This is a rather stupid question, but it needs be asked....

This question is rather awkward, but I do need help with it...

My boyfriend and I have had sex before; however, now he wants to partake in oral and anal. I really have no problem with it (I know that anal supposedly hurts like hell, but I'm sort of a masorchist anyways...), except that he's under the impression that protection isn't needed for that sort of thing. I'm quite cautious when it comes to sex, but I don't know how to approach him about using a condom for anal and oral without feeling awkward. Basically up until this point I've just been avoiding the topic, despite the fact that I'd really like to try oral and anal...

Any advice?

 

Tell him right up front to wrap it up if he wants to stick it in.

(Sorry ... I'm blunt like that. )

As far as anal ... I'm a masochist too and it hurts like HELL. I limped for three days, and three days after the limp went away it's still sore. So ... if you still wanna try it, take a lot of preparation, and expect a small amount of agony.

 

They are two different situations. Both require protection from disease. Seminal fluid can carry diseases that can enter any small cut and infect you. Use a condom and you should be protected from this hazard.

Anal adds a complexity. The fecal matter in your anus contains bacteria that need to be kept away from your boyfriend. The condom helps with that. BUT the anus is not designed for the kind of streaching that happens during sex. The walls of your rectum get those small cuts that I mentioned earlier. Anal is also rougher on the condom than vaginal sex.

One other thing about anal sex. It is important that nothing get inadvertantly transfered from your anus to your vagina or bladder.

I don't know the standards of safe practice for anal sex, but I know that you must be extra careful. STD's are only a part of the health risks of anal sex.

 

Taking it up the butt doesn't hurt too bad if you have enough lube.
Make him wrap it up before sticking it in your butt, though. And, change condoms before switching back to vaginal. I imagine it'd make your neden smell like shit.
If you don't trust where his penis has been, make him wear a condom when you give him oral sex.
If he doesn't want to comply, tell him no.

 

no offense but if you have a problem talking to your boyfriend about something concerning sex........ you shouldnt do it...... your obviously not ready if you cant approach him about it

 

Personally I think you are too young..... I think you should wait... you have to be careful not to spread the bacteria from your butt to your vagina, and if it is done properly it shouldnt hurt. I dont think this young guy deserves this from you! I was your age too and I think I would regret that.

Just sayin.

 

I've always heard that too ... but unless this understanding comes from people who either do it under anethesia or have really big butt-holes, anal DOES hurt!

Mike's right, the rear hole really is NOT meant to stretch like that. Doesn't mean people shouldn't do anal -- in fact, go for it, but keep in mind that the human physical blueprint is not quite designed for it.

 

Pffft! The anal sphincter can and does stretch amazingly, the colon is self cleaning as to smell and bits and pieces; however, the rim requires a healthy lubed message over a period of time to loosen up. Have him go in without preparation and you will hurt. Love is patience, gang, and old wives' tales about rips and tears, stinx and flux, dangers around every corner are just that. Facts: if neither has STD, an STD will not result. It's ok to go 'as you are,' as smell and stuff will not come out on the penis if cleansing with soap, water and a finger has heppened. e-Coli transferred from anus to vagina creates an intollerable infection. If both orifices are to be used, two different condoms, etc.

Yes and no! Fecal matter up in colon, not in sigmoid colon. Do you know how many deaths would result from unprotected anal sex if your surmise was correct, Mike. If she has galloping anything, yes. Otherwise, quit trying to scare them. That we don't like the idea is no excuse for scare tactics! And courtlew is right-on about 'The' conversation. Overall, condom use recommended!

 

I agree...use a condom for anal.Anal bacteria should not get into your vagina at all.


And I find it doesn't hurt!At first I found it hurt like hell,but then I realized the guy I was with at the time rushed into it and we didn't use any lube...it hurt like hell and I almost fainted!But since then I have gone slow with my partners,using lots of lube and it do not hurt if done right.However altho I find it don't hurt,it is not my favorite postion,as I cannot cum that way and so I rarely do it!

 

If you're not on the pill and you end up not using a condom in these areas, be careful. His little swimmers are on a mission and you don't want any of them sneaking their way in to accomplish it.

 

Uh... tell him that his leakage can run into your punani and this is how new life is created.