My girlfriend loves to be dominated. Not in the whips and chains kind of way but rather, playing out a fantasy where I rape her. I like doing it and she like it being done. She likes when I do new things unexpectantly. I have been toying with the idea of anal sex with her for a little while. In the past (before I truly became the dominant partner) she had said that she didn't EVER want to do anal. Lately though, she has been more about pleasing me... She has develloped a liking for being spanked and raped(rape scenario) and told to do things. I'm thinking of just 'taking the plunge' one time when I'm behind her and awaiting her reply... suggestions, comments?? Do you have to establish consent before doing it, or rather assume that she wouldn't mind and wait for something different??
Unless you want a foot 'up your ass' I'd not 'take that plunge'.. Sticking your dick in her ass is totally different than the vagina, and even moreso without her consent when she's stated in the past she wasn't interested.. If you aren't careful you can seriously hurt her and you wouldn't want that.. Ask her if she's willing, if so go from there..
ya... well, we have sorta talked about it... but I deffinately see your points in this regard... I will take your advice...
if you really wanna try it, start small.. finger her ass next scenario but, uh, make sure you remind each other of what the safe word is ahead of time, ok? Good job
dont do it man. especially if you are playing out a rape scenario, where she may be asking you to stop or saying that it hurts, and you may think its all part of the role play. i would definitely have a talk with her in a nonsexual atmosphere and see if her ideas have changed. or maybe she will allow other things, like annilingus or anal fingering. often times you can start a girl out with those, and then progress into actual anal intercourse. and when you do finally have anal, make sure shes relaxed, ready, and use lots of lube. dont just ram it in there to surprise her. that will hurt and she will probably never let you try again.
Maybe you could get her in the mood for anal by spanking her really hard on her ass and yelling things at her to make her feel nasty then start kissing and licking or biting her ass cheeks afterwards, and maybe stick your tongue up her butthole and licking it hard for a few minutes (put some wax paper over it if the taste/smell bothers you.) Just be sure to use lots of lube on your cock. Hold her head down with one hand while you are fucking her ass and yelling stuff at her like "you BAD girl!' If she's into being dominated, she'll probably get really turned on by that.
it's a bad idea unless she is into major pain Instead, lube up you finger and her ass. While "raping" her from behind, start rubbing your lubed finger around her hole, then carefully put it in her slowly. One finger should slide in easily--once it is in her all the way just keep it there and tell her that is a part of the rape scene now, even slowly slide your finger in and out some. You do that and I bet she will come. Make sure she comes whenever you finger her ass and she will open (no pun intended) to more anal experimentation.
