what do you make of this dream I had of my girlfriend?

It was probably one of the most emotional dreams I have ever had.

I had a dream she died in a car crash. It was a dream much worse than any nightmare. It really shook me up. I am still recovering now as I type. Its the type of dream that really resonates. She died in the car with..I think it was my friends brad and matt..or two other boys..and two other girls I know. It was unbearable in the dream and I could not stop breaking out in tears.

What I think the dream means is: I need to take advantage of the time WE WILL HAVE (since there is distance now). In the dream I remember specifically that it was between now and when I visit her in france on dec. 26. because I said in the dream "what will I do with these tickets now? a trip to france will be so sad now, being in her home but not being able to see her. I can't do it" my eyes were still watery after waking up.

I remember in the dream I needed to talk to her so bad but knew she was dead. I decided to send her an email. I said "she'll be able to read it somehow (in heaven)". I remember being so lost in the dream like i was in real life when she had left at first for her home..but knowing an angel watched over me (she does not believe in an afterlife however). it was the most bittersweet feeling in the dream too, wondering what could have happened with our relationship, wondering about us..I think this is a dream that tells me "take advantage of things now carl..don't let anything stop you cause if you do, something that REALLY IS BEYOND YOUR CONTROL WILL STOP YOU". those are all the thoughts i had right away after the dream.

anyone think they have more of a professnial view on this dream? what does it mean? have you ever dreamed of a S.O. dying? how did you respond in your dream? how did it change things after the dream? I would love nothing more than to hug her right now and feel her body close to mine. but I can not, with her 7000 miles away. things were perfect when we were together and our hearts have only grown fonder with distance..she said she loved me before she left after I told her the same...now she says "I love you deeply, I need you and I am adding you into my future plans." just like I am. things have gotten more intense.

she was at the bar watching france/portugual, france won. she did not drink, but I am worried that a celebration after winning will cause her to come into contact with many reckless idiots, you have seen riots after massive wins. if france wins in a few nights, they win the world cup. and I am sure you folks know how big soccer is to the rest of the world.. she may drink if they win, I don't know, maybe not..even if she does not, she may come into contact with a drunk driver..I am very worried, after the dream.

 

I've had many death dreams. Sometimes it's the hub, sometimes it's my parents, sometimes its me. I'd take it as a dream and not much more. Better than living in fear over some brain game your subconsious is playing about with while ya snooze.

Just be glad she's around 'cause eventually we all go in one way or another.

 

I am by no means a professional, but I would heed the dream in terms of spending as much time with her as you can, but I wouldn't worry about it coming true, as it were. I also think it could be a subconscious fear of yours manafesting itself in your dream. I would say enjoy your time with her, but don't freak out about this dream, it's just a dream. If you keep having reocuring ones along this vein, then perhaps you either need to talk to her about your fears, journal or talk to someone else about them if they are eating you up that much.

Hope that helps and good luck.

 

Of course your resident skeptic has to post here to let you know that:

It's just a dream, nothing should be read into about it. I've had a dream where I was in the 1920's, robbing a bank, and somehow driving a Crown Victoria with a hole in the top and a 50 caliber machine gun mounted on the top to shoot the coppers.

*shrugs*

Do spend as much time as you please with your girl, though. Everybody wins.

 

I think you're placing common sense on something fluffy. Whatever rocks your boat.

You already know not to take things forgranted, and it's your mind playing tricks on you. Perhaps even your conscience with the distance. Time is always a factor in relationships, even with ones in non-longdistance scenarios.

Focus on what your girl means to you, not what your dream means.

 

you folks are right. I should not take it literally. I didn't 100% anyways. but Its a symbol for big changes. distance, falling deeper in love, ect. my sister kim dreamed of her bfs death. they later got married and are having a kid. it only shakes you up for a while.

 

There ya go. =)

 

What we fear we create!
Stop thinking about her in bad experiences for starters.

Your Dream?
How about since she was not with you and with these other people your jealousy came out and you wished her dead?
Harsh? Yes-I'm sorry but thought I would give you a different view.

 

I can't help what I dream!

I do not think of her in a negative light during my waking life (good movie), if thats what you mean. There are a few exceptions: I did for that france/italy game (as stated in orginal post) but calmed myself down shortly after.

she is coming here on a plane (obviously) in 8 days, so I do worry about that actually, with all the events these past years (London and terrorist plot foiled recently). But thats natural to worry a little.

I was simply over worried about the dream, flustered for a few days but got over it. haha, its been a long time since this has been posted, I forgot about it, but memories of the dream come back again.

She did not actually appear in the dream. I didn't wish her dead in the dream. It basically started with me reading the paper (or tv?) of her death and being being very pained the rest of the dream.

I may be a little jealous (scorpio) in real life, but I always told her to hang out with friends (the ones in the car in fact, along with other good ones) when she was here with me. If she is so far away she might as well hang out with someone rather than no one, since I am not an option (7000 miles, wooh). If anything, I encourage her to go out when she says "I am to sad to go out". go see your friend "yada yada" and she will cheer you.

 

I can't agree more. When searching for the meaning of a dream, I usually return to the first thing that came to my mind upon waking. Over thinking doesn't do much and causes you to look for to many cliched symbols and generalized descriptions. Of course I usually go through hours of over thinking before returning to my very first post dream thought, which is almost always the most accurate dream interpration, and most personal.