I am just venting here because my good friends all happen to be on vacations right now, and I have nobody to talk to about this. So, my parents just decided to get divorced, and it's really upsetting to me. I know it's a common thing, but I never really expected it with my parents. They argued a lot (about little things), but they always made up right away. The other day they had a huge fight, and I somehow got in the middle-probably because I was defending my mother, and it just took off into an explosion of anger from everyone. I really have no idea where the whole idea of a divorce came from because they were fine until my father brought it up, but I haven't been the same since. I've been eating less, sleeping less, crying more...I've been light-headed and dizzy the whole day. It's not just the divorce part that's really upsetting me, it's that I can't even get along with my dad (we've never got along), and now that I don't even have my mom to keep somewhat of a relationship between us, I feel that I am just going to lose contact with him completely. We never see eye to eye about anything, and the only reason we tried to get along was because of my mother's sake. I guess I am a really sensitive person because I can't let things that he said to me the other day go. They were really hurtful. The whole family issues and a lot of other things going on right now in my life are just slamming me all at once, and I am trying my best to deal with it because I am not a child anymore, but I think these events are the most I've ever had to deal with...all at once, anyway. I am starting to sound like I am on Dr. Phil right now, so I will stop my cry-babying. I just needed to tell someone, even if all of you reading this don't even really know me.
Aww.....I'm really sorry to here about your parents. It's really sad when people get divorced. I kinda sorta share the same thing w/ my dad like you and your's. My mom and my dad never married, so I lived with my mom all my life. And even though I know my dad and he only lived 10 minutes away from me, untill I was 12, he has never ever been there for me. When I was little I remember I used to cry all the time because I felt that it was my fault he never came to see me and I never got to see my little brother and sister. When I moved away w/ my mother, I tried to establish a realtionship w/ my dad. I called him almost every day, for 4 months. I sent him christmas and birthday cards but I never could get the same back from him. I guess he just dosen't want to be a father to me. Maybe that's why my mom didn't wanna be w/ him.......blah blah I'm rambling now. But yeah it sucks about your folks and I really hope things do get better for u in the future.
This is why I don't believe in marriage. My parents have threatened divorce numerous times... my dad's mostly a frickin' psycho when it comes to jealousy (which he shouldnt even be worrying about), but whatever. I'm sorry. I have no idea what youre going through though.
You'll see that it's all for the better. If they do decide to go through with it....know that it's best for them. Your dad and you may even start to communicate more. My parents divorced when I was 7. It hurt me then, yes....then I realized it doesn't matter if it hurts me....I know they both love and care for me, and what matters is that it was best for them. They get along famously now. Some people that do love each other (no matter how much they claim not to to keep the hurt away) just can't be married and be happy with each other. I hope everything works out for you. If you have a lot of problems dealing with this, go see a councelor....I did, and it helped. Counceling may not work for you, though....it doesn't for some people. Just try to sleep and eat....and cry less. You can always PM me if you need a shoulder. I don't know you, but I am the product of a divorced family. I've been there....
Thats really sad. I'm sorry. I used to think my parents were going to get a divorce. Which made me sad cause I realized how little money they would have if they weren't together (one income per house and all..).. but then I realized I'd get two closets.. and since i was 5, that made me happy. I dont know what you're going through though. sorry.
