I know there's a thread out there for advice on how to take Anal Sex---that's not my problem (in fact, for some reason it went in really painlessly and easily my *very* first time, and I've never had any trouble sticking anything of size in my back end). In fact, it's the complete opposite. There isn't much else more than I want than to top. But for some reason (or probably many, many reasons) I can't. I have difficulty entering the tailhole of my mate, and when I do penetrate, the sensations aren't nearly enough to get me to orgasm. I've tried different positions, and tried hard to hold on to the pleasureable feeling. But it quickly subsides and I don't feel much and often find myself starting to soften. It doesn't feel like my thrusts are making my dick feel like it's being stroked or caressed or massaged, no matter how small, big, fast or slow my thrusts are. The best one is always the entry, where I can feel my dick pushing past the anal walls. After that, little to nothing. I always figured that humping was something a guy just knows how to do and just knows how to get off from it. Makes me feel inadequate knowing that I'm having more trouble in the world with this than I have had with anything else ever before. That's the truth. I want to know if anyone has any advice, and if anyone knows of anything I can practice on... My mate can practice trying to take things of similar size more easily into the anus (which was always an issue), but I have no means of practice that I know of. How do I get better?
It's amazing how entering 'forbidden territory,' can have a severe adverse affect on the explorer. Blame whoever brought you up! You have been programmed that what you are doing is a no-no. No shit! No other reason at all for the little fella to fail so miserably. It's the brain, not the penis, Jayson. And I'm serious.The good news is that while someone else recorded those objections to anal sex in your brain, there is an 'erase' button. You've got to find it. You have to start over and look for the hesitation point, the feeling of, "is this really ok?" Rather than sticking it in and going to town, explore the territory, you have other 'tools' - use them. As you (and your not-too-loyal prick) become more familiar with the area, and welcome the smell, taste, and look, not too mention the feel to your fingers, your objection, unconscious or not, will give in to feelings of desire. That's when you'll be ready for a full time excursion. I may sound crazy, but I do know what I'm talking about. It takes work, patience, and the erasing of those tapes for some people. You're probably one of them. Good lick!
The walls and musculature of the anus don't necessarily lend themselves to providing the best of stimulation. Many people respond differently to either the stimulation or the situation - it's certainly never done much for me, but for plenty of guys it's the ultimate. I don't think either is abnormal.
Most important question: Are you using enough lube? Maybe anal just doesn't turn you on... Everyone likes different things and maybe buttsex just isn't for you.
Giving anal is how you look at it, for example, I see anal as dirty, cause that's where shit coems from and I myself just find it uneccesary. So it's up to how you feel.
perhaps the problem is just his butt isnt tight enough for you, it certianly sounds that way. get him to clench it if you can, maybe that would make a difference.
try fucking your mate by entering the anus, then get out of it and then enter again instead of the common way of entering once and staying inside. if entering is as easy as you say, it should not be painful. if still no joy, try other mate to eliminate the possibility suggested by dangermoose. p.s. is your mate male or female, if I may ask?
