both are intimate, and it depends on the partner and the situation as to the intimacy. if i had sex with a chick who i had just met whilst we were both wasted just cos we wanted to have a quickie it would feel less intimate than receiving a blowjob from a lover who truly wanted to satisfy me.
To me oral sex requires a stronger, more trusting bond between two people, so I say Oral. But thats just my opinion. --kidd--
Hmmm,that depends. I've had two girls in a row that I met at a bar & the same night have sucked me off & swallowed but wouldn't fuck. And my current gf,even after we had sex,held off on going down on me for about the first two weeks we were together. So that really confuses me about girls. I,personally would say that giving head would be the most intimate sex act.
I agree, I would never go down on a man that I just met, even if I was really attracted to him. I don't want an STD.. maybe I am selfish and I don't want to give someone pleasure if I don't care about them! lol
About giving someone pleasure I don't care about. See,that's what confuses me about some women. If I have a one night stand,I could seriously give a shit less about her pleasure. I damn sure don't bring my "A game". I don't go down. I'll do what I can to get a her wet,throw it in,get mine,split. Of course,it's a completely different story for someone I care about or like & I would go out of my way to please her. As far as a girl going down on me the first time,for those two women,they both told me I had the bad boy attitude going on (long hair,tattoos,musician) and I did something that made them want to be a bad girl as well. Because both women,as soon as I went to unbutton their pants,they pulled away but they were in my pants immediately. And I thought about the STD factor (reason I don't go down on a one night stand),they wouldn't let me fuck them even though I would have used a condom. But they weren't having it. But I've talked to some gay guys here that suck & swallow all the time & they said your stomach acids would kill any bacteria/diseases anyway. As long as you don't have a cut in your mouth,you'd be fine. Don't want to turn this into a STD thread but..... Anyway,I guess it's safe to say every woman differs from each other.
yes, it is interesting. you can't generalize and say all women would act a certain way. it takes me a little while even if I like someone to do the deed! I guess I have to know that they care about me even a little.
I feel that intercourse is more intimate. Oral is not far behind though. The genital connection puts intercouse ahead for me. Also, being able to look into eachothers eyes face to face while reaching new heights is extreemely intimate. Ejaculating into a woman that I admire tops it off for me also. Now, going down on a woman that I like as a "whole person", is very intimate and bond forming for me. If I really like her, I even enjoy licking her bum. That feels intimate because, as a guy, I know that few guys would do that to her.
Intercourse missionary position. You cant get more intimate than being face to face while your having sex!
For me, intercourse is far more intimate, for the same reason raw just stated. Being connected from head to toe, and spiritually as well...that seems to effect me much more than a woman sucking me off. Even if it is someone I am deeply involved with, oral just always comes second.
