All right, now imagine this: You hook up with a casual acquaintence with whom you've hung out a few times and found pretty interesting. But something is not quite right -- you end up with whiskey dick or are too big or hit the wrong spot, or she just isn't in the mood after all or doesn't come; perhaps you even hurt her a little and know it. Afterwards, she seems cool with it and you, and perhaps even says it's all right. You have no reason to believe otherwise. After a few days, she calls you and acts as if nothing had happened, again giving you no reason to believe she is upset and/or angry. Do you believe her? Do you think she wants a relationship? Do you think she is trying to act nice before she puts your balls on the grill? Be honest -- what would you think?
i have no idea to either of your questions, i never really did much of the whole dating scene. you should be painfully blunt with people, its honestly the best way to sort out whos worth your time and who isnt.
Those responses may be out in left field as all Folks/ situations are unique. Sometimes the fish just won't bite regardless of the bait...
Outlined this because its the phrase that didn't sit quite right with me. If this were me, even in a casual relationship, I think I'd really want to expand and discuss the situation if I felt like it didn't gel quite right. If I did something that I thought would ruin my chances of future encounters, there's no doubt that this would be sitting in the back of my brain. Whether or not it's for casual sex or a relationship, I'd still feel obligated to making the sex as wonderful as possible. Depends on how much we've had a chance to talk about it. I would ask her point blank. I mean, if I've taken the step to share my body with someone, even if it's just a friend, that's still a pretty intimate act. I'd want to know exactly what her expectations are. Oh, GOD I hope not. My balls are much better when fricasseed.
it seems like the sex may have seemed painful during the hookup, and that can make a guy hesitant to jump into bed with that person right away, out of fear of causing pain again. Guys are taught from a young age not to hurt girls, and it can be a mental thing when it happens for all involved in this scene. Sounds like that more than thinking about the depth of the relationship. Basically, any person in this hypothetical situation has two choices, talk it out with the other person OR be left to wonder. Talk about it honestly, leaving it to the imagination can blow it way out of proportion! good luck!
I'm not sure where the anger bit is coming from. Why would she be angry or want to put his balls on a grill? Because sex didn't go right?
Do you believe her? Yes, but maybe that's just me. Do you think she wants a relationship? Not based on just the scenario you describe. Do you think she is trying to act nice before she puts your balls on the grill? Personally, I wouldn't think that about anybody - but then I do tend to see only the best in people, and have endured being called naive plenty of times for it. Someone more cynical might see bad in anything. Be honest -- what would you think? I'd think it was pretty cool that despite an unsuccessful hookup she still wanted to be friends. I might be wondering where things were between us, but if I was wondering I'd also be asking. That's me though, not the hypothetical guy you're asking about hypothetically in your hypothetical scenario...
