Getting my ex back

Man, sorry but what I got out of all that is she is now banging David. I think you need to just move on here, you are just setting yourself up for some hurtin.

 

thing about that is she said shes happier on her own, also he's black and this may come across as racist but she swore it wasnt, she said she'd never be interested in black guys as more than friends although yes obviously that came across my mind

 

People as narcistic and pompous as yourself need to get a life even more.

 

I'd really be surprised if i am the ONLY one that has EVER gone through something like this

 

No but you are refusing to learn from their mistakes. You notice nobody thinks this is a good idea.

If she was racist then she wouldn't be hanging with him. Dude, if she says that he is treating her like a princess and taking care of all her problems then she is straight up interested or doing him already.

Yea, he took her to a resort for 2 DAYS and they are just friends. You can do what you want but the most I see you maybe getting here is a pitty fuck. I don't mean to be blunt but if she loved you she would be back in your arms already. She would also not be telling you how well some other guy is treating her.

 

ugh the situation just has me sick to my stomache sorry if i get bitchy or whatever.....i just dont see myself moving on....

 

The best way to get over a woman is to get under a new one. Just remember that neediness and dependence are not attractive qualities and will not win her back. Like I said, do what you feel you have to but don't be suprised when it doesn't turn out the way you hope. Myself, I would rather have somebody who thought that I was their "true love" not someone who it takes convincing.

 

it may not be the right word to say convincing in this situation because we're quite far apart (shes in colorado and i'm in vancouver canada) its more than just that, its how am i going to be there all the time for her? i dont know if i can be...not yet at least

 

she doesn't need you mate...she's got david!

 

yeh well i dont see why she directly said that i'm alot like him....if she was over me and has those feelings for him......i dont get it and probably never will

 

I know it can be hard to get over someone but this is bordering on an obsession. You aren't anywhere close to her, she is showing no indication that she wants to come back and in the past she has taken off an left you. You don't have to give up the love you feel for her but realize thats it over and date some new girls. You will find one you like even more if you would just look. You could drag this out for another 4 years but who would you be helping?

 

I have an obsessive personality lol go figure

 

dude, just read what she wrote! She's got a new love interest, and isn't interested in you. It's there plain as day. Women don't usually come straight out and tell you something if they think it might hurt your feelings, but anyone (everyone but you, apparently) can see that's exactly what she is saying.

 

See, this is why relationship issues should never be handled through email, im or texting. People read way too much into things and make them appear the way they want them too. I'm really bad at that.

Jer and I learned this lesson 5 years ago when we first started dating.

 

As i thought, if i asked my ex if she'd like to see me she said yes she would...early next year (my idea of a timeframe) not hers as if she was trying to push it back cause shes not, she just has to make sure shes not busy the time i come, she knows i want to stay around a month at least....should be good times....maybe this time we dont have to worry about past problems we had and just have fun cause thats all i want...i love her so much and just want her to realize how much so we'll have fun at least by the sounds of it...

 

Ok, my guess is she is going to blow you off before this happens. If this is all so important to you I would suggest not waiting until next year. She will definitely be in a relationship by then. If you want this you better move quick if she is willing to see and hang out with you. I still say it is not healthy for ya but good luck.

 

wow... we have some not so nice comments on here.. at least you guys could be nice while saying what you are feeling to him.. you know this hurts him and he has feelings too.

I think that if you love her with all your heart and I can tell that you do.. you should talk to her.. Send her and sweet e-mail.. slowly get back into her life.. cause you don't want to swamp her after everything she has been through.. Be there for her and comfort her.. show that you love her and maybe she will remember that see loves you too. but even though all that sounds great. they may be the chance that she does not feel the same way about you.. but I hope that is not they way it is... Wishing you the best of luck!

if you love someone let them go.. if they come back they are yours for life!

 

well its nice to see this place has some nice people on it, whether i am back in her life the way i want to be or not at least being her fulltime friend i'd feel useless to her, i just dont want to be out of her life forever for no reason, i feel like the only reason i'm out of her life as much as i am currently is because of my problem that i let her go for 2 years without contact from me...i didnt do that to hurt her in any way but to let her move on without me hoping she'd see what a mistake it was...also i wanted to hurt her now ex husband at the time and that wouldnt have helped anyone...haha

 

Key word: were.

He was my best friend, now he's more...

He's just like me, we get along great and have as good of a relationship as you and I ever did.

And that includes the decision to leave you.

Seriously, dude, does that really need decoding?

Meaning that she was never as happy with you as she is with David.

But she's not, is she? She's out in Colorado comforting David...

 

When did she say this? Because, in the email you posted, she acknowledged having grown up a lot. It's not uncommon for a person to realize how stupid above comment was after they grow up a bit...