It's really hard for me to get along with people, as i have a very weird personality. I am a kind of person who isn't comfortable in presence of lots of people, i'd rather stick to one person and become really close friends. When i met her, i never actually thought we could be friends. She was just too different from me. But we became friends. Really close friends. We started sharing secrets and stuff. Called each other by phone all the time. We must've talked about every little thing in the world! We talked about our families, friends,racism, argued about religion, gossiped, talked about future, made up crazy stories, laughed at each other and made stupid jokes all the time. We analysed and discussed every situation we were in, and solved our problems together. Every day i would think about new things i will telll her when i call. We even told each other things we've never told any1 before. She was like my...sister... Then we went to different schools. We kept on calling each other, but i felt that we wern't as close as before. Instead of support, sharing and jokes, our new conversations contained just making fun and bragging, mostly from her side. Sometimes we would still have those warm soul-mate talks, like the last time when i called her. She didnt call me anymore. She had lots of new friends, and every time i called her, she wasn't home. She never called back. I can't explain in words how much i loved her ( as a friend, of course) and how much i cared, but i saw that this friendship was slowly fading away. It's been a long time since i talked to her. I have new friends, but none of them are as understanding, caring, funny and weird like her. I think i will never have such a good friend again. And i have no way to contact her because she moved and her email address isn't working anymore. I thought i would forget this, but i can't. And now, when i go shopping with my new friends and would remember an old joke me and her used to laugh at, i get really sad when they don't understand or think it's stupid. I would just shut up and listen to their weird talk about things i don't care of, and think how much more fun i would have had, if instead of these jerks, she was right here. Help! How can i forget her?? This is killing me!
I've been in your shoes, Mermaid. I'm a weirdo myself, and I know what it's like to feel alone and detached from the rest of the world. Over the years, I've become increasingly selective as to what kind of people I want to have as my CLOSE friends. There are a number of friends with whom I used to be very close, but we've since grown apart. We still talk, but it isn't often. Not to say they are bad people, however. They are still great people, and they are still my friends. It's just that we are not as close. Like the name of this thread, friends DO come and go. Some will be good people, some schmucks. Either case, it may take a while to really determine whether or not somebody really is your true friend. But true friends also have a way of popping into your life when you least expect it. And they stick with you forever, if not physically all the time. On the other hand, if this friend of yours no longer bothers to contact you, she just wasn't a lifetime friend. I've met such people myself. They are great people, but they just come and go. You don't really have control over them, whether or not you wish them to stay. As for your current friends... Well, if you don't feel connected to them, then you don't have to force yourself to. They can be your acqaintances and keep you company at such-and-such times. If they become your true friends in the future, great. If not, don't fret. Friends are hard to come by, after all. Doesn't life suck for us oddballs at times? LOL
I'm the opposite. A good friend is a friend for life, even if you don't talk for six months a year or five, you're still friends. maybe its a guy thing.
I am the same exact way. I find it a obstacle to find cool buddies or atleast somewhat like-minded. Your situation really sucks along with mine.
Hmm... I guess it all depends on what someone considers a friend. I had a friend who I always hung out with every day we went to the gym then we went to drunk bingo. Fun times. We went to concerts together, got lost in ghetto Camden, etc. However, her boyfriend was a jerk and he wouldn't let her do some things and she didn't have her own means to do much without him. And for some reason she liked being stuck up his ass. Anyway, we grew apart because of him. Found out later that she got rid of him and found a new guy and was getting married. Still, it wasn't the same anymore and we have since lost touch. I think she comes on Aim sometimes and I suppose I could find her if I really wanted to, but I just keep the pictures and the memories of someone who had a positive impact on my life. I made a lot of new friends this year through people that I know and I am very happy for that. While some are closer than others, I just take it as it comes. I am getting ready to move away from all of my good friends and we have had the best time of my life this past year. We are planning trips with the group of us and stuff, but again I know that we will not be as close because we won't share as much like going out for half price nachos every Tuesday, but I also know I'm going to make new friends and have new traditions. Hope you feel better about losing your friend. You will make new ones.
Nope Im the same way. But It kind of sounds like you guys got to much of a good thing. Calling each other everyday probley was too much. I don;t even call my bestfriend everyday. And well having friends is part of life, although you have other friends does not mean that she didn't care about you. I knwo I would get annoyed if someone called me everyday. No offence. But don;t worry you'll move on and find otehr friends. Good luck.
Yeah every day, I don't know if I could handle that either at this point in life when I have so much other important stuff going on. Back when I had nothing better to do, then sure it was great! But I have a friend who I see maybe 2 times a year. I've known her longer than I've known my boyfriend. I met her at an old job we worked together. She lives about 50 miles away so we don't see each other much. But we've kept in touch for like 7 years now. We email probably once a month (real emails not jokes) and call once every 3 or 4. Just to catch up you know. Then we have girl's night out two times a year. I'm going to her wedding in 2 weeks and I'm going to be the only one of her "friends" there. So, we are good friends, even if we don't see each other that often.
This reminded me of my old friend i had once.... The story is exactly the same, so i won't go into details.... People change... And sometimes it is best to leave it at that.... I know she thinks of me as often as i do on her... But it would never be same again... I feel sorry about it though....
