True love is forever desisrsmarter: im bak... hehe KooJMS: o great desisrsmarter: true love is 4ever? worng KooJMS: o yeah desisrsmarter: and ur in "true love with ....dont remember his name... so ill call him zach" KooJMS: no im not desisrsmarter: then??? desisrsmarter: just there? KooJMS: we'll no junior high or high schooler is has true love there all to imitrue for it desisrsmarter: not all KooJMS: i beg to differ ever so much KooJMS: nobody goes out with sombody because they love them true love is perfect and takes a long time to develop desisrsmarter: one of ur favorite songs...check yes or no... the story behind it KooJMS: they werent in love as children but as they grew to kniw eachother they fell in love desisrsmarter: " do you love me? and if u do check yes or no" and since then they had loved each other desisrsmarter: 3rd grade? desisrsmarter: not even in jr high KooJMS: it wasn't true love though desisrsmarter: ....! dont debate against me KooJMS: there is a diffrence KooJMS: and i can debate about true love desisrsmarter: it was..... beacause they loved each other enoough to stay togher for ever.... desisrsmarter: no one person can define the meaning of true love! It is different for all! KooJMS: yes but later the loved eachother enough they didn't marry in 3rd grade desisrsmarter: ofcourse they did not marry in third grade.... they still had school and such in their way desisrsmarter: marriage is not a sign of true love KooJMS: its one of them but still desisrsmarter: no.... KooJMS: u wouldn't understand if u never experinced it desisrsmarter: exactly... and u havent... and i havent... desisrsmarter: and thus our debate ends desisrsmarter: with a tie KooJMS: i don't settle for ties on this KooJMS: amar and michell told me never to desisrsmarter: u told me that u personally cant define true love! KooJMS: amara* desisrsmarter: who r they KooJMS: no i said i can debate it desisrsmarter: u proved urself wrong! desisrsmarter: omg desisrsmarter: ur in a lost debate KooJMS: like i said u wouldn't understand desisrsmarter: wxample"KooJMS: u wouldn't understand if u never experinced it" KooJMS: i never said i could define it desisrsmarter: we'll no junior high or high schooler is has true love there all to imitrue for it desisrsmarter: and u fall in a high schooler catergory KooJMS: i havent not true love desisrsmarter: then u cant know what it is desisrsmarter: lost debate KooJMS: i know that its perfect KooJMS: that should be enough to know desisrsmarter: nothing in its state is perfect desisrsmarter: that is simple to know... it is called love desisrsmarter: no difference between normal and true love... KooJMS: it is the only thing in this world that is perfect desisrsmarter: :-D desisrsmarter: nothing is perfect KooJMS: and there is u can easily say to some one u love them KooJMS: but... desisrsmarter: no matter wat it is desisrsmarter: no u cant desisrsmarter: unless if u truly dont love them desisrsmarter: .... KooJMS: you can never honstly truly say that u truly love them unless u do and that is the diffrence desisrsmarter: if u talk that way.... i cud say " i love u " to u .... and it shud mean nothing right? desisrsmarter: this way.... i can say anything at all KooJMS: right desisrsmarter: and it shudnt affect u KooJMS: but u can never say u truly love some one casuly desisrsmarter: in that same way i cud also call u white trash/dumbass and it shud not affect u KooJMS: it wouldn't desisrsmarter: but u can... desisrsmarter: they r just words KooJMS: its a mental game KooJMS: but true love is physical desisrsmarter: love is not expressed by words...but by feeling desisrsmarter: brb desisrsmarter: think some more desisrsmarter: kkk im baqk desisrsmarter: in a debate like this none will ever win... because... love is defined... and true love is no different desisrsmarter: the only thing is that "true lovers face less obstacles" and broken lovers are broken because they cudnt face their extreme load of obstacles desisrsmarter: few ppl find real love or in ur words"true love" because thats how they r.... they r raised that way... to believe in only the purest of love desisrsmarter: in the way u tell it.... there are two types of love desisrsmarter: true love and -normal love desisrsmarter: wat im trying to say is that normal love is just a crush and true love is normal love desisrsmarter: or that crush is a really good friendship : i had to take care of my nephiew u haven't one KooJMS: won KooJMS: homer answer or i win desisrsmarter: ... KooJMS: as afamous poet once said"love...True love is a gift beyond a gift desisrsmarter: notice the first word.. desisrsmarter: true is just an adjective KooJMS: as michael said though that who i love has passed on i know her to be the truest felling of my heart true love. Though i will miss her much she was my perfct companion because she truly loved me as i trul loved her KooJMS: Michael found it KooJMS: they were going to marry KooJMS: but a couple of days before the wedding she died desisrsmarter: micheal? KooJMS: you wouldn't know him