I read some other posts that are similar but still different. I'm 17 and my gf and I have had sex several times but I still have trouble keeping an erection. I couldn't keep it the 1st 2 times we tried but now it's more of an off and on thing. I don't really think about it much. I don't think it's nerves. I'm only good for once or twice before it gets totally useless. I can masturbate fine never had any trouble. When shes touching me I'm usally fine but sometimes it acts up then too. Could it still be nerves or should I be more concerned?
if you can masterbate fine, then you dont have anything physically wrong with you. so stop worrying about that. also, completely forget about the times you went soft before. if you go into sex thinking "i hope i dont go soft, i hope i dont go soft," you will probably will go soft. in your case it does sound like its mostly nerves. have you ever been with another partner? are you completely comfortable with your body, or do your worry what she might be thinking? are you guys using condoms during sex? how often do you masturbate? if the answer is pretty frequently. im betting that if you hadnt touched yourself in say one week prior to having a sexual encounter with your girlfriend, your body would be completely ready for action. also, when do you jackoff try it with a condom. its obviously not as fun, but you will get use to the feeling, will be more comfortable with condoms, and will no what its like to get off while wearing one. this way, you shouldnt have too many hesitations about having sex.
it's fine at first even if we start having sex I'm fine but if it's not quick I lose it. It's like I just can't keep it long enough
we use condoms and I masturbate pretty regularly I haven't had the chance to try it with a condom though.
