I just want to see what other people think... either for guys or gals... I know some people thinks there is a rule especally between guys....but... should one date your friend's ex? or should one date your close friend's ex?? let me know what you think...
Hmm this always bugs me. I have never dated anyones ex before. But personally I think that you should talk to your friend about it get his or her blessing, because what if that person still has feelings for the guy or girl they went out with? And well my intetion is not to hurt any one so I would have to make sure they where okay with it.
you should stay away from the most recent ex and any long-time ex (say they went out for six months or more). other than that it is fair game, no blessing required.
even if a friend told me they were okay with it, i dont know that id do that. it just seems like an awkward position to put yourself in. ive never been in this situation before though. i suppose if i felt strongly enough about the guy, i would ask permission from my friend and make sure there would be no hard feelings.
totally depends on the situation and the circle of friends, how good of friends they are and how long they have known you. But exes' feelings really shouldn't stop anyone from dating whomever they want. It sure made a big stink when I started dating my now-husband shortly after divorcing my ex. But it didn't tear apart our circle of friends, except for those few who really weren't true friends to begin with and felt some sick need to take sides. Better off without 'em!
Did this was I was younger. Was a whole year after they'd broken up. Called her, asked her out for a drink..Somebody had already told her. I tried to be cool about it, & even gave her the opportunity to take a shot at me, because I cared. To no avail. So, from my personal experience, no. We did eventually become friends again, about five years later or something. So, there was some healing. ^ mamaboogie, is making a good point though too.
dating an ex of any friend of mine is definetly a no-no. dating a friend of an ex. of mine is also a no-no,since i belive in taking as much as you give.oddly,it seems always my girls' friends like me more than she does.and some of them were great characters and bodies,so that's always been a pain in the ass.
yeah it wouldn't tear apart of th circle, but at least one odd party may leave the circle because of hard feelings.. and i am sure the one do not want to see his/her ex with someone else day in and day out....
maybe our situation was different? I have known most of these people, our friends, since I was 12 or 13 (I'm 37 now). I dated my ex husband when I was 15, just for a few months before breaking up. We were all friends through that, no big deal. For some weird reason, I completely forgot why I had broken up with him the first time and we got back together when I was 20 and got married. My true friends didn't want to see me being mistreated by my ex, and were all very happy for me when DH and I finally got together. Most of them had been asking me ever since we were teens why I didn't go out with him. I never saw it, but he really is perfect for me. We've been together nearly 14 years now.
sorry... so both your ex and your husband and you are all in the same circle... and you went from your hushand to your ex then back to your husband?
no, sorry it's confusing. I dated my ex a long time ago, broke up, got back together then got married. after divorcing him, I started seeing my current husband (who at the time was roomate with my ex husband's best friend). we had never gotten together before that, though lots of people thought we should. anyway, every situation is different. I don't think you should let who someone used to date interfere with romance. Your real friends won't hold it against you if you date someone that wasn't right for them.
I agree that it completely depends on the situation. Since I don't know more about it or if this is just a hypothetical question, then I can't really be much more help.
