I love phone sex, but lately I'm struggling. My regular phone partner keeps asking me to talk dirty, and get a little more controlling, and to be honest, I haven't a clue what to say. I rarely get angry or aggressive, I am in complete control at work as a Manager, but on the flip side, am completely shy and quiet outside of work, and definately very sexually submissive. My regular phone partner ends up telling me what to say, and I repeat it like a parrot, but honestly, inside I'm thinking "Wish I could say it without being prompted, because it would drive him wild". He says it sounds so sexy and hot when I say words like 'cock' and 'fuck' because I have a well-spoken, sweet and innocent, good girl, british accent, but he also knows I struggle with it, and I wonder if its anything to do with the fact that I'm a virgin, and therefore a lack of experience to draw from. Lately, he asks me to read him erotic stories over the phone, and while he does his best to hide the fact that that is what he is really unloading to, I still can hear him and am beginning to feel a little down that I can't trip his triggers anymore. So, calling all sex experts out there! Any advice on how to talk dirty/become more assertive, and blow this guy's rocks out ???
yes, I'm still a virgin...what's the big deal !???! I'm not the bed hopping type, and in any case, I had a lot of issues to work through, before I could even let any guy near me, even as a friend. And then I had to learn to love and accept myself for who I am. Now I'm all sorted, real sex will follow one day, when I find a decent guy I trust...but for now, as a newbie in my sexual awakening, I'm really really loving phone sex. I just need a little help with the dirty talk.
But is phone sex a real alternative to a proper sexual relationship. I indulge in online sex but this is only secondary to my real life sex life.
Phone sex is great for the imagination. ANd i believe that is a good experience. Whatever sexy is in you, is there and u just gotta find it. If u have troubles saying cock and fuck, i dont really know if i can be of much assistance.. but i would definately recommend moaning his name
tell him what you want to do TO him and what you want him to do to you, and use words liek fuck, suck, lick ect You sound a bit like my partner, he has a very sophisticated and innocent voice and yes, him dirty talking is hawt, but i know how hard it is for him sper of the moment. So get your thoughts/words together before he asks you, and just blurt em out whenver hte time is right!
Your fear of sex is even in the phone area-so you either got it or you don't. No one can make you be someone you are not. I would suggest some therapy instead of what to say etc.
Thanks for your responses. Woodcat & Wizarddrew77- I wouldn't say I have a fear of sex, just have been very sheltered from it, and negative experiences from men made me run from you weird creatures, and the issues. I've had and am having therapy, but believe me, phone sex has really made a huge difference in my life, and in who I am. But I can't help it if there aren't any decent guys on my horizons, that don't end up being 'friends' by the end of the first date, after they tell me their life stories and why they are who they are, without me asking, and I become their shoulder to cry on, and nothing more. I know it must be something I'm doing wrong, because I really do want a relationship, but it just isn't happening, and I'm not just going to jump into bed with some random bloke, just to have sex. I want and feel I deserve more than that, so for now...the phone sex is what I have to make do with, while I keep getting out and meeting men, and I'm having great fun with it all....I just don't know what to say that is considered to be erotic, and dirty, and assertive, when I simply don't have any clue where to start. eechi & Lainey - thanks for the tips...I'll give it a to tonight!
When you masturbate, have your fantasies involve dirty talking. Try to talk dirty to yourself too, while mastubating... the more you do it, the more used to it youll be and the easier it will be to say something when the guys is on the other end of hte line.
May be you should try a different angle when you date a guy. Instead of getting all deep and serious, getting to know him, his life storie ect, just go and have a good time (doesnt have to involve sex at first). Just go out to enjoy youself and see where it leads. Keep things simple and pight.
LOL I thought the same thing-start off slow and keep the sex part for later. Phone is kool-but get's old and then you end up on here asking people stuff to say. Good luck with all that.
