Is it ever ok to cheat on someone under any circumstances?

ive cheated. i was blindly drunk and when im drunk all i want to do is kiss peoples foreheads. and i went to far.
iono when im drunk im a totally different person.

what if your drunk?

 

watch who your drinkin with its your fault.

 

How about this: if you sleeping with another person causes your partner to mistrust you, be hurt or if you have to keep it secret, then yes, it's cheating and it's wrong. No matter what scenario you come up with, it's still cheating if someone is hurt or if you have to keep it secret. I tell my boyfriend everything, and I wouldn't do anything with another guy that I wouldn't do in front of him. I check with him before I hang out with a male friend to make sure it isn't something that is going to bother him. He does the same with me, checks to make sure I don't mind if he thinks it's something that will make me uncomfortable. We want to make sure we trust each other, and that's a very important thing in a relationship. No matter how much you want to, if you have to keep it secret or it hurts the other person, than it's a betrayal and it's wrong.

So that's my definition of cheating: when you do something that you have to keep hidden from your partner or it hurts your partner and looses their trust in you. Try to come up with a scenario where cheating is okay without breaking that definition. I bet you can't.

 

I don't see the point. Just break up with them if you don't want to be with them, don't put them through that shit.

Can't have your cake and eat it too. It just doesn't work.

 

Drink is often used to excuse all kinds of behaviour.

However, it is not an excuse.

During my first relationship, which lasted two years, both my partner and I went to university (serperate universities at that).

During this period I spent much time off of my face on alco-mo-hol. Hey, I was a student. Of archaeology. It goes with the territory... *Looks shifty*

Anyhoo, I was, on several occasions, approached by girls who wanted to do terrible terrible things to my poor body.

I turned each one down. Why? Because I was dedicated to the person I was with. Even when our relationship was going down the pan and a "friend" offered me a rather unique form of comfort I turned her down. This all despite the copious amounts of drink I had consumed.

If you desire someone else, there is an issue in your relationship. End it. If you cheat when you're drunk you obviously have a desire to do so. The alcohol just smooths the process along. Alcohol does not effect your base morals.

I would say that if alcohol makes you a "completely different person" you should consider giving it up. I did (though it never made me cheat... it just made me a rather dull and annoying tit).

Simon

 

I don't think being drunk is an excuse, but it can be a contributing factor. I don't think it should excuse immoral/illegal behaviour but I do think it should be taken into account.

 

there's no excuse... if you want revenge on your partner, what you need isn't revenge, it's a break up...

 

Unfortunately quite a lot of people I knew at Uni cheated on their partners back home to some degree. I recently met up with a couple of old friends and we were discussing this topic.

They both also said that they were always surprised that I had never fallen from the Path of the Amazing and Righteous (TM) and said what a fantastic fellow I was and offered to give me money in return for my friendship. Well... it was something along those lines anyway.

One of the things we discussed was what made me different (we figured out that out of our group of 15 uni mates, about 8 were in relationships and only I out of those 8 didn't cheat). I was experiencing the same atmosphere and the same amount of alcohol but I never cheated (and we counted kissing someone else as cheating as well by the way).

So why was I different? If someone can get pissed off of their face and stay faithful why can't everyone? I think it really comes down to dedication. If you're dedicated in a relationship, I honestly believe that no matter what shape you're in via drink and drugs you will not betray your partner.

Maybe I'm in a minority with that view but it is what I believe.

Agreed 100%

Simon

 

obviously the relationship doesn't mean that much to the person if they are going out and messing around with other people. that's my opinion.

 

Problem is that people will regret it after and be terrified of losing everything. Yet by not going home and being straight up whats happened, then your relationship is destined to end. Never outrun it. One mistake and tru remorse and honesty. It can actually bring you closer together. 1 continues lie or an inkling of secretes then you're fucked and lot of years of mis trust and pain.

 

I think it basically boils down to if you're truly in love with your partner. I mean truly. I've had arguments with ex partners and instead of both trying to share our true feelings, id carry on trying to do what she's shouted at me she wants yet she's gone out and says to my sister "would you tell your brother if I went over there and knecked that guy, your brother has really pissed me off". Im not saying men aren't bustards sometimes. I'm nice yet get treated like shit over the years. Statistics now show that majority of cheating is done by women and they are less likely to get caught

 

No! What's the point of being a relationship just to cheat to begin with?

 

If you're in a committed relationship (spouse, fiancé, SO, whatever) then the only way to have sex with someone else, without "cheating", is if the other person (your SO) is aware of it and approves of it (or, at the very least, doesn't object to it.) If you're fucking someone else without your SO's knowledge (or with their knowledge, but against their wishes), well then, that definitely cheating!

 

If you were married for a long time and have many ties to unravel like a house or business or kids or health insurance, for me trust is the corner stone. Cheat one time and good bye sweety I will never trust you again. What is tied can be untied no matter the cost.

 

Booze is just an excuse to get away with your true feelings.

 

hell no i could never do that i know the feeling of getting cheated on its never okay to do that aint no point of being in a relationship might as well be single