I kno I am going to get a lot of shit for this but w/e...fuck u assholes......anyway.....my g/f and i have been going out for about 10 months now and she desperately wants to blow me....but i never let her....i just feel it is degrading for a woman to put a penis in her mouth...even tho i eat her out constantly....i dont kno what to do...she has even threatened to break up with me....its tearing us apart...but i just cant bring myself to let her down there...what can i do...?....any advice...plz???.....(fuck off ppl that are just going to say...be a man and let her u pussy etc....)
i personaly think its degrading if someone made a girl do it without the girl really wanting to , if u get what i mean. but seen as she's offering i dont see why u shouldnt let her give u a bj,obviously she feels like its not degrading, and if its a bj thats gonna save your relation ship then a bj it will have to be
it's not degrading. let her love you..... it could be interpreted as degrading if you don't let her blow you
The object of a relationship is to have a person (sometimes the only person in the whole world) to Trust. You obviously have a high regard for the 'person' of this woman of yours. Just don't allow your feelings to isolate her from the real world while you are 'protecting' her. Sorta like protecting her from herself. That may be why she's threatening to walk - not the b/j thing, the lack of trust in her that she knows what's right, and her feeling of being overprotected. I know you're rough and tough, SaintJ, maybe that's what attracted her to you. Then when she wants to get a little 'rough,' you won't let her. Try it lying down, no clothes; or sixty-nine sideways, where no-one is "going down." Treat her carefully or she really will walk. Lots of other women also. They look at it with the same desire and abandon as we do! Good luck in upping your sainthood by yelling, 'Thar she can blow!"
Haha, that reminds of this guy I talked to once who would get grossed out at thoughts of a woman giving him a bj.. He said that he can't imagine any woman wanting to stick their mouth on something that piss comes out of.. Anyway, I don't find it degrading at all if she's willing to do it.. Darlin, the girl wants you badly enough that she wants to put that penis in her mouth.. Sheesh! *mumbles; what is wrong with the world today?*
some women also very much so enjoy being degraded in the comfort of their own homes with someone they love and trust. they get off on it and it can be a very big fantasy for them. do you ever fuck her really rough from behind? call her dirty names in bed, or slap her ass while shes doing housework? all of those htings can be considred degrading but all of them can be enjoyed in the right circumstance...eseentially your hang ups arent allowing her to explore her own sexuality, or allowing her to be fully herself with you.
Imagine if every time you wanted to lick her pussy she told you NO.....you would likely feel rejected, disappointed, etc. Unfortunately that is what you are doing to her, even if unintended. There is nothing wrong with having sexual hang ups, most people have them. However, you might want to dig deep in your pysche and ask what you find so degrading about your dick in her mouth. Did you see a bad porn that turned you off of it? Did someone tell you it was degrading? There is nothing degrading about oral sex as long as you dont shove your dick in her mouth (and even that can be fun in the right situation) It is hard to maintain a relationship that is lacking sexually. If your SO likes to suck dick and you dont allow her to suck yours she may move on. So, maybe you should think about it from her point of view....heck, ask her why she wants to, her description might make you want to drop your pants and have her show you. Good luck
Heh,could you imagine that? This dude's chick goes & finds another guy that will let her suck cock? That'd be priceless!
She desires to express her love and acceptance of you and your body in that way. Try to relax more. Oral sex can be like paying homage to one's body. Maybe try it during sixy nine while your mouth is on her genitals. That may put both on an equal view for you.
just let her suck it, man. sheeesh! what's so degrading about it? it's a perfectly natural part of intimacy.
I am going to say this...you may not want to hear it...a washed cock is quite a bit more clean/sanitary than any kind of pussy. If you feel like cock sucking is degrading...then how can you bring yourself to lick her pussy? The key is this, relax let your gaurd down a little. She wants to make you feel good, it's not a bad thing she wants to do to you. Your refusal to let her do that for you more than likely makes her think that you must not truly like her/trust her. If she tries it, and you just don't like head...then that would be a different story. Remember, in love and sex you have to be a gracious reciever as well as a gracious giver.
i understand where you're coming from, but maybe you're actually very insecure with your own body, and dont want her to see. maybe you should ease up a bit, and also, a girl breaking up with a guy because he won't let her suck his dick is ridiculous. Besides, if she cares more about giving head than you, then you should be the one doing the dumping
.....anyone who has everkissed another person and swapped spit, has given and received more germs and viruses than all the pussy licked or dick sucked in a month. If you want to kiss a clean mouth, you're better off kissin' your dog! Arff!
I think she's not that good of a girl if she threatens to break up with you if you don't fuck her mouth, like, seriously who does that? If you love the sex though, I'd advise you to let her blow you, and if you still don't want her to, then you're just gonna have to set the tone, but it seems to me you haven't gotten blown, so you should probably try and see how it is, if you have, at least see what it is with her.
Interesting that so many of the replies here focus on her feelings and not yours. Still, I'd recommend letting her suck you (take three times to form a strong opinion) *unless* you are *sure* in yourself that you are against this - in which case she will have to make a decision about what is really important in her life. Whatever, stay true to yourself - modifying your behaviour against any strong natural inclination will only ever end up being destructive to your relationship and your life.
