I currently know I am madly in love with a girl, but she seems to be questioning this fact? I don't even know if that's what is happening though, I'm just so confused. She is questioning our whole relationship now. My big mistake was that she asked me to point out her flaws for some reason, and for whatever reason I decided to do so. I hope I didn't point anything too major out, but I did this nonetheless. I was just trying to be truthful. I told her that even though I see these flaws, I love her and accept them. Is this not enough? She seems to think that I shouldn't find any in her at all. How should I handle this situation? This is my first relationship, and I need some advice from some more experienced people. -Thank you, Kenny
sure everyone has flaws but if you love them that much you will literally see right through them. i think you said the wrong answer but shit i dont know how well your relationship with her is. If she is questioning the relastionship, you need to re-assure her.
The thing is I never saw a flaw in her until she asked me and I had to dig really really deep to find them, and let me tell you I didn't enjoy doing this. Our relationship was pretty much perfect except for one little(or probably huge) issue of trust in the first week of our relationship. I've tried reassurance but it seems to be not working...
how long have you been dating? i saw alot of trust issues into in my relationship too, but one night i ended up getting drunk and some shit happened and she found out.but i think that makes the relationship stronger. but like some people say time tells everything..meaing you will find out if she is trustful or not later on so just bite your lip and trust her..if you love her that much. anyway if she really really like forced you to tell her what you thought were her "flaws" were, well thats on her. i guess, i can name some flaws with my gf but i already know she is insecure about them, and telling her would only make her wonder..and i have flaws too..but i would never ask or tell her about either of our flaws. the important thing is that you love eachother and everyone has flaws..why care about them so much?
We have been dating for two months, but involved for about 5 I think. The issue of trust involved me promising not to smoke weed and then breaking that promise, at least 3 times that I could remember. I feel I was addicted mentally though, but there is still no excuse for breaking a promise, or even making one I can't keep. She didn't really probe me for her flaws, but we had been having one of those deep conversation when we were just letting everything out, revealing stuff from out past and stuff like that. I'm not sure how the flaws issue came up, but she asked me about them and i really had to think about it, and I came up with one. Then she asked me again if there were any more and i came up with another. She kept asking me until I came up with four...I never cared about her flaws, and I still don't. To tell you the truth I can only name one of the four that I named. edit: I thank you for helping me, I really need to see this outside of my or her view alone
lol yea man that doesnt sound too good but next time maby you should just let her know that the flaws dont really mean anything because you love her(if you really do)...my gf is not really "educated" about weed and she wanted me to quit..so i did quit..for her and i havnt smoked since that day..but im still educating her with facts and counterdicting why she thinks its so bad..
I personally had wanted to quit for awhile, it took a few tries but I finally think I got it down. She currently doesn't wanna hear that the flaws mean nothing as I pointed them out to her in the first place..I'm positive I'm madly in love with this girl too. I trust her, She's all I think about, I feel completely comfortable around her...oh the list could go on
Dude ... if she ASKED you, she has no license to get angry! It's not good to lie if you are asked directly -- I would admire and thank you for being honest! It's only unwise to point out a girl's flaws just randomly ... and even that has its time and place. Sounds like you might just be infatuated ... and that she might not be very mature. Hope I'm wrong.
im gonna have to agree with suncatch here. you did the right thing by being honest with her, what you need to do is tell her to make out a list of your flaws , and ask her to be honest, whe she sees that both of you can have flaws but she still feels she loves you, she'll better be able to see where your comming from by admitting she has flaws...and if she's so mad at you for finding flaws in her, then she can't very well say she can't find flaws in you. everyone has flaws.
