Privacy invasion

Do you snoop through your partner's things?

Have you ever read their diray / email / letters?

 

i did that once...(mostly because he told me daily not to ever read his emails)
and i was so ashamed of myself,
that i won't ever do it again...

 

anyone that secretive has something to hide lol I would have too

 

Hahaha exactly!
And although I was ashamed of actually looking at his email,
I'm glad i did it too!
I just won't date anyone that secretive anymore

 

Dont look for what you dont want to find, I just showed the door to a female cause her not so smart meth habbit run amuck cause when I casually put my hand in her front pocket for other reasons then to search got me her stash for the second time, she was like "Oh I thought I left it at home instead of my pocket", well not in my house and for the second time I dumped it in the sink with hot water and she says Im the one who fucked up a good thing, RIGHT!

 

*nosy* why, what did you find?


I never have, but all of my partners have been trustworthy so far

 

Yes, I have done it.

 

I don't think I would, I think I would just be up front(and/or act on) about my suspicions

 

not really. anything I found was while I was cleaning his shit for him and it wasn't serious. but i have never looked for shit with that intent.

Peace and love

 

I dont necessarily mean out of suspicion of infidelity or untrustworthyness. I mean out of curiosity too

 

no, never

I have accidentally opened his emails that came to our joint email account, and then just forwarded them to his personal email. I'd be bored to tears reading about motorcycles all day long... I wouldn't really mind if he read my emails, but that just isn't how our relationship works. we trust each other. If I suspected infidelity, reading his emails and going through his personal things wouldn't be on my list of things to do. I'm one of those in-your-face kinda people, I'd confront him with it head on, maybe after packing his things and changing the locks.

 

Just once....when I borrowed my ex's laptop (when we were together), and my curiosity got the best of me, and I looked at a couple of her Word documents.

NEVER NEVER NEVER will I ever make that mistake again, that did NOT go well for me...

 

What did you find? If you don't mind me asking.

 

if it's out of curiousity, can you not just ask?

 

loveletters to and nudepics of almost every girl in town and pics of me he'd sent to his friends, he'd been dating other girls too, and we said we shouldnt.
i'm not against open relationships at all, but don't go fucking other people and keep it a secret to me.

 

All I did actually was look at some school notes she typed up, because I was curious what she was doing in that class at the time (I had taken it before). If it was something I knew well, I was actually going to offer to help her with it.

 

I have, but don't consider it "snooping" because I told him to never have anything on the computer that he didn't want me to see. I am the one that maintains the computer, so it's not hard to find things that don't belong even when not looking for "evidence".

My husband is welcome to read my email or check pictures and documents any time he wants to as I have nothing to hide.

 

I don't.

As for mine,
unless advanced specific permission had been given
a serious 'talk' would be warranted.

 

No, neither of us have.

 

Hmmm... I have nothing to hide right now, and I have told my boyfriend that he can read my journals if he wants since most of it is about him anyway. I thought maybe it would help him to understand me better. But he has always declined, saying that those are my own private personal thoughts, and that I was probably upset when I wrote them and that it would be a bad idea if he got that deep into my psyche. Of course we've been together for over 5 years, so he knows me and can predict pretty much what will anger me, etc. However, when I was married to my ex, I kept the same types of journals (of course they were filled with the fact that I hated my ex and was completely miserable and I was thinking about cheating on him, but that is neither here nor there). But no matter what I did, he read them. And I asked him to respect my privacy and not read them. Then he tried to burn them. He was psycho. I should have known that he was no good if I had to get a locked box to keep my freakin journals in. (which he broke in to). I'm so glad that I can leave my journal out anywhere now and know that it is safe.

We know each other's passwords for email, but I don't see any reason for us to use them. I never have. Even after he told me he was emailing his ex (this was years ago) to get "closure". If i were to suspect cheating or something, I'd just ask him about it. I have asked him why a particular girl was calling at 3 am before, and I've also put a stop to that as well simply by explaining how it made me feel. You have to have trust in your relationship though.

He knows that I check the internet history sometimes though, just to see where he has been.

I have also snooped his receipts to see what he has bought me for Christmas too. (I'm so freakin nosey!!) But that was specifically my intention, I wanted to see if he got me an MP3 player because if he had not I was going to get one from work with my discount.