Reflections,parents of gay and Bisexual children

A need was discoverd for a place where this topic could be discussed in a calm, loving atmosphere. PLEASE, no hate or judgement will be allowed !

 

My youngest son is Bi, and Ive watched him struggle with it and grow..and finally learn to accept it.Its hard for him, being the only one out of my 4 kids to be such a special person, and having a MANLY father, but, I understood where he was coming from and made a point of listening, and catching him when someone knocked him down.
I just wish all kids had a safety net,it can hurt pretty bad being different when your growing up.

 

Parent's of... I belive that would mean that the children are the gay/bi ones, but what is it you want to discuss?
How the children have a responsibility to tell them, they did raise them after all?
How the children have a resposibility not to tell them, the strife they would cause is very selfish, releasing the burden from themselves only to place it on the people who raised them?
How the parents blame themselves, or blame others for such events to unfold?
How the parents either don't accept, or at one point do, but only when they are old and in need of thier children's help?
How the parents are getting better and more acceptive, and how our generation is getting more aware of everyone, and hopefully all gay/bi children will be accepted one day as something completely normal?

...I think it's kinda a broad topic as far as it has been asked...

 

We are here to discuss any and all of the above..

 

I told my parents...when I was 17, I remember the look on my moms face. She told me she already had an idea that I was bi. She told me ..."the most important thing in life is to be happy with who you are." I cried....she cried...my dad did not want to cry in front of women..he left the room. I'm so glad I told them early...they have both passed
and I think of that day...all the time.

Thanks for starting this thread, it made me remember one more time...

 

In case no one is aware yet, there is a new thread started concerning Transexuals and Transgenders..for those who would like to discuss the lifestyle, there will be no hate allwed there also, only open minds....

thank you

 

Thank you Kissy..your parents gave birth to a rare soul when you were born,

 

Come on my friends..I cannot be the only parent with a child who is Bi, you neednt be afraid, simply open your mouth..your amongst friends here.

 

hmmm what do you think about parents telling their children they are bi? i've thought about this, and i plan to marry and be mostly monogamous with a bisexual man, but would like my children to know that we are both bisexual if for no other reason than to let them know it's okay to be straight, bi, gay, whatever.... however i can see myself not ever mentioning it at the same time since it seems like it would only come up if they brought it up... know what i mean? being bi is a little weird if you're not participating in gay relationships.. seems like there's no reason to tell anybody for the msot part. only a few ppl know how i feel about girls, and most of them aren't straight either.

 

I think its important to tell your kids about you when you see them having a hard time themselves, otherwise it may seem like you are trying to lead them in a direction they may not be ready for.

 

I couldn't agree more, like you hinted at earlier Tigerlilly your children may be gay or bi themselves and unless mom and dad are very clear that these forms of sexuality are acceptable they may start to lead a life of closet fear
S

 

i think you are such a great, wonderful and beautiful person. i have never told my family that i am bisexual and i'm nearly 21 years old. i know my mom and my one brother would be fine with it but my other brother, my father and my grandma would probably disown me. they are all very closed minded.

 

You got lots of friends here if you ever need us !!!!!

 

Much love to everyone in this thread!

This is my 'official' coming out ...

I'M BI!

I like boys.

And girls.

 

I always had a place in my heart for you Josh....and you always have a place here !!!

 

Gerri, you are a beautiful soul.

I love you deeply.

 

I still havent told my mom that im bi sexual.
She is pretty open minded,but still.....im little scared of that moment.

 

If I was gay or bi I wouldn't tell my parents. I haven't told them that I'm a marxist or that I have a girlfriend and some other things too...

 

i told my dad and he said the most important thing was for me to be myself and thats the only way to live. i guess from what he said the day before i told him my mom went "if Eryn turned gay, we'd still love her, right? thats our job, right?" and he said he got so mad at her for that. my dad and brother and friends know; theyve all been really incredible and supportive about it. i cant tell my mom or grandma; theyre very quick to judge and i have a feeling my mom would get mad:/

 

from what you said its sound slike your mom might not fully accept it, but would learn to live with it and still love you anyway!
S