how is your relationship with your ex(s)??

I was going to make a poll or something about "are you still talk to your ex" or "are you still friends with your ex" or "how do you deal with you ex"... oh well... you know what I mean....

 

I only talk to two of my many ex's now...
One from 6 years ago and the other from soon to be 2 years. I dont think anything good really comes from being friends with an ex. You two had feelings and normally a woman wont break it off til it dwindles down to nothing, or if you break up with her she isn't too happy and wants to forget about you. The 6 years was mutual and only 2 months and the girl from 2 years ago I walked out on and disappeared til a year ago and if you ask me she hated me until we randomly met one day and chatted a bit.

Recent ex...don't do it, it'll just make things shittier. Trust me

 

It varies with each of them. Several I will never see again due to relocation and one due to suicide. One I will never speak to again because she was a mega-bitch.
I keep in touch with two ex's on a regular basis - one because she is my son's mom, one because she just always seems to be in town at the same time as I am and it would be rude to ignore her.
One ex I write to about once or twice a year - don't know why because we never say much to each other but it is nice to check each other's ok.

 

after getting over my anger with them.. i'm friends with most..


a handful i couldn't care less what has happened to them

 

Out of the last five-
Two I haven't seen hide nor tail of since.
Two I speak to as friends on a regular enough basis...
The last, my husband..We're still friends, but we really don't go out of our way to speak with each other.

 

Out of the + or - 100 or so I only still talk to 3 or 4.

 

I speak to 3 of them....
Number 1 ( 2.5 years ago): still trying something every now and then....
Number 2 (3.5 years ago): i can't define that.... More or less friendship.... We talk every now and then... (basically once or twice a week)
number 3 (almost 4 years ago): really good friend, i'd really hate to lose him....

 

Well I have only had 2 boyfriends. My first one we went out twice...Hes still on my MSN list be we never talk. Not be cause we have grudges against each other its just we have nothing in common at all. My 2nd boyfriend .... we still talk but not to much its usually just hey whats up. Nothing more than that, cause he has attendacy to piss and moan.

 

depends on the chick. if i was an asshole, i usually cut my losses and run. if i genuinely cared about them, we remain friends. i hang out with some of them a lot

 

Considering that a lot of my relationships were jokes anyway, I can say that I am friends with a few of my ex's. I had a one night stand with one of them (six months after we broke up). Well, honestly, it was two one night stands. haha.

Of the most serious of my boyfriends, i am having trouble getting over him. I want to forget him but can't get him off of my mind and I haven't spoken to him since we've broken up. (a couple months ago)

About a handful of them i never heard from or seen again. Which is cool. Don't really want to know what they're fucking up with now.

 

Nonexistent.

As far as I Know all but my Children's biological mother
have vanished from the Earth's surface
having gone straight to Hell...

 

that is sooooo true....... I think you mean "Don't really want to know who are they fucking right now".

 

ex what exactly? I have had quite a few "friends with benefits" and I was married, and that is about it. The friends with benefits people, well, it was just like we stopped calling each other when we both got into serious relationship, no hard feelings, just like "see I'm kinda dating someone that I really like and want to be exclusive with, so it isn't a good idea if we fuck anymore ok". Then we just wouldn't talk as much anymore, and now it is to the point where I have no idea where any of them are, but quite frankly don't really care. I mean I hope they are happy and doing well, but it really isn't my concern.

As far as my ex husband... well, I never loved him to begin with, that is a long story. At the end of our relationship, I didn't hate him or anything, I just couldn't deal with him and had no respect for him. Almost no feelings at all. Yeah I'm a cold bitch, so deal with it. I mean I wasn't angry at him or anything, he was just not on my level in life and never would be so I couldn't be with him. After the day we signed divorce papers and moved out I never saw him or heard from him or anyone in his family. And the crazy shit is that I live in a townhouse that backs right up to his mother's neighborhood. It is odd that none of us have ever crossed paths again. Like the others, I don't wish any ill will toward him or anything, I hope he is perfectly happy drunk in his trailer somewhere delivering pizzas for a living, voting for Bush, just like he always wanted.

I guess I'm just the type to cut ties and move on. No messy break ups or anything, but don't see the need to remain friendly with these people. Especially if we weren't really friendly to begin with. Guess my case is different from most though.

 

I don't talk to x's anymore. There's a reason they're x's. The only exception I make is the mother of my children. And that's only because I call her house to speak to my children. Otherwise, I wouldn't talk to her at all. I find that broken relationships break for a reason. Looking back at my x's, could we still be friends? Maybe...but I doubt it. Would it ever be a good idea? Absolutely not.

 

It can be a good idea, if you're friends. I've learned what a few of my more obnoxious traits are, at the very least.
You know, like how I have a tendency to just blurt out what I'm actually thinking.

 

if we are talking about ex's that we had an actually relationship with & not just 1-nighters.
I claim more 1-nighters then I do ex's but I don't talk to any of them now.

 

I think that this is a great quality in people. It's hard to find people who will tell you what's really on their mind. And to me, that's a huge turn-off. But I don't feel I can learn more from them (my x's). What they had to say, they said already.

 

Fair enough. *salutes*

 

*salutes* back. And winks.

 

I think I have learned from everyone. Mostly from my ex I learned a lot about myself like that I was better than what I was settling for and that I don't have anything to prove to anyone, that I'm smart and I could be doing better with my life etc. It actually gave me a lot of self esteem. Sorry it was at his expense, but it was what it was and I had to learn. I'm the type who has to learn things the hard way. Now I know better though. Once you have been to the bottom, where you are doesn't seem so bad. So when I think my life sucks I just think of where I would be if I had stayed with that loser. I think of how far I've come. See, learning experience. hehehe. I'm still a cold bitch.