how am i supposed to just open up to my therapist?

I posted earlier about what I had been going through....

Well since then I have gone to a therapist (once and have an appointment friday). Well he told me i have depression and anger issues...but i really dont want to go friday...i dont reaa\lly feel comfy talking to this stranger about whats going on with my personal life..i mean its really hard to 100% bear your soul to someone you dont know...

especially because drugs are a very large part of my life and my familys life...and i REALLY dont trust this dude enough to admit to all of that shit...

but at the same time i know i need some kind of help because things keep getting worse...i cut myself the other day after spending 2 hours right after i woke up crying nonstop...

but damn..i dont know what to do..i know this guy is not gonna have me feeling better after i see him friday but i need somethin cause like i said i keep getting worse.

i hate to say it but i wish this dude would just throw me a pill lol...i know they take a while to work but im really starting to be afraid of,well, me...


so any advice on how to trust this guy..or well any advice at all

 

Leave out the drugs if you want but some therapists can figure that part out and can't say anything since you signed a confidentiality paper. Read it.

Just tell the therapist what you want to say, no matter how stupid. Tell them about the stupid drama in your life, your conflicts with your parents, friends, significant others, etc. That's the bull shit most want to hear and I tell my therapist about it and she eats it up. Works for me, hope it helps!

peace and love

 

well i am willing to try that but i dont know how it would help w/ the way im feeling..and i cant afford to go on a regular basis (like i dont make enough for the hour round trip in gas plus the $30 copay once a week) but im worried if i just flat out say like look is there some kind of medicine that will actually help me? I mean my friend went to the doctor and within 15min had paxil...but i just want to feel better..like i just dont feel like myself anymore...

 

maybe you should stop doing drugs then.

 

I never understood that principle of just going to some random therapist and opening up. They are humans too.


If you don't feel comfortable with this therapist, just try to find a different one or be your own therapist(works for some).

 

ok first off..what drugs i do dont have anything to do with the ones my friends and family do...and what is a huge part of their individual life...and frankly i dont think its my business to tell him, however my friends cocain use has played a role in all of this

secondly that is basically the problem..its like how can telling you about my ex boyfriend and the kids at school gonna help....and what about people who are pleasers lol i mean this would never work for them

 

A therapist under most conditions you could tell him you just dropped acid and they will not take any legal actions. They will normally do nothing unless it is a direct danger to somebody being a minor or bodily harm. Bodily harm to them does not mean being a drug addict (not saying you are or your friends) but rather if you just told him you took or are considering taking a lethal dose.


I know plenty of people who see the ol head shrinker and have told em point blank they had done lines of coke that afternoon and all they did is talked about why they felt the need to do so and that sort of crap.

 

i kept going to because i developed a HUGE crush on my therapist, SO not good!

 

I have had a problem with this also. So I understand.

The key is-
first, make sure you feel comfortable with the person. If you dont "click"- find another therapist.

However, if you do click- realize this person is a professional. They arent gonna laugh at you, gossip about you. They are doctors and very mature about these things.

Realize that you won't be judged and that by not talkiing honestly YOU ARE FUCKING YOURSELF. You DESERVE to get real help and to get real help you need to be HONEST.

 

well I have ralized that i honestly cant see him right now, I was supposed t o friday but I cant afford to and friday is the only daythis week i work...so i cant afford to lse 3 hours worth of pay...but i think if i can find someone closer to my home it would be easier..but i just...i guess ineed to figure something else out

 

Sometimes talking about seemingly insignificant things like favorite songs, stuff that pisses you off, can make a big difference. It lets the therapist get to know your personality. Bullshit may be the easiest and best way to help you open up. Ie, I talked about a gd song that was stuck in my head and she got a picture of my feelings and thoughts based upon the words that stuck out in my mind. It's easier to talk about stuff you would to your friends instead to your therapist. Most shrinks are decent, from the couple that I have seen.

peace and love

 

My advice would be to go to your doctor and get him to refer you to a local shrink.

I know how hard it is to trust and open up to a complete stranger, but they are professionals, and members of a psychologists/psychatrists guild of sorts. If they break the rules of this - for lack of a better word - guild, they have their qualifications revoked, and can't legally practise therapy ever again. One of the rules is patient-therapist confidentiality, which means they can't reveal anything you've told them to anyone at all, without your express consent, unless you tell them about plans to kill yourself, or another.

That said, it can still be hard to open up to a stranger. If you feel uncomfortable talking to your therapist, simply change therapists untill you find one you can connect with, and feel comfortable talking to. It can also help to spend a session or two just getting to know one another, it can be much easier to open up to someone if you know a bit about each other. I realise money is a problem, but when all is said and done, it will be cheaper to see a shrink a dozen times than to be on meds for the rest of your life. Try telling a relative or close friend that you are having problems, and need a loan to pay for counselling if money is that scarce.

Hope this helped.

 

well i went to the doctor and he sent me to the therapist...i dont know what i want to do but thanks for the advice

 

i meant so you can find a closer therapist

good luck

 

People I have lately talked to do not trust psychiatrists any more.
It is ironic that a science meant to help people has come to judge their actions, or treat them as puppets.

 

Meds can help but if you have other reasons as to why youre seeing a therapist, you shouldnt just get on meds and hope for a quick fix.


Anyways, Ive been seeing my therapist for about two months and I still dont feel fully comfortable with him. Just yesterday I felt really embarassed talking to him about something, but he encouraged me to be open and I was. I think no matter how long youre seeing someone, its going to be tough to talk about certain subject matters. But, once you do speak up, you feel A LOT better.