i need advice please help CRAZY night

ok this girl i worked with went to a party, i worked a long shift so i was tierd and i didnt drink b/c i wanted to drive home and not spend the night, she tried to get close to me, she got drunk and then she asked me if i could give her a ride to her freinds, she said she knows how to get there didnt really know haha

she started like touchin me and makin moves than we started heavily makin out, she said she reallly wanted me to b drunk, b/c it would b less akward, but i wasnt and she was scared it would b wierd at work, and she told me she liked me for a while, and we made out for a really long time, i could of gone all the way but i decided not to b/c i knew it would b bad later so i didnt i only bade out w/her basicly..it was fun though, anywayz she got home at 6am and then i went in to work to check my scedual and i saw her and i gave her a hug and she smiled n walked away quick...as if idk she was akward? her brother works there too, and we both dont want him to find out, idk wat to do, should like txt/ call her?

i dont reallly like her like THAT but shes cool, and i think she does like me more than a freind lol, idk help

 

u kno what i mean though ppl i dont kno if it only happened cuz she was drunk or she really likes me idk....

 

do you hang out with her? are you friends with her? do you two do stuffs together normally?

 

So, you don't really like her like that, yet you had no problem making out with her? I really don't understand people these days. OK first you need to tell her that you really aren't that in to her. Be honest, it isn't fair to her for you to be stringing her along and giving her the wrong message, even if it is "fun" for you. Then tell her that you don't want it to be weird between the two of you either, you would just like to be friends. It might hurt her at first, as rejection usually does, but eventually, she will meet someone new and forget about you.

Good luck.

 

i hang w/her at work usually, we talk alot i guess..yes im freinds with her and we did stuff together once it was THAT crazy ass night

 

well... maybe try hanging out outside of work then.. and see what happen... i don't think it would hurt since you guy hang at work...

 

Don't text her, that's lame as all hell for a potential date. Call, yes. Ask her out to coffee, spend some time substance free together so you don't have to wonder if it's the booze that attracts one person to the other.

 

im sorry but takin a girl out to coffee at 16-18 is lame..haha
and the booze might just bring out the truth at times, unscared of gettin rejected drunks say what they think:]

 

I thought you said that you don't like her like that. WTF. If you are using this girl you are an asshole. Grow the fuck up. What goes around comes around.

 

Well, making out with a girl you don't really like is pretty lame...

Actually coffee and getting to know someone is probably a good thing for 16-18 year olds to do instead of getting drunk and making out with people when they are only half coherent.

I think you need to grow up...but that's just my opinion.

 

it's an opinion you probably share with the rest of us, though.

if you do like her ask her out. Going for coffee is a great idea, or ice cream, or whatever. I think coffee, if she likes to play chess, bring your chess set with you. Or invite her to shoot darts, or play pool, or something else along those lines (but don't go out of your way to let her win, that pisses girls off more than anything). if you don't like her, don't string her along.

 

Not when I was 16-18... my first date was getting coffee then going for a walk by teh riverbank, it was really nice. Way less pressure than getting drunka nd expected to makeout with some ugy who I wasnt sure if i even liked when i was sober, or who would like me when I was sober.

Someone suggested icecream, thats a good idea too... just hang out, substance free, get to atcually know one another.

 

Thats pretty prudish.

We were doing worse younger.

 

That doesn't make it right...in fact, it doesn't make it very healthy either.

Call me a prude...whatever...think what you want.

I just know that drinking and having sex or "fooling around" at that age doesn't really get you anywhere in life but pregnant (or getting a girl pregnant) and potential alcoholism.

I think kids these days need to start having coffee or ice cream instead of having alcohol and a little sex on the side. Gee, what do you think would be the most productive solution?

I think it's lame and there are a few other women in here that think the same. If you were grown up, you'd know that stuff like that isn't healthy and she may actually have an underlying problem. Maybe you should get to know her...and you might figure out why she was like that in the first place. Girls like that could have been sexually abused in the past, or she may have a drug/alcohol problem...those kinds of actions she had towards you show that, in the least, she's not very proud of her body or herself.

 

"Worse"?
As in proper english for "badder"?
As in what they were doing was "bad"?

Getting drunk and making out because of it isn't the best way to go. But caring about how she felt afterward shows that maybe you have more feelings for her than you admitted in this thread.

 

im sorry people but i really disagree...making out with a girl that likes me and i like her is not a bad choice, i have known her for a while,and we are freinds, and once she got alcohol in her system she had deep convos about how she feels about me..and then we made outttt...

i think her bro found out and he hates meee...LOL

 

On the scale of prudishness.

And I had bad role models starting at 14... We had a pretty depraved crew.

 

Gee, I can't imagine why her brother isn't fond of you at the moment. Could it be that you took advantage of his sister? Hmmm.... If someone did that to my sister, he would have a broken face. But I'm violent. And this has nothing to do with prudishness... you people have no clue. Grow up. Hebrew, you said that you did not care about the girl in the way in which you would like to have a "relationship" with her, and you know that she wants to have one with you. Therefore what you are doing by stringing her along and pretending to be interested in her is wrong. I don't care if you all want to chalk it all up to being stupid kids and this is what they all do these days (screw around when they don't actually care about each other) it still does not mean someone's feelings are not going to get hurt here, most likely the young lady's. That was my point. If there were no feeling involved then I'd be the first to say screw who each of you want.

 

Uhhh, making out when person A initiaties it is not taking advantage of person A. Its not th enoblest thing you could do, but its not taking advatnage of them.