My girlfriend hates my feet; what do you think?

My girlfriend hates my feet, and my barefoot lifestyle. I was just wondering what other people though of both my feet and my barefoot lifestyle?

 

I say ditch the girl, keep the feet.

 

I don't think that my feet are anything spectacular, or pretty really, but that doesn't stop me from running around with them bare! The heck with what anyone else thinks, if you want to show them, show them!

 

Could it be that she hates feet in general? Does she herself wear sandals or go barefoot? What exactly does she not like about your feet? I see nothing wrong with them.

 

Thanks, they look fine to me too, but I’ve started to get self conscious about them. My girlfriend wears sandals, but rarely goes barefoot. She hates the fact that I go barefoot all the time. She says my feet look like a girls, and my toe nails are freakishly little. I’m a serious barefooter, and only wear shoes when I absolutely have to. When I’m barefoot outside she tells me I’m going to get hookworm. She says it’s a small thing to ask me to wear shoes, but for me giving up going barefoot is a big deal.

 

Thanks, I’ve always felt the same way about my feet, nothing special, but far from ugly. I like to bare them, so I do.

 

Why would you want to be with someone who repeatedly challenges and / or refuses to understand something that you consider important? Why would you want to be with someone who makes a big deal over something as trivial as being barefoot?

And the answer probably is: because I'm getting laid....

 

Tell your girlfriend straight that you are who you are, if she doesn't accept you just because of some little thing over your feet, then you might as well ditch her.

 

Your feet look fine to me.

 

I'm sorry, but her talk is all a big flapdoodle. Just for the hell of it, what does she think of you when (if) you wear sandals? Is this OK w/ her, even though your feet still show, or is she the only one "OK" to do it? See, I have a hard time with double standards, so I just wanted to rule that out before going further!

Same with me, man, about my feet. I'm over 50 and some think there's a feminine look to them, and some have said they look like boy feet. I'm fine with either characterization. My feet are small for a man 6 ft plus. I sometimes lament my short toes, but my feet are tan and I show them all the time. You should too. Again, I'm curious about the "rules" between you and her about sandals or flops.

 

That has incredible power over us guys. I recall, with horror, when I allowed it to "own" me, long ago. Maybe it works in reverse, too. But I think it is a problem with some of us dudes. Another thing to think about, that's for sure.

 

Thanks for your comments, she’s really doesn’t like me to wear sandals or flip flops. She has three issues with my feet. One, that they are embarrassingly ugly. Two, she gets embarrassed because I go into public places barefoot. Three, she’s a clean freak, and hates my feet being dirty.

 

I suspect it's #2 and #3; your feet aren't ugly, but people who are embarrassed by bare feet in public would find your feet ugly no matter what they looked like. When someone's embarrased about something, they generally think negatively about it.

Best you can do is set her mind at ease about stuff like hookworm and other dangers. You can compromise in wearing shoes sometimes, but don't stop going barefoot altogether if it's important for you. Changing who you truly are & what's important to you for someone else is very hard to keep up; on the same token, don't expect her to truly change. However I have found people can get over embarrassment, it's usually based on fear of what others will say and _may_ get better when they notice most people don't say a thing. It'll depend how deep her fear/embarrassment is ingrained.

 

I was afraid of that. I remember a time in the early 70s when it was "OK" for girls to wear sandals, but not us guys. That, and shorts. I've fought these infernal double standards all my life, and don't relish doing it again. When it's double standard, it's winnable. I don't see how anyone can hold to a view like that. At the very minimum, both should be free to do the same thing.

I'm a clean freak, too. To a point. My feet are washed by the water I work in or near, or the garden hose, several times a day. The dirty sole thing doesn't do it for me, like it seems to for most others. So, while I might agree with her about being clean, I'm concerned that you have a serious control freak on your hands. This will cause problems in other areas, later, if you stay together. I guess you could focus on the tops of your feet, which tend to stay clean, and if they tan up some, that helps. And I think you could try anklets or toe rings, to sort of "ratify" or "declare" the bare lifestyle. But the few control freaks in my life don't like those things, either. They'll just have to start getting used to it, is my attitude.

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Another thing. And you can see I really don't get control freaks. My shorts used to draw a lot more attention than they do now. I think they're getting used to it! One coolish spring day, when I was buying plants in a steamy greenhouse, another customer expressed horror at my shorts in such "cold" weather. It was 50F outside, and over 80F inside. For once I got it right. I said, "the weather is fine for me, and I DON'T wait for permission from anyone to wear shorts instead of longs." She did NOT like this bit of being stood up to, AT ALL. She went silent, but I saw the look of hate. As I say, control freaks may be impossible to understand. BTW, I wear shorts year round, and this is Maine.

 

I don't agree with the poll options. It has nothing to do with "great, show them all the time". It's not about exposing your feet because they're good-looking or not exposing them because they're not. I think they look good, but this is not the point. Your feet are OK just because they're YOUR feet, and wanting to be barefoot is a life style, a way of life.

 

Good point, the poll options shouldn’t have included a reference to going barefoot, but was only intended as a rating of the physical appearance of my feet.

 

Thanks for you comments. A controlling personality is at the source of this issue.

 

I'm sorry, and I wish you very well. Please let us know how things go for you, my friend.

 

I think you have adorable feet, and I am sorry about all of that. I wish you the all the best in the world.

 

Thank you for your very nice complement, It means a lot.