Ever wanted to kill your parents..

Pretty shitty title i know. but this is whats going on. for longer than i care to remember, my parents have been this way. This way that everything they say is right, nothing is left open to interpretation, nothing can be debated, and nothing is ever good enough. I just got into it with my mother because i woke up and felt hungry. i asked what we were gonna eat and she said that we were gonna have what we had the other night. i simply didnt want to eat it. no big deal right. ill wait for something to come along or something later. so i then start to feel a lil nausious from not eating. I dont cop an atitude or anything like that, i just stop feeling well, and my parents make it so that im acting like a child because im not getting what i want. No room for debate. THATS WHAT IT IS. I say "i dont have an atitude." and the only reply i get is "yes you do." so let me ask you this. Ive been at this forever; trying to make them understand that theres more to this world and more to life and simple comprehension than their view on it. Should i just let it go on. sit back and listen to their bullshit. smile and nod my head, all the while wanting to just strangle them to death. or should i release some of this aggression in the most peacfull way i can. I dont know how and trying to do so might even stir up more agression. All i know is that having these thoughts is not right. I can acually invision myself ending her life so that my life and everyone elses will acually prosper from her leaving it. Horrible, and im ashamed to even say these things and it hurts me that things have come this far, but i cannot excuse these thoughts and these feelings.

 

I can acually invision myself ending her life so that my life and everyone elses will acually prosper from her leaving it.

Ask yourself "how would I prosper by being convicted of murder and letting the media sensationalize this situation and paint me to be the evil kid who killed his parents for a less than justified reason?" The menendez brothers were victims of sexual assault and were painted to be monsters. I'm also going to guess that you're in your teen years since you mention living at home and having mom fix dinner for you. For the next several years, save as much money as possible and move out. Buy your own groceries so you can eat what you want. Show your parents that you are independent without being ungrateful. Channel your frustration towards them into something productive like making a five year plan step by step to prepare for moving out and moving on.
Good luck

 

i don't know how your parents are but i'd say keeping your anger inside is never a good thing
try and release it in a healthy way, perhaps joining a gym... or possibly talk with them, tell them how you're feeling
theres the old analogy that like a shook up pop bottle keeping your anger inside will only lead to you exploding at some point, so finding a healthy outlet for your anger would probably be a good thing to do
hope everything works out for you

 

Theres tons of people in this world who are what they say is right from teachers, to parents, from some crack head, to some polotician. You cannot change a person, you can only give your 2 cents, but you cannot change someones mind if it doesn't want to be changed.

I know my parents piss me off and i just want to kill them. But not literitly, im just so pissed for that moment that I jus can;t help it. I would never harm my parents EVER! But sometimes I get mad and say things I don;t mean, which happens to all of us. But killing them youd never prosper nor will anyone else you will just get in shit and spend years of your life in prision, people who care about your parents (other siblings,friends, family) would be mad as hell at you.

But if you don't want to eat what they eat a simple solution to that would be to make your own food i mean you are 20 and probley know how to use a stove. But don't argue with people who aren't going to listen your not going to get anywhere, its only going to make matters worse. Your point won;t get to them.

If they chose to live that way thats the way its going to be, if they don;t want to realieze theres more to life well they won;t. The Dahail Lama once said that some people have to live through what they are living through inorder to learn their leason for this life time. (not the exact words) (+if you believe in such things)

But good luck with your situation

 

arent all parents like that? talk talk talk talk for 1 hour about what they think and believe and when you try to put and opinion of yours and it doesnt align with theirs they say "ya know what? i dont have to listen to this" and walk out. just ignore them. or just do what they say and pretend you are okay with them. i just find it better for me to keep what im thinking and feeling inside rather than telling my mom since it never does any good and always leads to arguments.

 

Move out? I personally would feel like a dumbass coming on here and complaining about my parents' take on my nausea. Really. Leave if you don't like it.

 

Um, DarkStar you're 20 years old and you wake up and ask mommy what's she going to serve you, decide you don't like it and then pout and are nauseaus......And then you want to kill you parents. You should feel lucky they don't toss you out on your mommas boy tummy ache ass.

 

Seconded.

 

Oh, and just who the hell gets nauseous from not eating dinner?

 

I think murder might be a strong reaction.

Seriously, what probably happens is you sounded like had an attitude, but didn't realize you did. Happens all the time with my parents. Maybe when you cool off a little, you can explain to your parents that you don't intend to come across as disrespectful.

 

I know the first thing I want to do is kill my mother and father everytime they tell me I'm coping an attitude....when I usually am.


You're a big boy. If you're old enough to complain....old enough to get a job....and old enough to move out; do it. You're 20 years old....are you going to rely on mommy to cook you breakfast for the rest of your life?

 

If your 20 why are you living with them anyway?
Why don't you get your own place and then you solve lot's of your problems too.
If you are DEPENDING on them they they can CONTROL you.
Same as in any relationship most people it's all about controling another thru fear and whatever else they use at the time. So move out-get your own place even if it's a room somewhere. Then eat what you want and do what you want.
murder is a bit much-I have had people do worse shit to me in my life and killing them was not something I thought was kool or the answer.
Self Defense is a whole other thing.
Killing another person is not a great feeling afterwards. Have you ever killed anyone?
Talk to some people who have done it and see how they feel about the after effects.

 

Well, I can think of better alternatives.

• buy your own damn food and make what you want, when you want. (My 20 year old daughter has two jobs and is going to school. She buys some of her own food, so if we aren't eating when it suits her, or what she wants, she makes her own food.
• Move out. Get your own place. Then you can eat whenever you like.It's better than killing someone.

My own mother drives me to distraction. (I'm 44, she's 66.) She is one of those people who never will admit when she is wrong, doesn't ever apoligise (because even when she is wrong, it is some one else's fault) and blames and blames and blames,denies denies denies. She makes things up to get herself out of the trouble she causes and "forgets" anything she doesn't want to deal with, but if people who actually have lives (she has NO interests or hobbies of any type) forgets ONE thing she may have mentioned in passsing, she rages like a Bull in front of a red flag. (Then denies that she is angry. ) And the diagnosis, "Passive Agressive" must have been invented for her.

Hey, our parents drive us crazy and when we get old enough, we will drive our children crazy, all this driving is supposed to drive the young from the nest when they don't need to be cared for as a child anymore....

It's Nature. And Nature is saying, "Get your own place, dude."

 

Star, if these feeling become overwelming, it is probably best to get some help. There is nothing to be ashamed of, but if you feel you might, at all act on these impulses, or find yourself thinking about this endlessly, then seeing a counselor would help you and your family.

Ruining lives (your parents and your own) is not what you want to do. Help is there, even if you have little money.

Good luck.

 

When you Live under someone else's roof it's usual and customary to Live by their Rules.

Don't like it?
Move on down the Road...


Appears these aren't the responses he was wanting.

 

Is it so hard to cook your own freakin' breakfast?

I'm currently dependant on my parents, and they get their way no matter what, or i find somewhere else to live. Fine. I'm looking for a job, and moving out ASAP.