i need advice..almost exactly 3 years ago, i met the love of my life. i never really believed in love at first sight untill i met this boy. we were introduced by a mutual friend at a dead show at darien lake ny, which is like a half hour from my house. the second we shook hands, and ours eyes met I swear to you, i heard birds singing and saw flowers dancing, it was like i just KNEW this person and i would had an intense connection. the only problem, i was living someone, bu t it was an abusive realationship and i was looking to get out but couldnt detatch emotionally at the same time. anyway to make a long story short, this guy ended up coming home with us and staying @ the apt for a week or so and things happened between us. we began a sort of secret realtionship. he lived on long island and so did my friends. we would see eachother for a few days or weeks at a time, i was doing alotta traveling at the time. we went to a few festival together. finally at musefest he pretty much asked me to BE with him be with him, but i just couldnt go. he had a drug problem and i couldnt leave my ex at the time. th epoint is despite all this bs, hes the only person ive ever felt liek i REALLY loved. one time we were laughing together and making out in the grass and this dude chillin nearby had been obseerving this and commented "wow its nice to see 2 people so in love" no body has ever noticed i wa sin love before. anyway i havnet see this boy in 3 years BUT i soemhow found him on myspace, i thought id never see him again but now i have a way of contacting him BUT i have a ne wman who is good to me but th eother boy had never escaped my mind. i guess im just looking for someone to tell me i need to leave the past behind but its hard in this instance becaus eive never had these feeling for anyone else and ive had a lotta boyfriends any advice would be grately appreciated. Sorry to rant like this but i just needed to get it off my chest **whew**
^ agreed if something made you find him after 3 years, it happened for a reason so take advantage of it
the respectable thing to do would be to tell your new bf that you need some time to figure stuff out and break up with him untill you've talked to this other guy and found out if he's still interested in you
^^ur right.. i wouldnt persue him if i was still with my boyfriend..im not one to be sneaky like that..my ex deserved it tho. the thing that gets me is ive been thinking about this guy ALOT over the past 3 years, and thats not normal for me. i usually slam the door to my past. i guess i just gott afigure out i fi really wanan risk my current relationship for this :/ plus i have a sinking feeling this person might not still have feelings for me.
I definately agree that you should go after this guy, but don't get too close all at once. But one thing that I will add is that I think it's VERY important to talk to the one you're with as of now because nothing good ever comes from something hidden in a relationship. <333
