What's the worst...

Okay,this goes for everyone. Preferably adults with a bit of experience as opposed to a 16 year old who thinks they've been through it all. *rolls eyes*


What's the absolute worst thing you've ever done to a significant other? Something that was so completely fucked up & evil,yet your partner ended up
taking you back anyway. It doesn't have to be just cheating on them. It could be anything that broke your trust in them or where they broke your heart beyond repair. Why did you take them back? How long did it take to work past it? Will you forever resent them or hold it against them for what they may have done?

A few months ago,during a heated argument I did something so horrible that I can't explain it here but I'd be more than happy to explain via PM if you're interested (no I didn't hit her). Maybe you can give me some advice,lol. Thanks

 

All right. The most coldhearted thing I did was not cheating. It was actually admitting that I didn't find him attractive anymore and I wasn't sure I could go on. He cried so much, I was at a loss and very uncomfortable. It was graceless, cruel and unnecessarily stupid. Some things should never ever be said outloud.

We had continued for over a year after that incident. It was terrible. He was very insecure, and I was always the villian in any argument. The trust was broken - moreover, the ease and comfort and selfconfidence for him wasn't quite the same. This was very draining for me also but the guilt was like a nail in the coffin. There was no way out. So why did he take me back? I can't be sure if both of us were truly happy, we were just dependent on each other.

Another incident was much later with another man, with a little more experience and wariness in my pockets (i'd like to think anyway). I knew what I wanted but I didn't know what I didn't want, and that was dangerous in this case. I saw all the warning signs but I went ahead with it because I was still naive. After about 6 months, with no warning, he stopped calling, stopped picking up calls, and it was as if he disappeared off the face of the earth completely. It was a great shock. One month after his disappearance, he reappeared. No, things were never the same again and he realized it more quickly than I did. Yes, to this day, I resent what he did. I cannot possibly resent whatever emotions he was feeling, but I resent the infantile manner by which he conducted himself - him also being 10+ yrs my senior. I would never take him back, for this and for a slew of other reasons.

Despite this, I also remember the aforementioned time and others where my own thoughtlessness came into play and I had hurt others also. Yet never had I been so inconsiderate as to keep someone waiting at my beck and call for over 3 months, spawning lies or promises.

 

Hmm,I guess this one must be boring compared to the "How do I get a girl to like me?" thread. *rolls eyes*


Great post Hanna. Thank you.

 

hmmm, i think the most evil thing i have done happened when my wife started cheating on me and we started having fucked up arguments.
We were in the middle of an argument (the usual 'bitch'/'bastard'/'whore' shit) she told me that she had never wanted to be with me, that the guy she was seeing had been fucking her when I had called earlier.
I flipped and pulled out our memory box (letters,photos,everything), and said to her if our relationship meant so little to her why didnt she just go ahead and shred them. and she did. i sat on the sofa, watching her, shocked at what was happening, she sat there shredding them, staring at me telling me as she shredded each one that it was all bullshit. both of us with tears in our eyes, before i begged her to stop. she didn't until there were only two photos left. which she took and hid.
after about two days of not even talking to each other, not even being able to look at each other, her boyfriend phoned up and cussed me out down the phone.
I flipped and went and found those last photos and shredded them.
We argued again for another week and then kinda chilled down, then she found my hidden stash of memories and shredded it whilst i was out, i got home and she smiled at me, made me dinner and everything, made love with me, was all nice to me and everything.
then i saw what she had done and couldn't take it. we argued for another week or so, huge screaming arguments. then when my birthday came she spent it with her boyfriend, and we had more arguments before we split up.

 

Lol,God damn!

 

ahh... define significant other. do i have to have loved them?

 

I guess it doesn't matter. Just post.

 

My high school sweetheart absolutely DESTROYED my heart. We had dated for 3 years before he wanted to go to Australia for a year. I had spent a year in SE Asia prior, and we had gotten through it with minimal difficulty, so I was totally supportive of his going travelling.

About 6 months into his trip, he called me one night at 2am. He told me that he

1. Didn't love me anymore
2. Didn't know if he ever REALLY loved me
3. Was engaged to a girl he met over there, and was bringing her home with him, but that he thought the 2 of us (me and his new fiance) would be really good friends.

Totally destroyed me. I cried for days. Then I picked myself up and moved out of the town so I didn't have to be around when they got back.

