing innocently with the opposite sex or getting appreciate looks when we're out is enough to make his blood boil, and really, I'm the same way when it comes to him.

I mean hey, that's not to say it doesn't work for some people, but for me, no freaking way.

 

I would never involve myself in an open relationship, simply not my thing. When I'm with someone, I don't have any interest in other women. I might admire someone's beauty, but I wouldn't be interested.

Why do you pose this question just for men though? Women are just as likely to be in an open relationship or cheat as men are.

 

What about group sex?

 

No offense, but this sounds way to extreme to me. If you are really comfortable in your relationship (which it sounds like you are judging by your previous posts) why does talking with another guy make his blood boil? You obviously trust him and he trusts you. What's the problem an innocent conversation?

 

Dudes, if it is only sex we are talking about I do not see any problem. My girlfriend can fuck around as she pleases, why not?
It is only sex for gods sake. I always wondered why people are so protective about that. Jealousy? Power? Egoism? Unsecurity?

 

Hey bird, whats her number?

 

I don't know. It doesn't bother me all that much. It's not as though he'd flip out, but there are times when I know he's felt threatened due to attention I get.

 

sex mean's different things to different people. What works for you may not work for other people. There's no right or wrong here and there doesn't have to be a reason behind one's choices. I'm a monogamous person and it has nothing to do with any of the things you've listed.

 

Absolutely, I agree 100%!

 

Are you sure about that?

 

That's why I'm ignoring your from now on!