First off i'd like to say hi to everybody on the board here, as this is my first post. Now to my question, this has been nagging at me for about 4 days now and i just can't get any rest or resolution on the matter by mulling it over in my own head any more so i figured i would ask and see. Recently my girlfriend and I got so caught up in the moment that we neglected to use a condom. I tried to pull out at the last minute but she was on top and didn't want to me to stop because she wanted to feel me cum inside her. My first question is, is this normal? I mean I can understand us getting caught up in the moment and forgetting to use a condom entirely, but it irks me that when i maintained some sense (though i admit not very much considering the whole situation) she wanted to throw caution to the wind. We have been together for nearly 2 years now so we are comfortable with eachother and i mean we've slipped up from time to time but i've never encountered this before. She does not want to go on birth control or mess with herself hormonally so we rely on condoms as the only method of B/C Anyway it's been a few days now and i've been feeling like a real idiot, as i should. She said it would probably be okay because it was not a "dangerous time" for her as it was on about day 8 or 9 of her cycle which is usually around 28 days she said; because of which, we didn't bother with the morning after pill. Not to mention the fact that she has heard horror stories from friends about how badly it screws up your system. If anybody can give me any insight here it would be greatly appreciated. We are young (21 and 22) and do NOT want to have a kid. Is it at all likely that she could/might get pregnant from this mishap? She says she just didn't know what came over her. I'm a little confused here i admit. I trust her entirely but....
It is possible that she could end up pregnant, but not likely. And for your sake, I hope not! Being young and having a kid when you aren't ready for one, isn't fun. Don't let yourselves get so caught up in the moment, next time that you don't use a condom, I guess...That's horrible advice. Just be careful.
Well, chances are she won't get pregnant, but then again, chances are chances, and you took one. Hopefully she'll be fine, and if she's only in her first 8 or 9 days, I wouldn't fret too much. Next time, just remember a condom.
Either carry condoms, or if she enjoys feeling your cum inside her, then maybe she should consider the pill! Your a bit young for the snip, which is the only other real answer.
thanks for all your replies, really helps set my mind at ease about the whole pregnancy thing, I feel a lot better about it after getting some other's opinions. However i'm still a little confused about her actions in the first place. Like i said we've been together for nearly 2 years now so i figure we know eachother pretty well so for her to want this all of a sudden... it's an odd situation for me because i've never had to really be the voice of reason in our sex-life... I guess i just can't fathom her sudden lack of common sense. Not that i'm less to blame really, but especially on something as important as that... I dont know I've suggested other forms of birth control to her a few times but i think she's just worried about messing with her hormones. And you're right, I am a bit young for the snip (not to mention scared to death the entire concept, yes yes i know such a small matter these days) Anyway, thanks a lot for your replies. Puts my mind a little more at ease on the whole thing as i said.
Hi spacegoat. Please allow me to jump in here. Firstly... per the issue of the birth control pills and "horror stories". Yes, one will encounter horror stories. Whether they be for birth control pills or vitamin C supplements, someone will always be there with a "don't take it" approach. However, what do these "horror stories" involve? Is it closer to "I got pregnant" or "I have a large, somewhat Carrot Top-shaped tumor growing out of my butt because of the pill" or as simple as, "I gained, like, 10 pounds while on the pill!" Because, in all honesty, most users of the birth control pill do not experience such dramatic changes. Yes, some weight gain *may* occur. And yes, taking the birth control pill can increase your chance of stroke and some other diseases... however... most "increase in risk" scenarios are particular to a specific demographic or age group. For example, if you're a smoker over the age of 35. However, does your girlfriend know of the benefits of the pill? Such as, a decrease in chance of ovarian cancer? A reduction in acne? Plus I know there are still other health benefits to taking the pill. There's lots of credible websites that have lists of them. Look it up, show them to your girlfriend. Secondly, "I guess i just can't fathom her sudden lack of common sense. Not that i'm less to blame really, but especially on something as important as that... " Have you perhaps considered the possibility that something might be up with your girlfriend other than a sudden lack of common sense? If you've been intimate for quite a while, as well as know how to use protection, adding to the fact that you've experienced a few "slip-ups", then it is fairly obvious here that she KNOWS to use a condom, and she KNOWS of the risk of not doing so! Therefore, she just may have done this on purpose. Maybe she, at the time of doing this, was feeling the need for attention, or the need for a debate, or the need to stir things up a little. Clearly, something is definitely going on here with her. I actually have a couple of friends who accidently got pregnant, (they were on the pill, but she was ill with vomiting and diarrhea which can result in an altering of the pill's effectiveness rate) had an abortion, and then she went off the pill without telling her boyfriend and they got pregnant again. Basically, she liked the attention he was giving to her when they went through the difficult time they had previously with the first pregnancy, and therefore decided, very selfishly and stupidly, to get pregnant again without thinking of the consequences. (Obviously this is an extreme situation, and this relationship--- not exactly a healthy, happy working one!) But things do happen, and really I would reccommend sitting down and having a chat with her, and just try to find out if anything has been bothering her lately. Good luck! Strawberry P.S. As for the risk factor, ovulation can occur in many different points in a women's monthly cycle. At the very beginning, middle, end, or even during a woman's period! This especially happens in young women or teenagers, because their bodies have not completely finished growing yet, and therefore everything will not be "Exact" the way it is "supposed" to be. ---Also, sperm can live for up to a week in a woman's vagina/uterus, so even if she WAS NOT ovulating at the time of the unprotected intercourse, she may still have a chance of getting pregnant if she has not ovulated.
There is another method of birth control........ Oral sex. Tell her that she will only get oral from you as a mild form of disciplin for her sudden loss of reasoning. That kind of punishment is usually fun.
SOME women get off on the idea of getting pregnant. it could be a hormonal thing at the time of sex, my wife has been that way, but she's on BC. I had a girlfriend once (who had her womb removed, and already had two kids prior) always fantisied about it. She would tell me over and over to make her pregant. In a way it was kind of a turn on b/c here is this woman who wants to have my child. But sad because she couldn't.
You came inside her without a condom, of course it's entirely possible. Tell her to go to the HD or take a pregnancy test, if you're at all worried or skeptical. Then tell her to get on SOME form of reliable birth control. There are always horror stories, but I guess being on hormones or some other form of birth control, besides condoms, is better than her getting pregnant and you all not wanting the kid.
You know, if she just doesn't want the hormones in her body, a doctor might fit her with a diaphragm or cervical cap. Like condoms, these are prone to user error (i.e., not using it b/c you are caught up in the moment), but you two could have the skin on skin experience that way. As for the hormones from the pill "messing" with your body, every woman responds to it differently. I took the pill for about 12 years of my life. I had some pretty bad experiences with it, but I have plenty of friends who didn't. I even have one friend who got sterilized but stayed on the pill because it kept her skin clear and made her generally feel better.
