Hurting people.

I truly despise and hate hurting people. Seems that I have hurt someone really bad and I feel like shit. I dont ever feel like meeting anyone knew or anything cause I can't stand when I hurt people.

 

From time to time we hurt people and get hurt. Sometimes on purpose sometimes not. It's the way of things. Doesn't make it any easier, but it is reality. If we learn from it then we can turn it into a positive. And never be too proud to say "I'm sorry".

 

Good words of wisdom there ol' man.

 

Yeah, I know he's right and I've known that for a long time, but it still hurts to hurt people.

 

You'll hurt somebody more by refusing to dance with them then you ever would by stepping on their toes.

 

same here i dont like hurting people i always get that feeling of guilt

 

Trish-Than don't hurt him! Hurt the man who hurt you and leave.

 

i was thinking something like that...

 

Stop telling me what to do... with all respect. I have hurt Dan much more then he has hurt me. We have both made mistakes but we love each other and we always untimatly stick together. I can GUARANTEE that there are things Dan has put up with that no one else would.

 

Trish, the fact that it hurts you to hurt others shows a kind and warm heart.

 

I very much agree with that!

I know what you mean about hurting people. I never get close to people because I am both afraid of them hurting me and also of me hurting them. The guy I am sort of seeing told me how his past 3 relationships caused him so much pain and how much he was hurt by them. So now I am scared of hurting him too.

But yeah, it is impossible to go through life without causing pain to others. I wish this wasn't the case, but I believe that it is.

 

okay I respect that- but let me say one last thing. You allow yourself to do what you do because Dan puts up with it. In my never to be humble opinion it sounds like he is enabeling you. In a way that is abuse because he is allowing you to not evolve in some aspects so you will have to stay with him because you don't want to change or feel like it would be too much work. Whether you go with Jeremy or you go by yourself you know you will not be able to mantain the same patterns and change is scary. But him keeping you down and enabeling you is not unconditional love or acceptance- it is abusive.

 

Well, you make it sound like he tells me what to do. i go away all the time without him. he does not care. he pretty much "lets" me do whatever i want unless it's bad for me and even then... I ALWAYS WIN. he just got angry a few times.

he's a great guy though and im tiring of defending him. i love him.

 

well,

like i said, do what you need to do.

 

You are an awesome person. Never forget that. I care about you a lot and I'll always be here in one way or another like I've said. *hugs*

 

And yet another chapter to add to the drama.
This is better than any television soap.

 

I know... I try really hard. I find drama funny even though I avoid it in real life.

 

I need some drama in real life too, all this happiness is getting boring.

 

Yeah, me too I suppose. I get bored VERY easily. or should i say "other people make me bored easily... i never make myself bored though"... it's weird. im NEVER bored while alone.

 

well i love you and i want whats best for you