desisrsmarter: anyway... do u not understand american lieratuure... desisrsmarter: ? KooJMS: but he taught me so much desisrsmarter: many people say that true love is their feeling KooJMS: much more then u learn in school desisrsmarter: but in the end they usually divide desisrsmarter: love is not for all KooJMS: i know it was true love for him because he gave some of it to me to experince a littile desisrsmarter: love is the feeling that u call"true love" KooJMS: a passion only understod by the one who holds its prefect brightness desisrsmarter: .... dont go poet on me KooJMS: no love is a word that means nothing near to true love KooJMS: in the english language true is a adj. desisrsmarter: that is because it has been degaraded to that KooJMS: but in the heart it has much more meaning desisrsmarter: "true is ony said by people who havent broken up in over long per of time... desisrsmarter: "love" is said by idiotic divored peeps KooJMS: when u have it u will see the diffrence KooJMS: and that is were i end this debate desisrsmarter: i said in the beginnig that love is not for all desisrsmarter: and it isnt for me desisrsmarter: it is a hassle not to be taken I kinda like her.... we're good freinds and had a good debate!! 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happiness, having someone to love you and who you can love gives you the best feeling ever..its the best drugh i swear!
I think it's different for everyone, depending on their experience, but I really think it's being able to love and accept each other, faults and all (as long as theiy're not distructive to either each other or as individuals), and give you room to have your own life (friends, goals, etc, basically where you love and support each other without being smothering, or controling, but without being a doormat and having enough selfrespect to tell them when you don't like something they're doing, and the maturity to work thorugh your issues. A healthy relationship, in other words.
Depends on the nature of the love. True spiritual love is unconditional and platonic, with no expectations or exceptions. Grace, you might say. True romantic love is the same, only less platonic - oh, provided it's reciprocated I should add. I am very much in love with someone, but she is not in love with me so everything we do together is completely platonic. And the spiritual love I feel for her transcends the romantic love, so we make pretty good friends, considering our lop-sided relationship...
love is so amazing. as soon as you get a taste of it, your completly addicted. to me, it's giving your whole soul to someone else, with no fear what-so-ever.
Love suffers long and is kind; Love does not envy; Love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek it's own, is not provokd, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things. Love never fails.
I'm new, so please forgive the long winded post. My friend Cyndi, a member here, knows I have a low opinion of men just a wee bit.LOL. My experiences haven't been so great. I was living with a man who I'd been seeing for three years, when he just up and decided he didn't want to be comitted. Would have been nice to know this before I wasted three years of my life with him. He did not want marriage or children, and I was perfectly fine with that. I never brought it up even once. He recently, within the last year, met a girl with a child from a previous relationship, and now they're getting married. He told me she wouldn't stop pressuring him to marry her after about three months of being together, so he finally gave in. Now, he is on this "father" kick. Nice. So, I guess if I had bothered to bring up marriage while we were together, then hounded him about it, maybe we would have gotten married. LOL. I don't know. Men confuse me. I know how paranoid they are about marriage, and I am too, but why do they break off 3 years with you, to later marry some girl who pressures them to death for marriage after only a few months? I'm pretty sure I'll stay single until I die. Dating is a joke these days and the men in my state have too much ego anyway.LOL.
"True love" depends on what rubber ruler you're using. If another person's happiness is essential to your own, then that qualifies in my book.
I'm sorry that you wasted three years on a guy who turned out to have no backbone. Three years is a fairly normal "make or break" point in a long-term relationship, and from the sound of it, yeah, he wasn't worth your time. Look back and see how he's doing three years from now. Odds are the gal he's with will have kicked him to the curb because he isn't strong enough for her. Irony is a powerful force, and sometimes having isn't as good as wanting. She wanted a husband more than a solid relationship. He wanted peace more than freedom. Now, they both got what they wanted, and it probably won't be what they want before long. And there are good men out there. You just have to check on a lot of lilypads to find the right one. BTW, long posts are fine so long as you have something worthwhile to say.
