So a couple of nights I get my ass kicked good for no reason at all (if you want to know what happened read here http://hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=185947). So obviously I'm feeling a little down, so tonight my girlfriend (whom I've been with for 2 and a half years) takes time out of her busy schedule loading up programs on her new laptop to go for a 5 minute walk with me so we can talk about what happened. So here I am, in need of some support or at least a hug or two, instead I get a lecture on why I shouldn't go to party's and how I should magically know who bad people are and to stay away from them. So I'm not really talking to her right now, cause I'll be honest, it hurt a little bit. But maybe I'm just reading into it all wrong, maybe she's just too busy to care anymore (she's leaving for uni in the fall). Just...whatever
I'd have done the same thing. Though those things do happen and it's not as if you were looking for it (were you?). I skimmed the other thread. You're hurt but don't you think she's speaking some truth there?
Yeah, it's sometimes difficult to not get mad at someone for getting into trouble, even if you know they didn't intend for it, if you think they could have avoided it, so I think if she didn't care she wouldn't have said anything.
hes supposed to magically know when people will break into his friends house and fuck shit up? IKt sucks, talk to her about it though. Say it was something you just needed support in, not a lecture. Everyone does all sorts of dangerous shit every day... hell, you probably have higher chances of getting a broken bone from crossing teh road than going ot a party with booze.
Shes probley just pissed off that you got hurt. She obviously cares about you enough to be with you for 2 1/2 years. I mean you can;t aplogize you didn't do anything wrong, just talk to her.
Thanks, I'm going to talk to her about it tomorow, this isn't the first time she's made me feel like she doesn't care, but hopefully she'll understand.
insane jester: I don't think he was expecting to be pampered. He just wanted to vent and he needed someone to listen - instead, he got a lecture from the one person he was hoping for support from. If that had happened to me, I'd be pissed off as well. mellow: Although he does have a point, dude. Get over it. Talk to her, if it helps, but get over it.
I thought you were banned? Anyhow, nobody is meant to be pampered but everybody needs love and support in times of emotional turmoil, man or woman.
Naw! I. Jester is correct. Whatever happened to maleness? We really don't need to be pampered and cajoled. We are able to be sensitive and caring and also carry our own burdens! As for banning, how can you ban the silent partner who owns 53% and half of Montanna?
She's probably upset that you got hurt, and wants you to think about the people you party with so it doesn't happen again. When we are afraid, many of us act out in anger. She's afraid. She's upset. If you were my boyfriend, I'd be expecting you to figure out how to never be in such a situation ever again, not sitting there whining about it and saying none of it was your fault. I mean, who wants to date a guy who hangs out in crackhouses, anyway?
Hmmm.... Who said anything about pampering? I was just pointing out that mellow wanted to vent out his anger and he wanted his girl to listen without lecturing him. That's not pampering. That is, listening without judgment (at least for the time being) is not pampering. And as for your question, "whatever happened to maleness?", are you saying that the old "real men don't cry" standard of maleness is the one to follow? "We are able to be sensitive and caring and also carry our own burdens!" - I agree. But that doesn't mean that we have to act like Superman. If every now and then we decide to bitch about our problems, well what's wrong with that?
Mellow: I think she acted out of concern, but because of her fear, upset, etc, it became anger but I think it's just 'cause she's worried about you. I do think she was worng, though, she should have listened, not lectured; you aren't a mind-reader and had no idea those dudes were going to come in and cause trouble. I suggest talking to her again, and saying that although you can appreciate that she is upset and concerned, that you were looking for someone to listen and support, not lecture. Hope that helps and good luck.
"Well quite frankly... the girlfriend was right... he shouldn't go to places like that if he can't handle himself... " I agree, she was right. But this is not about being right. "why should she pitty the poor bastard for gettin his ass kicked?.. " 'Cause he got his ass kicked. That's why. "If he'd of been any relation to me, I'd a kicked his ass again... I'd of told him to stop being such a pussy or stop playing with the big dogs..." I'm sure he's glad he's not related to you then.
you sound like a dumbass....she is just pointing this out for you i take it you do alot of stupid shit like this?
