Hi everyone! First of all i'm new to this forum but so far everything seems pretty cool. Secondly I have a problem and I was hoping to get some advice. I found an ex of mine on MySpace and what I saw on his profile really made me mad. Apparently he's now a Minister at some church and involved with a woman. I know for a fact he's gay and not bi so he's just leading this poor girl on. It just makes me so mad that he would do something like that. I really feel like doing something about it but not sure what. Am I wrong for being upset? What would you guys do?
Well... there are other things in life other then love. This ex of yours could very well find that his religion is the most important thing in his life, and following to a T may be as well.... As far as his orientation is concerned.... if he is married just to further his career, it's kind of his choice... most religions would frown on that, and if not the afterlife which kicks him, his karma will surly come around. However, he very well may be Bi, as people develope they're sexually has been known to fluxuate, nearing the late teens when people are most sexually active, they become more bi, and as they grow older they tend to go to one or the other, however sometimes they may lean more toward bi, or the opposite, it's specific to each person, and one should never judge. I personally do not think you should attemt anything but maybe talking and getting to be friends, but to possibly ruin his life.... no it is his life, and weither he does good or evil is up to him.... The wife may have some right to know, but it is his responsibility to tell her, not yours, and if you're wrong it may lead to much worse..... No, my advice is to try just to talk and be friends, if he is leading her on, then you're reappearance may trigger his conscence, otherwise, he very well may be sacrificing his own sexual happyness for other things, and having another friend to talk to, if need be, would be a great gift.
My advice to you is simply to , in your heart and mind, wish him well and leave it as if you never seen this information. It would really do neither one of you any good to pop back into his life and say anything, all it would do is create a lot of pain and anger for everyone and theres enough of that in the world, just, move on and enjoy !!!
^^ good words, sister. He's an ex. Keep up with him should he have political aspirations (track the church) so that he cannot turn his dalliances into a political anti-gay agenda, but otherwise, he is no longer there. I wish you well in moving on, yourself.
