A kind of long story, but I need some feedback...

As some of you here may know, I met my bf on here in Nov. '04 & we've been together since. He's 52 & lives in London. Our problems are:he's married & has no work as he lives off his wife & mother's money. Anyway, I went to a concert on May 13th & fell head over heels for the lead singer/guitarist. He's everything I've ever wanted in a guy(& then some)& have been looking for for years:
1)He's around my age
2)English
3)Talented & creative (as he's in a band)
4)Sweet as can be
5)Thoughtful (he picked up my checkbook when I dropped it w/o any hesitation or being asked to do it)
5)Single
6)A sence of humor
7)Not much taller than me
And when I tried to get a pic w/him like 3 times, he put his arm around my waist & his cheek right against mine each time(swoon). Unfortunately, NONE came out! There's been lots of weird coincidences as well:
1)we both were wearing a red shirt (yeah, I know, but any of the other 3 guys in the band could've worn 1 or we could've each worn a different color right? And how weird is it that it was red-the color of love & passion?)
2)He's everything I've always wanted & then some
3)He's the 1st guy I've thought as perfect for me
4)When I prayed & wished that they'd add more dates, not only did they add 4 more, but 2 are in the LA area!
5)At the show, when my friend & I asked when they were coming back, he said "July, late July I think." I said, "right around my b-day Aug. 6th!" He then smiled & said "See, we planned it just for your birthday!" And what do u know, they're playing the Street Scene in San Diego on Aug. 4th!
6)The 1st thought in my head when he spoke beetween 1 song & the next was "God, I could marry this guy." A few days ago, I was on their myspace page & wouldn't u know, they posted a new pic & of all the places they could pose in front of, they're posed in front of a bridal gown/tux shop!
7)Even looks wise, I think we'd make a good couple (though that's only my opinion lol).
Now, the question is, am I nuts or is there a possibility something is going on here? And should God & luck be w/me & we get together, how on earth do I tell my bf? I mean, we love each other dearly, but I don't think we're going anywhere & I want to be w/this guy more than anything in the world. Yes I know he's in a band & I probably haven't a shot in hell, but I feel like this time-something's going to happen & so what if he's in a band...at the end of the day, we're both just people right? Anyway, I'll leave it at that. Let the posting begin.

 

You're building it up waaaaaaaaaay too much in your head
coincidences do not a relationship make
especially if you're currently dating someone else

 

Sounds like your chasing a life for all the right reasons but all the wrong people and that leads to short lived happiness and a long life of regret but no matter, wish ya the best of luck.

 

what the hell is wrong with you?

 

I've been in a similar situation as yours, MB. A couple years ago, I became quite infatuated with a very talented musician. Since I'm a musician myself, I tried to contact her saying we should do some collaboration in the future. I'd just been working on a piece for her band to play at the time, too. I pretty much thought this might have a potential of turning into something more and she and I just might become close. I managed to get a reply from her in which she showed interest in my proposition. Nevertheless, nothing happened.

However, that is not to say it would never work out for YOU, either. One thing is clear: you never know. You have to keep in mind, though, that musicians DO have a tendency to be nice to their fans. I would know, as I am one myself. So you can try and pursue this thing with the guy, but you must always be aware of the risks involved. I hate to say this, but the chance of this not working is greater than the counterpart. Keep that in mind.

All the best!

 

Stop idelaising your perfect bf, and you'll find the perfect one for you!

 

Yeah sorry to say this but I agree with the majority of posters here. He was probably just being friendly. My advice to you is:

1. Break up with your bf as it's obvious you're not happy in the relationship and I do'nt blame you with him being married and all.

and:

2. Go to more gigs and get to know the guys in the band and see what happens from there but honestly from what you've said, you're reading far to much into this and I think part of the reason this guy looks so appealing to you is because you're unhappy with your current situation with the bf.

 

Kind of sounds like your over reacting to the guitar player. But who am I to talk their your feelings. But if your b/f is 52 married living in englad or london married and has no job and lives off his mommie and his "wife". Well deffinitly leave umm your boyfriend and go ahead a persu the guy of your dream.

 

Ummm. I really don't mean this to sound rude or mean at all, but I think you could benefit from some professional help.

It just sounds like you are on your way to a string of unhealthy unhappy relationships.

 

Thanx to all who've replied! I'm not looking for validation for my thoughts & or feelings, I'm purely looking for opinions. I've been split in half over my feelings for the new guy-half thinking I am indeed insane & that it'll never happen, the other trying to be positive that anything could happen. Bah, I'm just going to do my best to forget it. It really will drive me nuts if I don't. If it's meant to happen, it will I guess. Nothing more I can do about it anyway right?