I made a post a while ago about my girl.... well ive been trying to move on from this as she has found someone else but she keeps giving me confusing messages...she constantly flirting still and being sweet...more than what a friend would be yet she previously made it clear the feelings were gone. Is it possible that she still has feelings and is just scared of them? Should i try to push a small 1 day meeting or something? Advice please. Thx
I would just leave it alone and try to move on. She is probably just flriting. If she said she is scared of a relationship and then got into another one, it's a sign she's not that interested. Besides which, you cooling off will probably make her pay more attention to you. Which I would ignore, if I were you. Just move on. It looks like she has.
It sounds like it "feels different" because you two no longer have the excitement of being "forbidden fruit". As long as she shouldn't like you, you're exciting... Now that it's ok, you're not so appealing any more... A disturbing number of people seek out sort of emotional validation when they are feeling that something is lacking in their current relationship -- she can flirt with you, have you say all kinds of nice things to her, but she isn't at risk of having to do anything physical because you're far away... But don't come visit, cuz she doesn't want things to get out of hand (or get out of hand again if anything physical has happened between you two in the past).
Yes I agree with insanejester and others here. Sounds like you're being strung along. I'd move on, if I was you.
she truly is just holding on because she doesnt want to loose you. dont underestimate the situation- she may truly like you, but like you said, if the circumstances arent in favor of a commited relationship, maybe she is just wanting to hold on to friendship. and maybe she feels that if she doesnt keep you interested, you may wander off to forget about her entirely. i think she wants friendship. if your not interested in just being friends, then i agree, maybe stop the contact.
