okay here goes...my best friends (much) older brother i just found out is in love with me. he wrote me a long letter confessing his love for me and all that. he says he has always loved me. this creeps me out a little i have lived with this guy since i was 12! we have always been friends & all, ive always been the only one that even trusts his theiving ass. he wrote some really creepy stuff in that letter. not even flattering or anything, just...creepy. i dont even know what to think of it because he has never showed any sign of liking me that way, hes always been kinda like a big brother. anyways i still have to live with this guy and i dont know how easy it is going to be. he knows i dont feel the same way but he wont stop hitting on me. im thinking about getting his dad to tell him to lay off (i live with his dad too) but i dont know how his dad would react because i know how protective he gets when it comes to me & older guys but this is his son. i dont really know what to do advice would be good...
Creepy how? Jsut tell him you think of him as an older brother, and aint nothign gonna chagne taht. Try to let himi down easily, and consider finding new lodging in case it turns out bad.
Tell him to back off and no means no. If he still does not honor that I would seriously move out of the situation. I know that's easier said then done but your being abused now and that's not good for your head.
yeah, nip this in the bud, ASAP. you should never be made to feel awkward or uncomfortable where you live, no matter who it is making you feel that way. ask for help from the guy's dad, and if he doesn't stand up for you, get out of that situation. call up the nearest women's crisis center/shelter and ask for help. the best thing you can do for youself is to not put yourself in a situation to be abused.
Oh noes! Someone expressed interest in her without any social graces, hes obviosly gonna abuse her. Might as well jsut attack hi mfirst, nip it in the bud Awkardness/creepiness doesnt mean she needs a freakin womens shelter. Jesus.
True, but no-one needs to put up with it either. Declarations of love can provoke many different reactions and feelings, but if someone creeps you out nipping it in the bud is the best course to steer - and kindest to the person being rejected.
Hmm tell him you're not interested, and if he doesn't listen, tell his Dad and see if he can talk any sense into him. If nothing changes, I'd move out. You don't need the awkwardness.
Id coin that as harassment, not abuse. Maybe in a workplace setting it coul be construed as sexual abuse, but more likely itd be called sexual harassment. Not that theres a ton most legal forces can do about sexual harasssment, or anyone for tha tmatter outside of the workplace.
i dunno you guys. its not like he's a stranger and i can just move out and get away from him, its not like that. i have to find some way to deal with this. my god though he is persistent. fuck it, im just gonna tell his brother. i didnt want to do that before cause i know hes gonna whoop his ass, but if that will get him to uh, supress his feelings for me then im okay with that. its probably the only way.
OK then fine. Tell him if you does not back off - you will tell EVERYONE you almost had sex but he was hung like a baby and couldn't get it up. LOL
