about my ex-boyfriend. The one I was with before my hubby. Well I actually went back and forth between the two for a while (before I was married of course) And eventually got pregnant by my hubby so I kind of let that choose for me. I've never told my ex that I loved him or anything, but we have always had a strong connection, something I have never had with anyone before, not even my hubby. He's kind of like the dark mysterious weird, out-there type of person, and he is absolutely gorgeous. I think I took the safer road when I chose my hubby, and I love him more than anything, but every once in a while I have these WILD passionate dreams about my ex and it brings up so many feelings, and sometimes I just wonder.... I wonder if he thinks about me, or if he feels the same kind of "pull" towards me as I feel for him. I know I could never like call him up or anything, I would be to afraid I would do something I would regret. And that makes me feel HORRIBLE because I looove my hubby and I would never want to hurt him, but I just dont understand where these feelings are coming from. I keep telling myself it's just in my head. Like it's just because I didn't choose him, I will always wonder what would have happened if I did... But it just feels so, like, destined I guess. Like one day in the future we will be together again. It's so weird, I'm having a hard time describing it. But anyway, that's my confession.
When you say 'dream' do you mean daydream or the kind of dreams you get when you sleep? If it's the latter, interpret your dream.. dreams are basically manifestations of the subconscious mind. In english, that means that what you dream about is based on your innermost feelings and desires.. it's just that these feelings and desires don't usually come out because your conscious, practical mind suppresses them. In other words, you want to leave your husband and return to your ex, but you just don't know it.
When you say 'dream' do you mean daydream or the kind of dreams you get when you sleep? If it's the latter, interpret your dream.. dreams are basically manifestations of the subconscious mind. In english, that means that what you dream about is based on your innermost feelings and desires.. it's just that these feelings and desires don't usually come out because your conscious, practical mind suppresses them. In other words, you want to leave your husband and return to your ex, but you just don't know it.
are you me? i've had the same thing. my marriage is over now, and i keep expecting previous ex to suddenly just show up into my life. we had this amazing crazy, knew what each other were thinking even when we were thousands of km's apart kind of thing going on. it scared the hell out of me, i was in no way at all equipped to deal with that kind of intimacy and connection at that time in my life and like you chose the 'safe' path instead. i've had dreams about him for years. have you ever read richard bach's book _the bridge across forever_ ? read it and see what you think
Meh,I wish my ex was single because we'd be together in an instant. then again my relationship just failed so maybe it's the sleep deprivation talking. Dreams like that make life worth living. end.
No, I definately wasn't over him at the time, but you would think in 3 years I would be over him by now! It's just so weird, whenever I completely forget about him, he pops up in my life, either in a dream, or I run into him somewhere, and we just like, connect. It's like our eyes just meet and it's the whole butterflies in the stomach thing... I dont like it. Or do I? I do... but I dont... AAAH! Anyway, what makes things even weirder is after I had the dream the other night, one of my friends just happened to mention him yesterday and said he was moving away. It made me kind of relieved that he wont be in this area anymore, so I have less of a chance of running into him. I just feel guilty that I'm having these feelings or thoughts or anything, I would be upset if my hubby was having these thoughts about an ex girlfriend. How do I make them go away?
You can't just make them go away.. these thoughts reflect what you really want the most. Obviously it's not an easy situation to handle, but life is a bitch.. so you have to come to a decision and follow through with it, even though some consequences may be undesirable.
