Is the Reason "The sex was bad" a good reason to breakup?

I've always kinda wondered this, what if the sex isn't what you would like it to be, would it be grounds for breaking up?

 

Not if you don't want to come off as an asshole.

 

The answer is, real simply, no. If 'how good the sex is' is the primary reason you were with that person, then you never should have been with them in the first place.

 

thank you, no i don't find that an acceptable reason at all, but i have met people who do find that acceptable. Thankfully people here aren't so shallow.

 

I've had people dump me because of that (they said I was too small), or so they said. But they turned out to be pathological lying whores that cheated on me more times then I had sex with them. So I don't really take they're opinion too seriously. To answer your question, no.

 

If the sex isn't good then you need to modify it and practice your modification to make it better. I wouldn't expect it to be good right away, but over time you become more comfortable and do different things and it should get better.

Sex is part of the relationship psycologically (people who share an orgasim experience chemical processes that add to the relationship) and so you're more than just really good friends. It shouldn't be what the relationship is based on. If you're not willing to put in effort to improve the sex, then you shouldn't be in the relationship anyway because your obviously lazy and don't value the person.

No, its not really a good reason, but I bet it happens all the time.

 

Can be
depends on the type of relationship, how hard you've tried to make it better, etc.

I'll admit it, i broke up with someone because the sex (which had started off amazing) was shitty and painful by the end of our relationship. Then again, it was a mostly physical relationship so, it's not like there was a whole lot else to support it

I don't really see what's wrong with having a mostly physical relationship anyways, as long as everyone involved knows what it is, doesn't try to pretend it's something more than it really is, y'know?

 

If the love is worth being with them then the sex shouldn't matter. Sex is important in a relationship for sure, but, if you are dedicated to each other, as you spend more time together and grow more confident and competent in each others desires the sex life should grow to satisfy both lovers equally.

I say should cos it never truly seems to work like that a lot of the time - probably due to one person having more power/control in the relationship than the other.

 

If my girlfriend is of the other sex I would definately break up with him.

 

for me, sex and love are 2 -VERY- different things

 

bull fucking shit

There are some things that you cannot convince another person to do (nor should you) that may be the only things that satisfy you.

Love isn't always enough, that's the sorry reality

 

So regardless of all the great times you had with your significant other outside of sex, if the sex was bad you would break-up?

 

Maybe I'm an old romantic, but you shouldn't need to convince someone to do something if you are truly matched.
There may be things that satisfy you that the other person isn't into, but you gotta ask yourself is the human being who I am wanting to share my life and am in love with worth more or less than your own sexual gratification.
Maybe it is that you just love them up to a point where sex is worth more to you, that isn't a permanent relationship love, it is an I'll love you until i want something else love.
It seems to be that many people build relationships on "friendship" love, and end up playing power trips to force the other to do things they do not want to do. Its fine to have fuckbuddy love, just don't ever expect it to be permanent love.
There will be a person who you love that you may meet one day who satisfies your every need, and whose needs you satisfy too, without having to convince them of anything, no power trips, no convincing, just perfect matches of love and needs.

 

That's assuming outside of sex everythign was great and amazing. I find that if the sex is bad, the rest of the relationship is usually suffering too.


Tipo... you keep describing "perfect love" and things of the like, but I don't personally believe perfection exists, I think it's just an ideal. Not saying it's wrong to want perfection, but it isn't truly attainable.

Aside from that... I guess it's just been my experience that even if I love someone and they love me back, it doesn't mean the relationship will work. In or out of the bed, love doesn't make everything magically perfect.

 

Maybe it is the wrong sense of the word love that you are looking at, or the wrong people who you are in love with. Maybe it is because I am chilled at the moment.

It is possible to love someone, and be loved by them back, but due to their selfishness or your selfishness the relationship suffers. It is impossible to truly love unless you are willing to forget the illusion of self.

 

If the sex is bad and does not get better its an indication of more than just that, trust me. A healthy relationship needs intimacy to bring people together, so for adults, there is no question it is a reason to break up if nothing works.

 

If the relationship is bad the sex will suffer, and it is just seen as the other way round.

Ask yourself if this person who I am with was in danger would I take a bullet for them?
Would I still take a bullet for them if they had just told me they had done something which had upset me or made me angry at them?
How about the other way round, would they take a bullet for me?

If you are willing to die to save them, why wouldn't you compromise on sexual needs?

 

I would die to save any of my friends, doesn't mean i should be in a relationship for them. You should never be seriously involved with anyone where the sex is bad, its not fair to yourself

 

If you want to break up, then bad sex is a poor reason. Find another.

If you stay together and the sex is bad, why are you in bed with her?

By the way, you can fantisize better sex than you are experiencing; no matter how wild/frequent/.... your sex life is. Real women not matching fantasy women is a fact of life. If that is what you mean by "sex isn't what you would like it to be", well...get used to it.

 

Ok so lets raise the bar a little bit then, say you are in a marriage and have two kids. Would "The sex was bad" be a good reason for divorce?