Got sort of an interesting situation (think I posted about this a few months ago but can't locate it now). A little while ago the wife told me that her best friend and her husband were swingers (I already knew this from the way the husband talks about things) and also that she has/had a crush on my wife since High School)..Which I knew by watching how she acts around my wife. Wife had no clue though. LOL Anyway, after hearing this (and knowing wife is bi-curious), she goes on to ask what I though about swinging.. Told here I though it was ok (not acting to excited mind you.).. Then she ask what I'd do if they ask us to swing with them... This stopped me cold... WTF!! Now Her friend is HOT as hell and I think That would be great. Thing is we've all been friends a long time (more than a decade). So I don' t know might be kinda weird.. But then again at least we know their history and that we're all clean. I told here I didn't think I could do it with them because we were friends for too long... Now looking back I think that was probally stupid..she acted kinda hurt. It almost sounds as if I were saying "no honey I don't want to fuck someone we know is safe, lets go fuck stranger that may have any stds" I don' t know its all confusing. The more I think about it the more interested I become in the idea. Thing is I don't know how to bring it up. Its kinda weird.. I use to be the one that was really open to new things, now it seems to be the other way around.. That don't sound exactly right.. I mean I'm open to new things.. I just have a hard time talking about sex to her.. What do yall think. .Should I maybe mention it and that perhaps I've changed my mind and explain why I had the knee-jerk reaction in the first place? Im not really concerned that she would leave me (can't see why she would as she was the one that brought it up in the first place) . But I don't want to hurt here either.
Go for it. Better with people you know and trust! My wife and me have been thinking about swinging for a while now, but if we did do it I know it would have to be with people we knew and trusted!
DOnt go there. If you want to try swinging, find a new couple to get to know and go from there. Its too wried to do it with someone you've known for years in a non sexual relationship. If you value the friendship, find another play couple.
Your wife already talked to the other wife about it before you were asked. If you would have said you were down for it then they would have asked. The wives work this stuff out with their husbands first. She was probably disappointed because she wanted to and didn't want to have to tell them you didn't want to. If you have changed your mind just bring it up again to your wife or bring it up during sex. She is into it or she wouldn't have asked. Decide what you want and then act.
If you're just nervous because you've known them for so long, I'd stick to mrpwonder's advice - find a new couple to swing with, if you're comfortable with it. Break the ice a bit and then see if you want to maybe get into it with your friends.
Doesn't the idea of your wife sleeping with another man bother you? Your friends wife would have to be hotter than youra to make it worth while for me. Wow, i'm shallow..lol.
We have been in swinging situations in the past and never did it with anyone that we were close with, like friends or neighbors. You will always find some horny husband in town who wants to fuck your wife, or any other wife. Sounds like potential trouble to me. Keep things distant and cool.
I disagree with you all. The best swinging experiences are among friends. They are well adjusted ...trust each other ..etc. The issue is ..are you prepared for swapping??? Jealousy may destroy your relationship and the others!!! be careful and try going in stages ...like nudity ...then flirting ..then oral ..etc. Go slow ...if it hurts or not confortable ..just back off or stay at the level you are. My wife and I have tried and it works fine.
