i made this thread last week in another section http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=177404 IM TERRIBLY SORRY FOR THE LONG POST BUT ITS JUST SO U GET THE JIST OF THINGS, PLEASE TAKE TIME TO READ AS IM SO FUCKIN CONFUSED LOL HOPEFULLY U CAN GIVE ME UR OPINIONS now my parents were away over the weekend, but also my g/f was away stayin at her uncles so she couldnt come round, so i had a get together with a few mates all guys, and i invited my g/f's best mate who is also a friend of mine, she was all over me like a rash and i fancied her b4 she introduced me to my current g/f, i kinda went off her for a while and theats when i met my g/f. but as i said she was all over me on saturday night, but thats just the way she is, she's a teasing little bitch lol, but shes fuckin gorgeous and fun to be around, an all round great girl to be honnest. all of saturday night she was jumpin on top of me, and sayin stuff like lets pretend were getting off with each other and see what ur friends say, and when we were in my bedroom, she was surfing the net i was lyin on te bed talkin to her bout my g/f and someone started comin up stairs so she jumped on me and pretented to shag me on the bed she was moaning and groaning like fuck but she was just taking the piss n having a laugh, and my problem is all day sunday and all day monday and alot of today iv been thinkin bout her the whole time. aother thing that pulls me to her is that she is 16 so she is legal for sex basicaly, not that sex is all i want but would be great if i didnt have to wait 10 months for my current g/f to reach 16. now i love my g/f to bits i really really do she's such a great girl and we connected from the start, but i just cant stop thinkin bout her mate. i was planning on telling steph that i liked her cos i really need to get it out my system, i said i had somethin to tell her but then i couldnt cos if my g/f found out!!! i wouldnt wanna upset her ya see. THIS IS THE WEIRD BIT THAT GOT ME CONFUSED! i was out with them for a whle last night and i was holding my gf's hand and her mate grabbed my other and started tryin to kiss me n shit like feeling my ass lol and rubbing my crotch. my gf was just laughing. when i was on the phone to my gf tonight we got talkin bout her mate and my gf says she thinks i like her and i was defendin myself sayin i dont and that i love her(my g/f), then she says, now i understand that im 15 and u dont wanna do anything with me atm, so i wouldnt mind if u shagged ma mate!! i was like wtf, i just said, i dont get the way u think and shes like dont worry bout it the only time i would be pissed off is if u denied doin nethin with her or if u never told me at all and i found out at a later stage, bt if u came up to me and said im gonna shag her tonight or i shagged her last night , i wouldnt mind, weve shared b/f's b4.i really do love my g/f but her mate is so much nicer looking, and it would be an experience to shag her i think, would be for me anyways as im astill a virgin atm, and for the last year iv wanted to be with this girl, but i would never leave my g/f for her mate. i just dont get this at all :S really has confused me alot, i said at least 20 times are u being serious, and she says yes!! ,ur an 18yr old guy and i no u want sex, and obviously u cant have it with me so id rather give u permission to shag ma mate someone i no and can trust with u than let u go to the pub and pull a random for the night and then i find out at a later stage. so what do u guys and girls think?? i think its totaly bizarre and that if they are such good mates that her mate wouldnt do anything with me i just totaly dont get this at all, wat would u do in this situation? i wanna stay with my g/f as i love her but i wouldnt mind a piece of her mate as iv always had a thing for her thnx for listenin hope u have some opinions cheers redline
not all girls would present you with this oppurtunity...if shes trying to trick you into saying yes she's not being very fair to you. my advice is if you want it and your virginity doesnt matter to you that much then go for it. not many guys will be presented withthe same oppurtunity and i swear there will always be a part of you who'll regret not taking up an offer for casual sex. IF your girl really is cool with the idea (and she seemed to be from her friend grabbign at your crotch) then you'll prolly have an oppurtunity at a threesome when she is old enough, if you wanna wait that long and hold off ont eh sex to test the waters. as a side note: try asking you gf if you can kiss her, and start out small then over time work up to the sex. if she freaks out about the kiss then you know sex would have been worse, bt if she's okay with it, let things progress at their own pace
thanx for the reply, i really do wanna take up the offer, cos id rather get some experience b4 the time comes with my g/f, cos if i make her wait so long then im crap at sex it will b shit for her. i dont no if she is tricking me into it or not, but last night when she asked me if i would shag her mate i said no (cos i was thinkin it wood b a trick) and she was like "seriously? i dont believe u, she's fuckin goergeous and i think if any guy given the chance would definately shag her" i decided last night to txt her mate telling her that after saturday night i coodnt stop txtn her, i only told her after my g/f said what she said cos i thot if shes ok with me shaggin her she'd b ok with me kinda liking her. so il just wait n see what happens..... this could be a good thing can't wait to see what ha[pens between us thnx dangermouse
* i txt her sayin i couldnt stop thinking about her, not couldnt stop txt'n her lol wont let me edit it
ooooo now THAT could be a problem. you can tell her you think she's sexy or would love to shag her or all this other hot and horny optional talk, but telling her you can't stop thinking about her is somethign that coudl get you in hot water. you want your gf to know you love her and you want to do this as a pure physical thing, but if your girl starts to suspect you're falling for her mate and her plan to let you be happy starts to backfire on her this whole thing could be called off very quickly. i'd cool it with the romantic connontations with the other girl and stick to the pure physicalness of it all, i'd also talk to your gf about you planning on accepting before you talk to this other girl. if you love your gf and you want her to be secure in your relationship talk to her first, let her set the boundaries of whats acceptable and whats not, make sure she knows you LOVE her but are only attracted to her friend. your gf jealousy may not surface from physical acts but romantic 'i can't get you off my mind' messaged between you is only likely to make this whole thing not go through.
To me it sounds like either 1) she's acting out of low self esteem, feels like you won't possibly be happy with just her 2) is testing you or 3) is genuinely ok with an open/poly relationship between you and her friend. and I have no idea which is the one taht actually describes her.
cood definately be number one acctually, cos she has asked me why im with her when her friend is so much better looking and so much nicer n stuff like tht. i do really like the friend and have done since long b4 i met my g/f...but i do love my g/f and would never acctually leave her for her friend. but then i feel that its number 2 but also because she was so serious whn she said it i thot maybe 3 lol owell we will wait n see
My first girlfriend pulled this too, I really loved her and made out and almost had sex with her best friend, It was because we didn't have vehicles at the time, but I told her about it thinking she would be happy for me only to find out about her new boyfriend Jovi. Who knows though.
tell you what i think. you're misses is 2 months into the age of 15 - she's basically just come out of being 14. you are 18. i think she's too young for you, plus if you're thinkin bout her mate then you're obviously not comitted. they don't call 'em bitches for nothin. take my word for it.
thnx for all the replies... i do loveher but the age gap is causing problems....hopefully if i leave her il still geta shag off her mate lol cheers guys n gals much appreciated
i think she might be testing you, but i'm not for sure considering i'm not her. but i think you can shag her friend, just as long as you don't have feelings for her or develope them later on... and if you do, be honest with yourself and to your girl, its going to hurt her even more if your not.
