disregard for me or who he is?

Nah ya got me wrong I like really strong guys and I'm not going to tell anyone what to do but because I am like that i will only be with people who I don't have to tell what to do. I don't want to change anyone or cut their balls off-that's why I'm so picky because I refuse to nag or bitch at somone, it never makes for a good relationship. They can choose to have a relationship with me or not but not screwing up. I'm not going to nag I'm just not going to be with them if they aren't there for me or if they are immature.

 

It's nice that you're honest. That's refreshing. And it seems like you have a lot going for you. So I guess for you crossed legs and fun times can coexist.



Now about that guys - well, I would say you are being naive.



But think about it, let's say a guy really does like your company. He truly enjoys being around you; making conversation, laughing at your jokes, making you laugh, etc.



Isn't the next reasonable step...well the next step?

And I guess the difference is, for girls, it can take several dates to feel out if a guy is being sincere or not while hanging out. Which makes perfect sense; somehow it's been deemed that when two people have sex, the girl is giving up more than the guy. I guess it goes back to the fact that a girl who has a lot of partners is considered a whore while a guy is just a player.


So, you are giving up more than the guy. And in that light, you are perfectly justified to wait until you see a serious relationship forming. Good luck, I hope you find him soon.

 

Maybe she can give the lazy boyfriend meth and he will get more work done faster.

 

thanks me too I know it's just gonna get harder with age. the more people I date the pickier I get because I think 'well he did that for me and this guys not'...dating is kinda like that show deal or no deal...kinda hard to tell if you're going to find one who loves you more and treats you better than the last.

 

ohhh I shouldn't be laughing at that but I can't help it because it's so funny

 

I'm like a guilty pleasure, huh?

 

I'd be careful with that attitude.

Of course you should learn from every relationship you've been in. Otherwise, it truly was a waste of time.

But I wouldn't recommend comparing everyone you date to your past relationships. I mean, it's really unfair to the guy. Every guy you've dated surly has one sparkling quality with a bunch of bad ones. And the new guy won't be able to live up to that one quality even though he may be better overall.

I would try to take it one guy at a time. When you breakup with someone, consider it a clean break. You lived, you learned, and you got smarter. But I would try to picture the next guy as a clean slate. No comparisions. Everyone stands on their own merit.

Otherwise, you'll be stuck waiting for someone who is better at everything that everyone you ever dated.

And trust me, that guy doesn't exist.

 

That is excellent advice thank you

 

ok...maybe you didn't read what i said carefully. i'm talking about things I've ASKED him to do and he said YES

my placenta is partially separated which puts me at a high risk for preterm labor. Lifting heavy stuff would not be a good thing so I ask him to help. I don't think I'm being unreasonable considering that I am pregnant with his son.

 

I say never. I think we are supposed to find somebody who's bullshit we can deal with

 

That's a little pessimistic. Although it sounds like you're having a rough day.
So that explains it.

 

*Ahem* I resent that remark, thank you.

 

why again? what's the point of finding somone if your life dimishes rather than inhances?

 

How about... no one is perfect but a good partner is someone whose imperfections you can deal with.

I think a relationship needs to add to your life...if it takes away then it is not going to be a happy one.