Ok, this is(was?) my first relationship. I feel that me and my girlfriend were very much in love, until she went on a 3 week exchange program to iceland. While she was there, she missed me incredibly for the first week or so, and I was very supportive of her...then things changed. She suddenly decided to start fighting with me, but I thought we worked that out. When she came home, she wanted nothing to do with me...she won't tell me what happened because she promised someone that she wouldn't tell me....? I have pretty much ended the relationship because it's pretty apparent she doesn't like me or want to be with me anymore. The thing is I am still madly in love with her and this loss is tearing me apart. It is the single greatest pain I have ever felt. I just don't know what to do
As cliche as this sounds, the only thing you can do is move on as hard as it is. I suggest perhaps trying to contact her again and kas, but if she's being this stand-offish, I do'nt believe you'll get an answr from her. Still, I think it's worth a try, you have a right to know why the sudden change, imo. Good luck and hope that helped.
Don't try to get ahold of her. It's hard, but you need to move on. If she's acting shady about going on her exchange program, something probably happened that she's feeling guilty about. I guess if you REALLY need to know....try to talk to her, but you'll probably just get more hurt. Just....move on.
first of all, you say you thought you worked it out, did you ask her? did you get in a fight maybe just before she left? if she was there for 3 weeks then she had probably adjusted to living there, (since you say exchange i assume you mean she lived with some kind of host family) she had a whole different life for those 3 weeks, i did an exchange once, it was for 2 weeks but i was incredibally sad to leave. when i got back i tried to seem happy, but it was such a big change to adjust to, just as it was when i first arrived in brazil. and another thing, unless your girlfriend is a total bitch, i seriously doubt she decided to start fighting with you. maybe you said something offensive to her and she took it the wrong way or vise versa? and if you already broke up with her then i think you already made the decision to leave and should try to move on and find someone new. this is you first relationship, so maybe you should try a few more before you get so upset that this one is over, gain some experience, or go on an exchange yourself. maybe later in life you two will meet again... does that help? if you have any other questions you can PM me, i think i understand how your girlfriend feels right now because i was in a similar situation. but more information would help me help you.
I'm sorry man and have been there on this one. I think what hurts most is when they will not as least give you the decency of telling you the truth. How people treat others is how they feel about themselves and she must feel pretty bad about whom she is and what she is all about to treat you that way. Yes-move on and now at least you know what you DON'T want in a relationship which is what it's all about bro. Hang in there and you'll see pretty soon you will meet someone who Deserves your Time-Energy but even more important your Love.
