Is the Reason "The sex was bad" a good reason to breakup?

I probably wouldn't be married to someone with whom I'm not compatible, and that includes the sexual side of the relationship.

So, basically, before you become seriously involved with someone, you should essentially make sure you're compatible with them in all areas.

 

ok, thats fine, but just assuming you were married to someone who wasn't good in bed even if the possibility of you doing so is slim?

 

I would divorce her because I'd want my children to grow up knowing their parents had sex to express love, and to actually enjoy the moments and be bappy. If I was married to someone with whom I wasn't sexually compatible, I would have a difficult time setting a positive example to my kids regarding sex. It would not be fair to the kids, either. At least by getting a divorce, honesty within the household would be maintained.

 

no. definitely not. think of a better reason. simply, i'm not that attracted to you anymore, i feel close to you like a sister.... ok wow. i'm an asshole too.

 

Oh man what the fuck was I on last night?

The true love shit, its probably out there but if you got the same sexual tastes and the same views on fidelity and life then stick with it.
Otherwise sod it, one or other of you is gonna fuck up sooner or later.

 

It's not the best reason to say out loud, but it's a valid reason.
If sex is a part of the relationship and it's not enjoyable for you and you stay with them how do you explain you don't like having sex with them?
i mean there certain situations like if i had taken someone's virginity i would understand if it wasn't what i expected because they don't know what they're doing. it's not their fault.
but if sex is as equal a part of the relationship as all of the emotional things are and the sex part is lacking... well your relationship is only halfway working.
i don't know if i'm explaining myself properly...but yes, it's a valid reason for breaking up.
Voicing it to the person is the real problem... i would lie if the sex being bad was the problem. i would tell them something else.

 

It's absolutely valid.

This does NOT mean that it is applicable to every relationship.

 

I believe it's sometimes a valid reason. I wrote quite a lot about about a relationship I had to end because the sex wasn't satisfying on page 3 and page 4 of the News and Issues > Men's Issues > Why that slightly heavy girl is hot (while others are not) thread.

That doesn't mean I'm proud of what I had to do. I shouldn't have been in that relationship in the first place.

But in the case of acquired unsatisfying (or non-existent) sex due to injury or disease, I'd say that no, it's not a reason to end the relationship. It might be a sufficient excuse to have very discreet affairs, but I'm not even sure of that.

That said, I wanted to come back to this:

What you were saying there made perfect sense to me, Tipo. I hadn't thought you were "on" anything. Moreover, it made me think about my own estranged wife (everything does right now) and how there was a time I would have taken a bullet for her. But she puts herself in dangerous situations. She's the kind of gal who'd jump in front of me brandishing a stick if I was pointing a gun at an intruder.

Maybe it's kind of off-topic, but I thought you made an interesting point.

 

Its something I do kinda believe, but given whats going on in my life I am seriously starting to question it.

I would have taken a bullet for my (ex/soontobe/wtf?) wife anytime, and took quite a few hits both emotionally, financially and physically to help her ass out, she too would always go out of her way to put herself in dangerous situations and then turn round and blame the world for it.
When she asked for my help last week I gave it without hesitation (after the seperation, after she shacked up with a new guy and after he turned round and beat her). I asked for her help to get out of a real bad situation just recently, and with both of us knowing it was something only she could do; instead of even considering helping me, just cussed me out because her david bowie cd was in a different place from where she left it.

Things like that made me question the wisdom of my thinking.

 

Sorry I know it might sound bad but honestly I have been in relationships where the sex was awful and know it was the final nail to end the relationship.
If you can not connect on a sexual level then you are most likley not connected thru your emotions and spirit.
Also you can either make love or fuck. In a great relationship where both people are being who they are you will find you do both in the same night.
So yes no sex i'm out of here. The Wiz