Stop me before I'm stupid.

Discussion in 'Coming Out and Confused!' started by pianoperson60, Jul 1, 2006.

  1. pianoperson60

    pianoperson60 Senior Member

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    I need someone to slap me across the face before I'm stupid.
    You probably wonder what I'm talking about- well here it goes:
    I'm starting to get a crush on this guy, but I'm pretty sure he's not gay or bisexual. I mean, he hasn't ever shown signs of NOT being gay or bisexual (he doesn't comment on girls), but at the same time the chances of someone being gay (especially when you want them to be) is so slim.
    I'm trying not to get a crush on him, but it's not really working, and it's annoying, because I know he's probably just one of those "really friendly" straight guys.
    Hmmmmmmmmm. I'm dumb.
     
  2. CrazybutLazy

    CrazybutLazy Banned

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    *Slaps face*

    You can't really stop yourself from having a crush on someone, so there's not much you can do about that. You should ask around and see if there are any rumors that he might be gay or bi-sexual if you are really interested in a relationship with him.
     
  3. mushie18

    mushie18 Intergalactic

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    Yeah, I've been going through a similiar experience for the past five monthes.

    It sucks, he knows i'm gay. He just doesn't know that I like him.

    Oh well.
     
  4. pianoperson60

    pianoperson60 Senior Member

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    ugh its annyoing
     
  5. JI G

    JI G Member

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    lol...same thing for me...and dam hes cute...
    but...idk.. he jokes about being gay and he doesnt talk about girls....so IDK... i really doubt that he is gay.....
     
  6. mushie18

    mushie18 Intergalactic

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    ...just a little
     
  7. txbarefooter

    txbarefooter Senior Member

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    nope won't slap you ... what you feel is normal. I've had and still have them, it blows big time but I get over it.

    as crazy suggested, you could check around and see if someone knows/thinks he's gay. umm I'd use caution about who/how I asked because it could cause problems.
     
  8. SageDreamer

    SageDreamer Senior Member

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    If you need a slap, we all need a slap.

    My experience is that most of my crushes go away sooner or later.
     
  9. pianoperson60

    pianoperson60 Senior Member

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    alright, so here's the deal. he says taht he has pretended to be gay to piss people off, and to cause commotion, and that he kids around about it. he's never said taht he ISN'T gay, he's never stopped to say "but I'm striaght", but he's made references to ex-girlfriends, but then again I guess if one wanted one could emphasize the fact that they are EX-girlfriends.
    whatever. I guess I'll find out sooner or later. We've been hanging out lately.
    Cheers
     
  10. amp7325

    amp7325 Visitor

    I'm in a slightly similar situation... a crush is developing, and I'm trying to stop it, because this person is a fairly good friend of mine, and he doesn't know that I'm gay, and I know nothing could ever happen. It sucks. I'm pretty sure you don't need to be told not to get your hopes up. Good luck. :)
     
  11. CrazybutLazy

    CrazybutLazy Banned

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    I have a really, really good straight friend and he claims he is homophobic although he never makes anti-gay insults or comments. I have a SLIGHT physical attraction to him, but just this past week I realized that I had a real emotional attraction to him. We were outside all alone, watching fireworks... and I've never wanted to just put my arm around someone so bad before. I've never wanted to just cuddle with someone like that... and it can never happen.
     
  12. JI G

    JI G Member

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    he may be lieing to himself cause he is in denial about himself being gay....thats why he is saying hes homophobic....or he is gay and wants to make sure others dont think he is....
     
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