Yesterday my boyfriend asked me if I think of him when I masterbate and I said yes when the truth is I have maybe once or twice (and we've been together for 11 months), I almost always think about girls! I think this could pose a problem in our relationship.
just don't expand the lie. i've learned that from experience...if it comes up again, you should probably tell the truth. hah, he may even think it's hot ?
OK, first of all, you didn't TECHNICALLY lie to him considering you HAVE fantasized about him once or twice. Second, we're talking fantasies here. Just because you FANTASIZE about other people, guys or girls, doesn't mean anything that might happen inside your head should also happen in real life. Now, what would be your problem again?
Yes, but that's his problem, right? He knows you are, and he's still with you. He can't expect you to change your sexual orientation just for him.
Technically, you weren't lying.. You do think about him but not as much as he may like.. When I masturbate I think of whatever works at that time.. Sometimes, I think of someone I'm in love with/and or had sex with fucking someone else (which works very well actually), I think of things/people in my past, and just anything at that moment that will get me off.. It's fantasy, it's not like it's going to jump out of your head.. If it comes up again let him know you're masturbating to thoughts of women.
There you go, orgazmik's right on the money. Plus, many sex therapists actually recommend fantasizing about other people so as to keep one's sex life fresh. Sounds to me like he's either insecure about the relationship, or he's rather homophobic. He should stop worrying about his girlfriend(you ARE devoted to him, yes?) going off and getting it on with other girls, and try to look at having you as a girlfriend as an honour.
Uh.. are you sure hes not gay? I mean I don't know any guy that wouldn't be thrilled to hear that his GF was bi.. Thats like a dream come true.
My girlfriend is straight and i'm happy with that. Her and I both find the thought of her being bisexual gross, and vice versa.
If your girlfriend is straight and you're happy with her, that's fine. You could've simply left it at that. If you don't find bisexuality to be appealing, you have the right not to be bisexuals yourselves. HOWEVER, referring to moonlight's being bisexual as "gross" really was NOT called for. Talk about homophobic, and talk about the lack of respect. There is nothing gross about being bisexual in itself. Wording is important.
AT, I could be wrong but I think he was referring to his own gf.. As if, you and I were dating and we each thought the idea of me being bisexual was gross..
OH!! Umm... Is that what you meant, FD? If so, please forgive my quantum-leaping. *embarrassed* By the way, thanks for that, orgazmik.
I need to relax, I know...... sigh. *inhale....exhale.....inhale.....exhale.....* K, I THINK I'm alright now.
Haha, that breathing technique works wonders. And you're more than welcome! It's what friends are for
I'm not gay... trust me (I like men... A LOT!) but it doesn't really matter because I'm thinking I'm going to break it off with this guy in the next couple months or so because both of us are becoming dissatisfied with the relationship.
Yeah, sounds like that might actually be a good idea. You gotta be happy in a relationship, after all. Good luck!
