where to turn?

where do you go and who do you turn to when you have forgotten how to love yourself?

 

and don't say jesus or i'll kick your ass.
lol

 

Jesus....


No, seriously....
When I hated myself....and just didn't know how to love me again, I got away from everyone around me and had some ME time. I re-discovered myself and now I love me.

 

I do what moon does.
I just wanted to get away from everyone...other people just seemed to make me feel worse.
For a while, it was food that I would run to, but now that I know it's a problem, I'm trying to work through it.
Sometimes a good dose of reality from dh helps, too.

 

my best friend, she's always been there for me, ever since we were kids, and even though she moved thousands of miles away. And yes, prayer. Don't pray to a higher power if you don't want to, it's all about introspection, looking inside yourself for the answers to your problems.

 

When I get like that, I usually just lay in bed all day wishing I was dreaming of a better life. But my best friends take care of me, whether it means forcing me to go out for the day, talking to me on the phone telling me jokes, bringing me toasted pb and j, or whatever. i have the best best friends

 

Do something that you love to do. Maybe volunteer, read a book, go swimming, mediatate...

Do something that makes you feel good...

 

I usually turn to my grandma or my 2 best friends. But usually my grandma she just has the right words.

 

i don't have people in my life like that right now....i think that's what is making it so hard for me this time.

 

Thats hard to not have people to turn to. If you want you can pm if you need to talk. Feel better

 

You don't know me and I don't know you but you can talk to me anytime. I'll listen.

 

I honestly, for me, anyway, don't think that you really need anyone to figure out things...or to find yourself again...in fact, I think it often hinders the process. Doing things for yourself...often by yourself, allows you to think of yourself...and only yourself. What good are we to anyone else if we can't be good and take care of ourselves.

 

*hugs*

 

((((lucy))))
it's rough when that happens, you can pm me as well, if you like. I have gone through times when I had no one for years at a time. No friends, no one...it really sucked.
Yeah, if you wanna talk, I'm always here

 

I make time for myself to self-evaluate. I think of all the things I like and dislike, the things that I enjoy, the things that matter to me, and what kind of person I am. If there is something I find, that I am not happy with, I formulate a plan on how to change it.

For example, if I'm feeling down on myself, say because I haven't been as nice as usual, or something to the effect, I think of ways I can make myself feel like a better person... be it volunteering somewhere, picking up litter, or just helping out a friend.

When I'm feeling bad about how I look, I take a look at each part of me, and think of what it does for me. Like, my eyes help me see colors, and beautiful things... my hands create things... my feet get me places... my nose can smell sweet summer air... etc. And it helps me to look at my physical self, in a non-physical way so that I don't focus on what I DON'T like, or how it looks.

However, I enjoy pampering myself when I'm down on myself. Taking a bubble bath, or just doing a little extra with myself like painting my toenails. I eat good, healthy foods, exercise, and spend extra time with my cat.

I like to do a lot of art too... writing, taking photograhs, and painting.

You don't have to talk to anyone, really, just write down all your thoughts on paper, and that is just as good. Getting your thoughts out, and organizing them is PROCESSING...and when you process your thoughts, its therapy for your pain.

If you really need to talk to someone, call your mom. Family will always be there for you, even if it doesn't feel like it sometimes.

The biggest point of what I am trying to say, is simply take extra care of yourself when you feel like this... live healthy, and you will start to feel healthy, emotionally.

 

I turn to writing. It helps me figure everything out. The writing isn't quality at all, but just the act of putting my feelings down on paper has me feeling much better, faster. Poetry, random thoughts, whatever. It all has value!

~Nova

 

^^^I used to keep journals, and I'd fill them with everything I was upset or happy about. writing can really put everything in perspective!

 

I turn to the pencil and paper. Writing has always helped me through hard times. Just remember to smile every day!

 

I really like what this african lady said to us at the beach the other day.....
we were walking over to take her place in the sand since she was leaving and my omi says to her, "what a beautiful day today, it's quite a bit cooler," and this lady said back, "any day you're not pushing up daisies is a beautiful day." and she left. Apparently it's not and unpopular expression, but it was the first time that I'd heard it, and I thought that it was nice!

 

Well i know lately i haev not been myself....:-( anything that happens i snap i yell i am a crab ... i think if it gets any worse i'll land myself on the 3rd floor (just joking) It's hard to find TRUE friends w/o getting back stabbed i'm always getting blamed by my parents for not goign to my home city to "visit" when i'm the one with the low income. I have MY schedule but it always seems that no one cares what i'm doing just what they are doing, i had 2 summer classes plus work and 2 step children. I have no clue how to handle anything anymore i'm not me i wish i could just curl up in a shell and not come out till i new myself again. Anyways sorry to babble but thought i would just post .

PG