Me and My partner have been dating for several months now, and have begun to experiment with Oral sex. I have performed cunniligus on her many times now, and have never expected anything in return, or wanted it. But i am beginning to wonder, if her reason for not wanting to return the favor is a trully heartfelt reason, instead of a selfish ploy. I do not care if she simply does not wish to perform fellatio, it is understandable. I personally love cunniligus, and would "go down on her" whenever she wished. But I need your opinion, do you believe she is being true hearted? "I dont want to, i mean, I want to, but I know that i would be crying during it, and that i would really regret it. I mean, Doing that for a man would make me feel weak, like your slave. Im not here to service you" I thank you for your consideration...
It's not about service, it's about pleasure. When you're with someone, you want to give them pleasure, make them feel good. Or at least, that's my take on it. But if she's gonna take that attitude with it I wouldn't push her performing fellatio, it just doesn't sound like it'd be worth the hassle afterwards.
Thx for the advice, but my problem isnt trying to force her to perform, I really prefer giving than getting, I just cant understand her idea that pleasing your partner is a service. When i consider it a right.
Maybe its her way of saying she simply doesn't like the idea, but doesn't want to risk the idea of you turning round and saying something like "but why not, I do it to you ?" Some people find it harder to just say no, for fear of hurting the other, maybe she's one of them. Put it down to one of the great mysteries of life and wait. Things may change, or they may not, as your relationship develops. Waiting is the key to this one.
Some women do find it humilating. That's certainly possible. I myself am not into spanking because I feel that would be demoralizing. My boyfriend asked me if I liked it, and I said I'd never tried it. He tried it once when I was going down on him and I just shook my head -- he got the hint and that was the end of it. That's just me, that's certainly not anyone else. It also could be an excuse -- she could be embarassed by it. I was very embarassed the first time I tried it out, but once I got into it, I loved it. It's wonderful to be able to give that much attention and pleasure to a person. If she is a virgin and young, it could be frightening to her and she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. If you are fine with her not going down on you, then I don't really see a problem with it. My impression, though, is that you're not fine with it, else you wouldn't be asking these questions. I'm sure that if you thought she was being sincere in her response -- that she would feel like your slave -- than you wouldn't be asking us what we thought of it. But I don't get that from you. If you would like her to try it, perhaps while she's doing it you could give her positive comments -- tell her how good it feels, and how much you're enjoying it, positive encouragement. I wouldn't give her dirty talk, I think that would embarass her. I myself love it when my man talks dirty while I'm going down on him, it's a real turn on. The thing is, it has to be a positive experience for both of you, in order for it to become something more than just a trial. So if you tried it and she still doesn't like it, well then that's it, I guess.
i think she's had something happen to her by a man to make her feel weak. but i think its wierd that she thinks giving head will make her feel like a slave when you go down on her whenever
