People say such rude things.It hurts my feelings.

I hate it when people make rude comment about others weight . One of my friends told me another girl said I looked anorexic and I got confused.I have always had problems with my self image.So when she told me someone said that someone said i looks anorexic i got confused becuase I have been trying to lose weight.Its so confusing and fustrating.Im far from anorexic but I have been asked several times if I was.I wish people people would kee comments like that to themselves.

 

I hate that too. I've watched people comment on others' weights, and it really bothers me. Referring to people as things like "that fat guy" or "that anorexic-looking girl". It's rude and it hurts peoples' feelings, not to mention degrades the person commenting on such things.

 

Why do you care so much what other people think of you? It's pointless. YOUR opinion is the only opinion you should worry about.

 

If you're being asked if you're anorexic and you still think you need to loose weight then perhaps you are.

 

I know I have a body image problem and I am see someone about it,and I do eat.I dont starve myself.

 

Yeah your right.

 

while i totally agree with the 'dont worry about what other people think,' thats really hard for soem people to do, no matter how much theyd like to think that others opinions dont matter. people atleased care what the people close to them think; and that is enough to influence the way you think about yourself.

 

That's most always the case.

 

i get that alot. i mainly lost all my weight from being poor and homeless, but even without that i was always thin. now a heavy person could come up to my face and say the meanest things about me being skinny, but if i made the mildest reference to thier plight in the other direction, i would get treated like i was the meanest person in the world. even got written up for it at a job once.

 

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as a friend and sister to several people who've suffered from true anorexia nervosa, i worry. sometimes people will say things insensitively when trying to probe something that may be of concern to them. sometimes people are just being bitches. the only thing you can do is listen for the subtext, process it as such. then move on with your life.

 

Argh I hate that too!!! When i used to hang out with a lot of girls they would always comment on what people wore, what she looked like or how big/thin she was! It drove me crazy so I just stayed away from them! But I know how it feels I was constantly hated in grade 9 for either not being skinny, pretty, or not being a fashion queen. (I am thin and Im pretty but they just wanted to make me feel like shit) What I learned is to srugh it off, because in 20years or even a year from now what they thought doesn't matter!

But just shrug it off, or try to sometimes its easyer said than done. Be happy with who you are, cause at the end of the day your all that you got.

 

My first thought was that as well -- maybe you are anorexic if you're that skinny and still think you need to lose weight. You admit to having some issues with your body image. But you're not starving yourself...

How much do you talk about food -- which is the lowest fat option, which has the least calories, etc.? That's the kind of stuff that I expect to hear from someone who is trying to lose weight, but that's also the kind of stuff that anorexics stereotypically obsess about. And, unless your friend is with you regularly at mealtimes, she may not know whether you are eating at all.

So, perhaps the comment was made out of concern rather than out of an intention to hurt you or to be rude. A lot of people don't know how to react to eating disorders and think that if they just tell you that they think you're too skinny, then suddenly you'll realize that you need to get healthy instead of losing more weight.

 

I don't like it eaither. there is not happy in the middle with anyone.. you are eaither to big or to small. Trust me I no this I was picked on my whole school life still about my jr year they stopped. I have tried to lose weight but it is not as easy as it sounds. life is really hard and everything. people can't expect you to be perfect or anything. I am happy with the way I look sometimes. but for the most part I am not.. but when people comment about how big I am it makes me very said I just think back to the days when people picked on my all the time and I just made me want to cry....

 

Those people who say such things are usually shallow and superficial, all what they care about is weight!! they dont care about mind or principles, just weight and hair color!! :crazy:

 

i get that too, i've put on a bit of weight now, but when i was in my early teens i was crazy skinny. boys would throw stuff at my legs, trying to 'snap' them, and on other occasions girls would come up to me ask if i was 'okay'. thing was, i ate just like everyone else, i just had an extremely fast metabolism!

my best friend even once told me that when she first met me, she was scared to talk to me in case she said something wrong...thinking i was anorexic/bulimic and depressed about my weight. i seriously could not believe that she, and apparantly everyone else, had thought that.

high school's awful because people see something/someone different, and they speculate and gossip... treating people like walking exhibits. of course it hurts, when you're young you're becoming independent, and like it or not, depending on your peers for feedback on your progress. the problem is, when you're in highschool the feedback's kinda concentrated, and it's easy to assume that that's what the rest of the world will think too, but that's almost entirely not true.

i would recommend stopping where you are with dieting, if people have mentioned (ha...'mentioned') that you're looking slim, believe them and quit while you're ahead. it's obvious that you've achieved your goal. as for changing people's opinions, wear clothes that make you feel confident and attractive. if you feel good, you'll look happy, and people will stop thinking that there's something wrong.

 

my ex boyfriend asks me constantly if i'm bulemic because i lost all the weight on my hips over the past year,. all assholes should die right now.

 

hahaha imagine that, all these people just randomly fall down...