What should I do to keep myself busy until September?

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by chris_1661, Jun 15, 2006.

  1. MikeE

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    Professional mechanics know that a clean floor and organized tools help a lot, so they clean their own floors and organize their own tools.

    Just and observation. From your posts:
    1)It seems that there is a decent sized list of things that you are unwilling to do.
    2)You are also bored.

    These two things are connected.
     
  2. nightwriter

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    Asperger's can be rough to deal with. I'd like to commend Chris 1661 for recognizing a potential difficulty in his life and reaching out to this "community" for advice.

    Here's a question, Chris 1661, if you could be doing anything in the world for the next 72 hours, what would it be? PM if you want and we can talk about this more.
     
  3. chris_1661

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  4. ihmurria

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    almost everyone starts off with crap jobs
    it's the way of the world
     
  5. Kinky Ramona

    Kinky Ramona Back by popular demand!

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    Ihmurria speaks very true words...I spent my entire first year out of high school searching for a job that didn't completely suck and have come to the conclusion that we middle-class people have to carry the crap on our shoulders first. You've got to start somewhere and you will never have the fortune of starting at the top. Why don't you give it a whirl? It'll save you a lot of boredom and lonliness and you might actually make some friends.
     
  6. chris_1661

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  7. Gypsy_girl

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    Well if you're to shy to go and approach them, you could always send them an email, that way you don't have to speak directly to them. Just enquire and see what they say. Other suggestions are join a new club with a hobby you're really passionate about, take up another new hobby, read, write, whatever you enjoy doing creatively etc, start up a new sport, or like the others said, get a part-time job. All those suggestions will both be a cure for your bordom, and a way to meet new people.

    Good luck!
     
  8. STON3R

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    This guy is a lost cause
     
  9. chris_1661

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  10. nightwriter

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    ...Imagine a world where we thought before we spoke (wrote) and if our words were meant to hurt we kept them to ourselves and instead only gave forth of ourselves that which would help others.

    I"m not there yet, but I"m trying.
     
  11. icedteapriestess

    icedteapriestess linguistic freak

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    Ah... but you see... sometimes a little hurt is the only way to get through to people. Chris doesn't listen to nice posts.. he ignores them. Says "I would... but...." and then comes up with an excuse. Its his thing... his modus operandi. Have you read any of his other threads? Some people have been trying to help him for a long time only to hear nothing but lame excuse after lame excuse.... we are now trying the "tough love" approach. Read the other threads... you will understand the frustration.
     
  12. nightwriter

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    I have read some of the other threads. Chris definitely does not seem very happy.
    And it is frustrating to try to help someone who is not ready to help him/herself. When you beat on someone that already feels down, rarely will you have success. Instead it only validates that person's only low opionion of him/herself.

    For instance, calling an abused wife stupid for not leaving her husband won't help her make changes in her life. It would only make her feel like she is unworthy and therefore withdraw further into herself.

    I have seen some very kind and loving people on these forums who genuinely want to help make the world a better place. Sadly, I have also seen some who ooze negativity and whose basic attitude on happiness seems to be 'if I can't be happy, why should anyone else...the world sucks.'

    the negative energy spills out of the posts with such a vehemence that I wonder when these poor souls have last heard someone tell them, "I love you" or gotten a hug...

    as far as tough love, it definitely has a place in this world! Far too many take and take and get so used to taking that they forget how to give...I think this is a situation where confidence building needs to happen before anything else will be successful.

    Have a happy day!
     
  13. icedteapriestess

    icedteapriestess linguistic freak

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    So, I'll check back in a month? When you start beating your head against the wall, we will be there to say "whoa... ease up.. we've been there".
     
  14. nightwriter

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    Wow...you think it will take me an entire month to get frustrated! I'll take that as a compliment.

    As I've gotten older, my patience with others has grown. I finally learned that you can't save someone from him/herself and that it will just drive you nuts.

    I do a lot of work with special ed students and have seen what time and perserverance can accomplish for kids. Adults take even more time since you have to cut through all the baggage that has been accumulated over the years.

    Thank you for taking the time to communicate with me on this issue. I'm sure someday I'll quit believing that I can save the world, but until then I"ll keep plugging away...one person at a time.

    Smiles and Hugs
     
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