An important question for the old hippies..

(..or the young..whoever can help me!)

One a common phrases used by hippies is, "Peace, Love, and Happiness" - right? Well...I take these as words to live by...but I have a problem. An anger problem, to be specific. I inherited a short temper, unfortunately, and I need to overcome it before karma kicks my ass. Can anyone suggest ways to chill out when my anger gets the best of me? I'd really like to get in touch with my peaceful, forgiving side. Thanks a million!

-Brandy


(Sorry if this is message is out of place)

 

Smoke Marijuana?

 

I must have been born with a short temper, still got it. Constantly fighting in high school. When I was about your age I went in the Army. There was always an opportunity to vent my frustrations, lots of yelling and screaming going on LOL. I'm older now and a little wiser. Wise enough to know I can't take an ass whoopin like I used to. Plus the old lady is going through menapause now (oh boy if you think you got a temper now just wait about 30 more years, JEEEEEZ!). But anyhow because of that I recently purchased a speed bag/punching bag and it works wonders. You might try that. Just a thought. You don't need to chill when you get angry. You need to VENT.

 

lol...Occasionally, but I don't stay stoned 24/7. Maybe thats my problem.

Thanks to both of you for your replies...that punching bag sounds idea sounds fun!

 

Here are some things I have found helpful in becoming a more peaceful and peace loving person.

Slow down your life. Take time to smell the flowers and appreciate nature.

Go for walks in the woods or on a beach often. Getting closer to nature connects and centers you.

Do some yoga, it makes a world of difference in you physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

Pratice Nonviolence in everything you do! Check out some peaceful music at http://www.soundings.com/ They have been spreading peace through music since 1979.

Eat a healthy diet with little to no animal products. Eating meat is proven to create aggressive tendancies. Check out this web site: http://www.veganpeace.com/index.htm

limit your amount of caffiene. It feels great when you first take it but when it wears off you can become irritable, short tempered and paranoid.

Try taking the Rescue Remedy (Bach Flower Remedies) when you feel yourself becoming anxious, irritable or aggressive. A drop or 2 goes a long way and really will chill you out.

Get a pet! Animals are proven to reduce stress and lower blood pressure.

 

Peace mosaic thread,

is it ok if if i use those good vibes to? having a hard time keeping the negitive from getting out!

later

the tired flower child

 

Peace love and happiness is the goal.You need to channel your energy towards that goal.It doesn't just happen.In straight talk it's called controlling yourself.Making the choice to be what you want to be.It's all on you.It comes from within and just takes practice.

 

I just drop my acid again. That was good L S D too.

 

whatever you do don't supress your anger, it's part of who you are and needs to be expressed

in addition to trying to find ways to relax, like some have mentioned yoga and weed, find ways to RELAESE, like a bongo, or crazy angry art

just a few ideas

 

meditation

 

Bella, playing a drum almost always works for me. Maybe it might work for you. Speed bag or any kind of strenuous exercise is also a good outlet. Just don't hurt yourself or you'll have another reason to be pissed off.

 

Don't listen to the hippies. Anger is a gift. Apathy makes you ripe for take-over. That was the inherent flaw in the "Peace & Love" movement. The hippies gave up, had kids, and lived nice and peaceful until they died.


Our only hope is the children that were spawned in the process, growing up with hippy ideals, and then systematically rebelling against their weak and peaceful elders.

That's my opinion anyway.

 

In Jamaica the term for getting high is to GET RED...in your case you may need to GET RED in the head when you get red in the face. As far as your anger management...you are in my opinion well on your way to getting happpier with yourself and your passionate temper. The fact that you have acknowleged it and wrote it here is a big sign that you are getting it together....that is if it isnt already fine ... Interperspective people like yourself can solve their own shit. Enjoy your path and as you lose relationships cause of your anger..you will also get new ones from your passion. Only you can decide what you will keep and lose of yourself. If you wanna lose the anger...i think you will...it comes with wisdom which i believe you have alot of. Peace sistren
rasta richard
www.seaheart.com

 

it's so much easier to walk around with a smile. don't get me wrong, i get really pissed from time to time..it seems that one person will get all the shit that everyone else should of gotten that's just me.

 

It takes time to change, but you can do it.

Step#1: Recognize that it happened. (the sooner it takes you, the sooner you get to step#2)

Step#2: Realize that it’s happening now. (while it’s happening, not just after, that’s still step#1)

Step#3: Stop listening and reacting to everything and everyone around you , get deep inside your mind and think about what started this, how it got to this stage and how your are feeling right at the moment.

Step#4: Get ‘back to reality’ and start listening to the other person (or persons) and attempt to view what’s happening as if from an outside person that just walked into the situation.

Step#5: Get back into your mind and think about how important this really is, tomorrow, next week, or even next year, will you remember what started it? Likely not, what will be remembered is what was said in anger and that there was an argument, the reason the whole thing started in the first place will be forgotten in time.

(NOTE: Step#3,4&5 can happen in the blink of an eye.)

Step#6: Be big, be brave, be mature and swallow you pride.

Step#7: Wait.

Step#8: Listen. (Really listen, not ‘hear’)

Step#9: Talk.

Step#10: Forgive (yourself as well)