I Want To Be A Mommy

but I know I need to wait, and I'm definately planning on it, but sometimes such as ovulation time, it becomes increasingly important to me and I freak out by the prospect of not creating a baby.

I have a sweet, itty bitty kitty, but she's being house trained, and I can't spend much time with her right now.

Is anyone else feeling this and how do you handle it? I think I've been handling it well for a while, but every now and then it gets crazy, so I just want to be able to deal again when that time comes.

Thanks in advance.

 

i have serious baby fever and have for a while, but am currently without partner, so it's just not going to happen anytime soon. even my kiddo's been telling me that i should have a baby.

maybe a solution would be to pour that creative energy into some other kind of project? i dunno. things happen when the time is right, y'know...

 

I get this too. I feel the need to have a baby. I see a lot of the girls that i grew up with have kids. The time is not right for me. I need to get my degree before that. I know exactly how you're feeling. Your body says yes, but your mind tells you no. The perfect time to physically have a baby is in your early twenties, so this is why our bodies keep telling us this. I try to put all of these energies into my studies.

 

Yeah, I'm starting to write again, that should help. And I went home and all of my friends have kids, or are pregnant and married or divorced. It's very strange. Not that I wasn't feeling it from myself.

 

I have that same urge. I think its because I just finished school and am fairly settled and it now seems l like a possibilty. I know I need to wait though, but I agree its def. a hard urge to silence sometimes.

 

Have lots of sex, that will give you a baby.
I'm sure the guy wont mind helping you out with this request.

 

i hate babys but i still would absolutely love one. its weird. one day i think i probably will have one. until then i remind myself why i hate them!!

 

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haha, oddly enough that only makes me want it more.


At the same time I truly feel that split personality as well. Why the hell would I do that... There's only one part of me that's ready and a gazillion parts that are not... it just happens that one part has a really loud voice and will not stop talking!

 

I've always found it kind of arrogant to think your genes deserve to be passed on.

 

Ditto, but it came to a point when I thought I was worthy, and not just my genes, but my ability to care for and take care of people, I've been taking care of kids and adults for a long time, never wanted to have kids, but now I do... sorry, but without the hormones, you couldn't possibly understand... thanks for playing.

 

Haven't feminists been arguing for decades that hormonal urges don't overcome rational thought?

 

i thought you were a mommy....*confused*

 

My two babymakers are on standby for you, lady - and I do have big ones, believe me ! Just drop me a note once you made your decision

 

haha, spiritually I am, hippyfreek, I've lost two. And spooner, I could give a shit's less what feminists have argued, but actually if you look at what I've posted that is in fact exactly what I'm saying, that I feel it but I will not. Thanks again for playing, now it is time for you step off the stage, sir. sorry, you had your chance.

 

I agree, lol. I do.

There are so many children without homes---adoption centers are crawling from floor to ceiling with children that were "unwanted" and yet everyone is always so preoccupied with having their own child.

*shrugs* I don't know. I'm sure many women will disagree with me and what not... but, I say if you want a child, adopt.

I don't feel the need to ever have kids, of any sort, but if I do, I already know that I'm only going to adopt, and preferably children that are a bit grown, because those poor children have such a hard time finding homes...everyone always wants a baby

 

Oh and, to the OP, I can't understand it much, because I haven't experienced those urges, and probably never will just because its not my type of personality, period... [really dont care what anyone thinks, not ALL women have that type of motherly nature, so please dont argue with me about it]

BUT, All I wanted to say, was just make sure you do it when both your mind and body agree. That, in my opinion, will create the safest, most nurturing environment possible for your future child. Don't act out of urges. You're still young, you have plenty of time <3

Good luck though.

 

I'm with you on this one. Ok so i have a pretty negative view on kids, the more babies born, the more damage to the environment is done. So i think it's best to give a kid who is already been born the chance to have a good life, without bringing another one into the world and leaving that other kid in the orphanage.

 

Well sweetie. I hope that you never do have those urges. And I won't argue with you about anything. I don't think that all women have to feel the same way about children. But I will say that I DID NOT ever think I'd want to have kids. Ask anyone who's known me for 2 years or more. For the same reasons you did. And I do have a motherly nature, and I thought that if I ever did have the want for a child, I would definately adopt. For me, it really is not about the baby, it's about the whole life. But what I have learned, since I started feeling those urges, is that pregnancy is a very important time in the life and development of a child, I think that a pregnant woman is a beakon of life, and what happens during that pregnancy effects, the child, the woman, and a lot of people around them. Should loving, knowledgable, responsible people just not have children because everyone else is doing it? Just for the sake of being different... so yes, I still want to adopt, but I also want to get pregnant and carry a baby to term, and then raise it, and I'm not stupid enough to do that without being fully ready, and none of it has to do with arrogance or my genes, I could give a shit's less if my future child has zero of my genes, honestly, I just want to be able to create a nice gestation period for that child and then nourish it as well out of the womb.

Also what I was saying exactly, is that I will not get pregnant right now, but my body sure does want me to... I've been wanting to for a little over a year now, things have changed every few month, I've been pg twice, I had more desirable situations during those times. Now I know I don't. My thought... you're still young, don't assume you know everything you will ever feel in your life, and that your personality will stay the same. Things change.

I swear to you I said this over and over again from age 12 to 21:

I hope you stick with this decision if you can, but trying being a little less judgemental, it really does no good for you, it's tough being young, there are things you just can't understand until you experience it yourself.

 

Delivered our second child at home, planned. It was an amazing experience.
Perfect child, mother did great, and as family we bonded on the living room floor rather than some hospital room.

Having kids is a wonderful trip. The birth is just the beginning. Expect a baby to change EVERYTHING in your life and hold on tight to what and who you love.

Great thread.