He married her on my BIRTHDAY!!

A year later she had cheated on him with 3 other men. They are now divorsed and he has remarried some other chick. We are back living in the same town... but don't talk much... too much pain and history on both sides for us to ever be able to be friends again.

 

I peed on a girls mattress under the blankets when she wasnt looking after I found out she cheated on me.

 

I guess since I'm 19....and obviously am incapable of ever having been in a relationship where anything bad could have happened....I can't post here.

 

whatever heartbreaker..

 

Oh I've done lots to my ex, but I really didn't love him, didn't give two shits about him. I'm evil.

As far as my boyfriend now. I threw a plate through his kitchen window once, then I packed up all of my shit and moved out while he was at a company picnic. So he came home to a broken window and me gone, and I took the shampoo. But he forgave me, it was a long story and both of us were to blame for the initial arguement, however, how I acted was selfish and immature, that is why I don't do things like that anymore. Yay me. pat me on the back now. LOL. just kidding people.

 

Cool thanks!

What I meant was for those teens & minors that go into a sex thread about what your fave position is & they're response is something like,

"Well,I've never had sex but when I do I think I'll like to be on top because that looks like it would be fun & might feel good,huh huh!" Irritates the shit outta me.

 

damn. you people have some crazy stories. worst thing i ever did is upper deck her toilet and put nair in her conditioner bottle.

 

Well, I had a four year relationship with a dick who ruined my self esteem (yea, my fault for letting it happen, I've moved on and am trying to build it back up). He cheated on me so many times I found out I can't even count. When our first son was about to be born he stole my vw bus and ran away to flordia then totalled it and never paid me back. When our second son was being born he cheated on me and got another woman he had talked to on the internet casually (he didn't even know her well!) pregnant. Her son is 9 months younger than mine. He tried to kidnap my kids... he told me I wasn't good enough, I was ugly, fat, disgusting (while I was pregnant, complete idiot). He tried to break my best friend and her bf up so he could sleep with her and he was also trying to ruin our friendship. He doesn't pay child support... jeez I can go on about this winner for hours but he isn't worth it so thats all I'm going to say.

I'm happy and in love now and with a responsible, wonderful man who loves me and OUR childern. Hes in the process of adopting my boys from that previous relationship since their father is a deadbeat and hasn't seen them in almost 2 yrs.

 

I am personally a schizophrenic, and a psychopath, need I say more?

 

I poured two cans of coke in my ex wifes closet when I went to pick up my kids one weekend.
She told me a week later she had no idea why her entire closet was filled with ants and why she couldn't get rid of them.

 

That's nice. Where'd the third son come from?

 

me and an ex had a knock-out, drag-down fight at a christmas party where a bunch of our friends happened to be. by dragging it out and not at least seeking some privacy from the crowd (it's like we went insane) we humiliated each other in front of our best friends, and it was inconsiderate to the others, because we alienated friends and made them feel awkward and uncomfortable in a situation that was supposed to be fun. now, granted, it was a rather large party, and our friends found ways to safely distance themselves from us and still enjoy the celebration. but they were perfectly aware that we were most likely still duking it out for several hours afterwards. it was horrific. we both said terrible things to each other. i have blocked out most of the really terrible things because they're too painful to recall, actually. i think after that night we lost a lot of trust in each other, and both had insecurities as a result. it was really the beginning of the end - after he declared to a roomful of people that he didn't love me anymore and wanted to leave and didn't care if he was homeless, he just needed to get away from me, how was i to really have faith in him when he renounced thosed words and swore he didn't mean it? i also said and did some despicable things to him - tore up the picture of him and me in my wallet in front of him while we were fighting. telling him i hated his guts and that he was just a slacker going nowhere. there were two villains, and two victims, simultaneously in the same situation.

we went on for another year after that incident, trying to work things out, but not trying hard enough. it was so forced and routine for a long time, and i feel that it ruined the purity of our love. luckily me and that gentleman have since worked out our differences, and i'm happy to call him a friend. we make far better friends than lovers, for sure. in fact, i've only one ex i don't speak to. of the three serious relationships of my adult life, i am still friends with two exes.

 

I slapped a girlfriend so hard she fell over once.

A long time ago, when I was 14 and hanging out with 20 year olds, I left a girl naked at the lake and took her clothes when we took off.