Fitzy, sweetheart, listen to me. You are sooo not a failure. It really bothers me to hear you talk like that. I understand you're feeling upset, but don't you dare call yourself a failure, because you are anything but that. Things happen, not always as we want them to. So, we can either sit and beat ourselves up over it, or try a different approach next time. You're an awesome person and I admire you for the person you are. You're such a caring and compassionate individual, and you have a heart of gold. Please don't be so hard on yourself. You HAVE accomplished a lot. Don't ever lose sight of that. Many hugs...
as everyone else has said, everyone feels like that at some point, usually at several points in their lives. the ring, or with other people money, awards, the car, sex, whatever - it is a challenge. although you didn't get it at the same time as everyone else, don't start to get depressed, see it as a karmic thing ... what do you have to re-learn or re-evaluate to get the status you want? what message could this set-back teach you? i felt the same many times before - when i was in my mid twenties other people had the cars, had the jobs, had places to live, everthing and i was a guy depending on hitching to get places, working odd jobs and sleeping rough a lot of times. its a challenge, and everyone has their personal pathways to walk in life. Just think of the Sliding Doors movie, or the example in a TV show once (I think it was Red Dwarf) - a kid gets the choice to repeat the year and become more personally developed and a success later in life, or to go up with his classmates and become a loser the rest of his life.